Ive been crying and praying

I don't want to contact her.

What if she has a man? What if I become "one of those" creeps.

Will prayer help?

Forgive yourself.

You just have to repent to God, ask for His forgiveness. Then you must not treat people bad again. Pray for her, and move on.

At least you're man enough to admit that you were wrong and that you want the best for her. Ask for forgiveness of yourself. Your fretting over if she has forgiven you, while her heart and spirit may have been broken, she might have prayed that would you be forgiven.

If you truly regret hurting her, and you've asked the Lord to forgive you, then you are forgiven. Ask this in Jesus name and it will be done.

Hang in There, I am going thru same thing now. Prayer helps me even though at the moment it doesn't feel that way.

i feel you.

in fact, after telling my 'wife' and family that we ought to take a little holiday due to these things, my family thinks i've lost it and my 'wife' took the children and left.

now.. of all times.

all i have now is to beg of my Lord to ask my God to safeguard us.

theres nothing i can do but wait on my God.

i suggest you do the same.

i wish you a blessing

She will never ever forgive you ever. And most likely wants you dead in all your little heads.

Just hold her with love in your heart and mind.... The hardest part will be forgiving yourself.
Visualize her in front of you... Close your eyes and pour your heart out to her... Ask for her forgiveness.... She will feel this and think of you where ever she is!
Know that everything- YES EVERYTHING- happens for a reason!
Whatever has happened has got you to this point of honesty inside yourself. Forgive yourself. You are not a drop in the ocean my friend- you are the ocean in a drop!
The whole universe resides within you!
And WE ARE ALL CONNECTED! we are ONE!
I'm also without my truest love... I hurt him terribly- In doing so I hurt myself just as deeply....
The hardest part has been forgiving myself and allowing myself to reclaim my spirituality - for the longest time I did not feel worthy.

Please- you feel guilt, you know you wronged- but if you didn't then maybe you'd have never reached this point of honesty deep within you.
Open a fresh page and fill your own heart with love - let it overflow to those around you and send it through to her soul.

I honestly think that attempting to contact her may be a good thing... Even if she is with someone else... Sometimes all you need is true closure and to make peace.... Approach it like that and I'm sure you will find she is receptive to listening to your apology ... Maybe she needs it too... You just never know

Op, if you're a Christian look at Lord's prayer "forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". Do you forgive others? We need to make sure we're doing this.

What I get from your original post is that you're repentant and God has laid it upon your heart to seek forgiveness, this doesn't mean seek this person out as this may not be the right thing to do, so what we have to ask is what's best for them?

Remember, love is the fulfillment of the law, so we need to pray for God's will (not ours) be done on earth as it is in heaven. Ask God to search your heart, ask God to guide your actions. You'll know an answer is from God because it will be whatever is the most loving thing for the person who was hurt, this may include you feeling guilty for a season, the fact you feel guilt is a good thing, tough, but good.

I'll pray for this person and I'll pray for you as well.

Op, I hope you have this pain forever. I had some douche bag guy who claimed to be my friend pretty much destroy my high school memories by making up stories about me to other classmates on facebook. This game he played went on for years. He broke my heart and spirit at the time because I trusted him, and liked him a lot, but only has a friend. Now I am sick, and not sure if I will beat my ilness, and someday I hope he reads my obituary im our town paper and remembers how cruel he was to me for no reason, other than being a grown up bully, who seemed to get great pleasure out of making fin of me wih his hs friends. I never knw what it felt like to be so hated until I met him .

Maybe you could send her a letter? If you don't have her address, even writing a letter you will never send might help to relieve the burden you feel.

Most importantly, forgive yourself.

man up metro boy. you were an asshole so you need to contact her and appologize. stop being a coward. you reap what you sow......

he needs to grow up and man up. call her and appologize. better yet tell her in person. you coward....

you can wither and die with a broken spirit or you can get back up beat this illness and live a good live. the latter would be a great revenge for this peice of shit you speak of. Karma will take care of him you just take care of yourself

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I think this is worth reading, Q&A by Lou Baldin/Sleeper. Though I had to convert to a pdf form with mozilla add ons, because its not broken up between the questions and answers, but does when you pdf it.

We're connected to each other in a way, there are soul connections and we send out signals, thoughtwaves, like a cell phone ourselves. There are question and answers about family matters, friends, those in our lives.

Its best to say your sorry, or write a note and ask for forgiveness, not to take any of this with you to the other side.

But also, prayers do count, and are often answered. They make a difference in life, having those with love to pray for each other.

And speaking in your heart, in your prayer, and asking forgiveness from anyone, they hear as well.

Ask for Goodness/Love/God/Family to guide her, to give her problem solving abilities, and help her to be strong and help others, for abundance to flow through her to others. Ask for her to be nudged, awoken, guided and protected.

And if Christian, the above posts are good too.

I am a fighter, so I am focusing all my energy on staying strong, or as strong a I can be. What he will never know is the stress of dealing with the humiliation he caused me, made me even more sick, as I was already dealing with other stess as well (sick loved one). And stress will make any illness worse.

Amazing that a 45 year old guy still acts like 15 year old.

It'll be ok OP. Ask for forgiveness and pray that God will heal her of any suffering she's gone through as a result. We all have mistakes like this from the past that we regret.

Now that you have realized the depth of pain she has felt, and asked for forgiveness, please know your job is to pray for all the men in the world who are currently hurting women like this and their children.

My daughter is going through exactly this situation. The father of her two girls has treated her so badly, his actions seem demonic.

I've been begging for prayers for her from anyone who will pray. This man needs prayers for deliverance and a revelation of his actions like you have had. Please keep him in your prayers that he will experience this revelation and do what is right in God's eyes. His name is Vincente.

Thank you so very much! It's a miracle that there are men out in the world today like you!

YSIC....

OP....I've been there too. Had to let down a girl who I couldn't marry, but I said extra words that were hurtful. I could have said we should only be freinds. The poor girl has tried to get married 3 times since I broke up with her....and that was 12 years ago....sometimes in my heart I've said she's cursed as far as marriage goes.

Sometimes I think I'm such a heal for having broke up with her that way. It needed to be done but I said some horrible things...especially after I broke up with her to other people to make myself feel better about dumping her.

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The man who wrote "Amazing Grace" was a fomer slaver who transported negros from africa to america.

He saw the deplorable situation of the slaves in the hold of his ship and how many died in their own excrement.

God touched his heart and he repented...saw himself as part of the evil system.....

And more than that.....He saw that he could do nothing to save himself except to ask for the mercy of God.

God will give you peace although you will from time to time always feel the pain of the scars you dished out.

Main thing is you're heart is changed.
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Things in the world are changing and will get worse and worse, but remember God has a plan for you and I and everyone that calls on HIS name. It may not be physically or emotionally pleasant.......but He will use the soon coming Tribulation to get us ready for a NEW HEAVEN and a NEW EARTH where there will be no more suffering and death.

It will be over in due time.
Give yourself to prayer and to reading a good King James Version bible...and don't trust in Man. Man (/woman) will let you down because we all have fallen natures.

I would like you to contact him and explain what you felt from what he has done and I would like you to close that chapter of your life forever. It would be best if you did it in person. This will resolve this matter. you need to do this. don't shed another tear on this peice of trash for the rest of your life.

God forgives you before you ask. You however are the one who forgives you otherwise. God resides within you, you do not pray to a sky god for relief. Get about your personal work until YOU have resolved it. I assume she got over you, which was also her spiritual chore to do.

All of you ought to be going over your own transgressions such as OP has described and getting right with yourself. For you are the God that forgives you.

Man must learn to go over his daily transgressions AS they happen, rather than years and years later. If he did so, this would be a peaceful world already

And I suggest you be reading Walter Russell and learn something about God and stop this silly stuff. You are the only one who can make peace with yourself.

Last Edited by God Loves ALL on 11/16/2012 09:28 AM

More of your FALSE teachings.

Lisa this is just another wondrous example of how you don't know God. Jesus doesn't go around forgiving people, its an individual spiritual chore with the GOD WITHING. Have you learned nothing from the bible where it is actually true.

OP Must forgive himself. That is the Law. This law is taught in every religion, the individual work of the soul to grow his spirit. Jesus doesn't grow your spirit for you and he never taught the BS you expound.

Healing will come to OP only by his own resolution of it. Perhaps if he knows where this girl lives, a lovely card send apologizing might end it for him. If she cannot be contacted or should not contacted, OP would send a mental apology to her soul and her soul would receive of it.

OP needs to use this as a LEARNING experience into wisdom so he doesn't repeat the errors again.

One cannot learn to not repeat errors by running off the Jesus every time, it would matter to nothing if the lesson is not learned. Grow up false Christ.

Last Edited by God Loves ALL on 11/16/2012 09:36 AM

Your wife left you, because you suggested a holiday. Most people would love to take a break from their regular lives.

OP, I"ve been going through this sort of "life review" for the last 6 months or so.

I'm remembering people close to me, at the time, that I hurt deeply.

I'm remember all kinds of mistakes and things that I did that were wrong, and feeling remorse over it.

This is the way that God is showing us how we have sinned and allowing us to remember so that we can repent and ask forgiveness for it.

It's a learning process, a painful one, but it's necessary so that we can grow and be forgiven.

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More false teachings Candace.

Sounds what is making you sick.....Is your anger and hatred towards this person. You need to forgive him and yourself. You are continuing to punishing yourself.....Please stop.

well it was a panic bug out holiday i proposed.

she freaked and ran, she doesnt believe this is really it

i went in too aggressively, lack of faith, i panicked at her complete seeming lack of understanding the true levity of where we stand.

so an afterthought for the OP is, BE GENTLE.

if it falls on deaf ears then continue praying, in fact dont stop.

i should have been talking to my God rather than her.

im so sorry, and im sorry for you too OP.

i'm sorry for all of us