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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21363812  Canada11/16/2012 12:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hurt this one girl years ago, I was such a jerk to her I don't want to talk about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 I don't want her back, but I am so sorry for hurting her, I know I made her into a miserable bitter women. If the world is ending. Will God really answer my prayers? I am sorry for hurting her. I want her to make it through all of this and Its killing me that im not with her right now to keep her safe. I don't want her back. I want her to be ok. Im a grown man and looking back she wasn't bad it was me. She was so good to me and I took it all and threw it into the ground. Ive been praying alot since the whole Israel situation. I want her to be safe. I failed her but maybe God can protect her during these bad times ahead. I feel weak right now. I WANT HER TO BE OK. I LOVE HER WITH THE FRAGMENT OF GOODNESS I HAVE LEFT IN THIS MONSTROUS HEART OF MINE. I desire nothing more then to keep her safe. I failed as a man. Does anyone have loved ones they care about? Will prayer save these people? I am serious. I feel like bad things are coming soon. OP, your post touched me. If what you have written here is a true reflection of your heart, the thought being thought is out there; the written words are just a technicality, but a reminder to you that you have work to do within yourself. Two words "I'm sorry" are perhaps two of the largest words we have - the amount of healing within those words is enormous. Perhaps find a way to get those two words to her.... Seek your own forgiveness, and in doing so, identify what it is within yourself that you wish forgiveness for..... then own it (for you can only change that which you own), balance it, and change it - become more of the person you wish to be, a person who requires forgiveness less and less. Kismet |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27755618  United States11/16/2012 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hurt this one girl years ago, I was such a jerk to her I don't want to talk about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 I don't want her back, but I am so sorry for hurting her, I know I made her into a miserable bitter women. If the world is ending. Will God really.. Dealt/dealing with... Your at Fredonia NY.....Not far from me :) !! Where? :) |
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Blue Skies  User ID: 19168576 United States11/16/2012 01:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hurt this one girl years ago, I was such a jerk to her I don't want to talk about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 I don't want her back, but I am so sorry for hurting her, I know I made her into a miserable bitter women. If the world is ending. Will God really.. Dealt/dealing with... Your at Fredonia NY.....Not far from me :) !! Where? :) Hamburg NY :kitten on fence: |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27755618 United States11/16/2012 06:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Little Miss Sunshine User ID: 18836438 United States11/16/2012 07:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Op, if you're a Christian look at Lord's prayer "forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". Do you forgive others? We need to make sure we're doing this. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21978477 What I get from your original post is that you're repentant and God has laid it upon your heart to seek forgiveness, this doesn't mean seek this person out as this may not be the right thing to do, so what we have to ask is what's best for them? Remember, love is the fulfillment of the law, so we need to pray for God's will (not ours) be done on earth as it is in heaven. Ask God to search your heart, ask God to guide your actions. You'll know an answer is from God because it will be whatever is the most loving thing for the person who was hurt, this may include you feeling guilty for a season, the fact you feel guilt is a good thing, tough, but good. I'll pray for this person and I'll pray for you as well. This RIGHT HERE is absolute sound BIBLICAL ADVICE!!! You should listen to everyrhing that is beingsaid here. Jesus told us where any two or more are gathered together and agree as to touching any one thing in my name it shall be done. I am praying in agreement with this person and with you for her protection and know this..Jesus said when we confess our sin he casts it into the sea of forgetfulness and remembers it no more. It is thrown as far as rhe east is to the west. Once we confess we are not to dwell and think of these things anymore! So just thank the lord for it and give him all the oraise and all the glory! |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27202787 Australia11/16/2012 07:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hurt this one girl years ago, I was such a jerk to her I don't want to talk about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 I don't want her back, but I am so sorry for hurting her, I know I made her into a miserable bitter women. If the world is ending. Will God really answer my prayers? I am sorry for hurting her. I want her to make it through all of this and Its killing me that im not with her right now to keep her safe. I don't want her back. I want her to be ok. Im a grown man and looking back she wasn't bad it was me. She was so good to me and I took it all and threw it into the ground. Ive been praying alot since the whole Israel situation. I want her to be safe. I failed her but maybe God can protect her during these bad times ahead. I feel weak right now. I WANT HER TO BE OK. I LOVE HER WITH THE FRAGMENT OF GOODNESS I HAVE LEFT IN THIS MONSTROUS HEART OF MINE. I desire nothing more then to keep her safe. I failed as a man. Does anyone have loved ones they care about? Will prayer save these people? I am serious. I feel like bad things are coming soon. You have to ask her for forgiveness then forgive yourself and God will forgive you too. |
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| Ohwow! User ID: 16023386 United States11/16/2012 07:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19838784 United States11/16/2012 07:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to contact her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 What if she has a man? What if I become "one of those" creeps. Will prayer help? Prayer ALWAYS helps, please do believe. Please pray in love and expectation, please never pray in despair. I wish I could tell you how many of my prayers are answered! Please forgive yourself and also pray for the knowledge of how to do that if you do not know how. But this much is plain: You are not the same man that you were a year ago. (Even I can tell that just from reading your words.) So forgive the man that you were. And feel free to pray for the happiness and health of the ones that you love! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 4041317 United States11/17/2012 12:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Quoting: Ohwow! Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should Op is probably starting to get bad karma from being such a douche. The best thing that happened to me in my similiar situation of a guy I really cared about, despite the pain and humiliation I felt at the time, was I found out what he was really all about, which was basically nothing. He was a vaccuous, empty shell of a person. the hardest part for me was realizing I cared so deeply for someone who was so cruel. I had never felt such an attraction to a male friend that I wanted nothing but the best for him and wanted to be a part of his life. But I definitely learned to be more careful and not be so trusting with people until they prove they are worthy. in the end, I realize I am better off without him in my life and that God was probably protecting me from getting involved with such a discontented and malicious person. Emotions are never easy when you care so much about someone who hurts you so much for reasons you will never understand. Guys like Op deserve to feel like shit, especially when they've been so callous and destructive with another's heart |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1485413 United States11/17/2012 12:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hurt this one girl years ago, I was such a jerk to her I don't want to talk about it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 I don't want her back, but I am so sorry for hurting her, I know I made her into a miserable bitter women. If the world is ending. Will God really answer my prayers? I am sorry for hurting her. I want her to make it through all of this and Its killing me that im not with her right now to keep her safe. I don't want her back. I want her to be ok. Im a grown man and looking back she wasn't bad it was me. She was so good to me and I took it all and threw it into the ground. Ive been praying alot since the whole Israel situation. I want her to be safe. I failed her but maybe God can protect her during these bad times ahead. I feel weak right now. I WANT HER TO BE OK. I LOVE HER WITH THE FRAGMENT OF GOODNESS I HAVE LEFT IN THIS MONSTROUS HEART OF MINE. I desire nothing more then to keep her safe. I failed as a man. Does anyone have loved ones they care about? Will prayer save these people? I am serious. I feel like bad things are coming soon. Forgive yourself. You had no choice but to act the way you did -- choice is an illusion. You had to behave the way you did for a higher purpose. She'll be OK. Everything is a script. Believe it and you'll be free. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 4041317 United States11/17/2012 12:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to contact her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 What if she has a man? What if I become "one of those" creeps. Will prayer help? Prayer ALWAYS helps, please do believe. Please pray in love and expectation, please never pray in despair. I wish I could tell you how many of my prayers are answered! Please forgive yourself and also pray for the knowledge of how to do that if you do not know how. But this much is plain: You are not the same man that you were a year ago. (Even I can tell that just from reading your words.) So forgive the man that you were. And feel free to pray for the happiness and health of the ones that you love! Prayer definitely helps. It heals and builds strength. But you have to be truly repentant for it to work.... God knows what's in a person's heart.... That's why some people live in misery, they are only sorry for themselves, not the person they hurt... Big difference. |
| cmoG530 User ID: 27886451 United States11/17/2012 12:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | (KJV)Proverbs 3:5-7 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. [7] Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord , and depart from evil. Seek answers from Father, as what to do. Don't rely on yourself. 1 Timothy 3:16 KJV And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory. Isaiah 9:6 KJV For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. Mark 16:16 KJV He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned. Acts 2:38 KJV Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. Romans 8:6-9 KJV 6) For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7) Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. 8) So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. 9) But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. Matthew 15:8-9 KJV 8) This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. 9) But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. Acts 5:29 KJV Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men. "The biggest sign from God, to let us all know that man can never be God? Death." - Anonymous |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 24011342 United States11/17/2012 12:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Quoting: Ohwow! Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should Op is probably starting to get bad karma from being such a douche. The best thing that happened to me in my similiar situation of a guy I really cared about, despite the pain and humiliation I felt at the time, was I found out what he was really all about, which was basically nothing. He was a vaccuous, empty shell of a person. the hardest part for me was realizing I cared so deeply for someone who was so cruel. I had never felt such an attraction to a male friend that I wanted nothing but the best for him and wanted to be a part of his life. But I definitely learned to be more careful and not be so trusting with people until they prove they are worthy. in the end, I realize I am better off without him in my life and that God was probably protecting me from getting involved with such a discontented and malicious person. Emotions are never easy when you care so much about someone who hurts you so much for reasons you will never understand. Guys like Op deserve to feel like shit, especially when they've been so callous and destructive with another's heart The best advice I can give you is this: You will NEVER be able to fully trust humans...as well you should not fully trust humans. The only One you can truly trust is Jesus. What you can and will do is learn to appreciate your experiences with humans as little gifts from God. The bad experiences actually help you understand how much God loves you and yes, He does love you. Check out a book named "Prison to Praise" by Merlin Carothers. -Love and I hope the best for you - some guy you don't know on the Internet :-) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1911931 United States11/17/2012 12:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1911931 United States11/17/2012 12:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Quoting: Ohwow! Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should Op is probably starting to get bad karma from being such a douche. The best thing that happened to me in my similiar situation of a guy I really cared about, despite the pain and humiliation I felt at the time, was I found out what he was really all about, which was basically nothing. He was a vaccuous, empty shell of a person. the hardest part for me was realizing I cared so deeply for someone who was so cruel. I had never felt such an attraction to a male friend that I wanted nothing but the best for him and wanted to be a part of his life. But I definitely learned to be more careful and not be so trusting with people until they prove they are worthy. in the end, I realize I am better off without him in my life and that God was probably protecting me from getting involved with such a discontented and malicious person. Emotions are never easy when you care so much about someone who hurts you so much for reasons you will never understand. Guys like Op deserve to feel like shit, especially when they've been so callous and destructive with another's heart The best advice I can give you is this: You will NEVER be able to fully trust humans...as well you should not fully trust humans. The only One you can truly trust is Jesus. What you can and will do is learn to appreciate your experiences with humans as little gifts from God. The bad experiences actually help you understand how much God loves you and yes, He does love you. Check out a book named "Prison to Praise" by Merlin Carothers. -Love and I hope the best for you - some guy you don't know on the Internet :-) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1911931 United States11/17/2012 01:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | thank you, I will check out that book. You have no idea how much pain I experienced over the past few years, from both people I trusted and people that for some reason just hated me and wanted to make fun of me. Trusting people has become very hard for me. Btw, my id number changed,.but thanks for your reply. How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Quoting: Ohwow! Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should Op is probably starting to get bad karma from being such a douche. The best thing that happened to me in my similiar situation of a guy I really cared about, despite the pain and humiliation I felt at the time, was I found out what he was really all about, which was basically nothing. He was a vaccuous, empty shell of a person. the hardest part for me was realizing I cared so deeply for someone who was so cruel. I had never felt such an attraction to a male friend that I wanted nothing but the best for him and wanted to be a part of his life. But I definitely learned to be more careful and not be so trusting with people until they prove they are worthy. in the end, I realize I am better off without him in my life and that God was probably protecting me from getting involved with such a discontented and malicious person. Emotions are never easy when you care so much about someone who hurts you so much for reasons you will never understand. Guys like Op deserve to feel like shit, especially when they've been so callous and destructive with another's heart The best advice I can give you is this: You will NEVER be able to fully trust humans...as well you should not fully trust humans. The only One you can truly trust is Jesus. What you can and will do is learn to appreciate your experiences with humans as little gifts from God. The bad experiences actually help you understand how much God loves you and yes, He does love you. Check out a book named "Prison to Praise" by Merlin Carothers. -Love and I hope the best for you - some guy you don't know on the Internet :-) |
| seer User ID: 1529717 United States11/17/2012 01:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to contact her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27831348 What if she has a man? What if I become "one of those" creeps. Will prayer help? man up metro boy. you were an asshole so you need to contact her and appologize. stop being a coward. you reap what you sow...... that would be nice...... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 24011342 United States11/17/2012 01:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | thank you, I will check out that book. You have no idea how much pain I experienced over the past few years, from both people I trusted and people that for some reason just hated me and wanted to make fun of me. Trusting people has become very hard for me. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1911931 Btw, my id number changed,.but thanks for your reply. How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Quoting: Ohwow! Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should Op is probably starting to get bad karma from being such a douche. The best thing that happened to me in my similiar situation of a guy I really cared about, despite the pain and humiliation I felt at the time, was I found out what he was really all about, which was basically nothing. He was a vaccuous, empty shell of a person. the hardest part for me was realizing I cared so deeply for someone who was so cruel. I had never felt such an attraction to a male friend that I wanted nothing but the best for him and wanted to be a part of his life. But I definitely learned to be more careful and not be so trusting with people until they prove they are worthy. in the end, I realize I am better off without him in my life and that God was probably protecting me from getting involved with such a discontented and malicious person. Emotions are never easy when you care so much about someone who hurts you so much for reasons you will never understand. Guys like Op deserve to feel like shit, especially when they've been so callous and destructive with another's heart The best advice I can give you is this: You will NEVER be able to fully trust humans...as well you should not fully trust humans. The only One you can truly trust is Jesus. What you can and will do is learn to appreciate your experiences with humans as little gifts from God. The bad experiences actually help you understand how much God loves you and yes, He does love you. Check out a book named "Prison to Praise" by Merlin Carothers. -Love and I hope the best for you - some guy you don't know on the Internet :-) Thanks for responding! I did want to know that you had seen what I wrote! Hard to trust people...I know :-) That is why I gave you the advice. I went through a lot of "stuff" to understand that piece of information: God is the only one you can trust...want more advice...the "sick" thing...you can't even trust yourself...you can only trust Jesus. Yes, I know that is weird...but, a lot of the times we don't even know what is best for us...but, God does! God Bless and sleep well tonight! I am off to bed. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 7521533 United States11/17/2012 01:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Prayers do work OP. Ever suddenly felt good for no reason? Chances are someone is praying for you, or thinking good things about you. Pray for her well being and happiness everyday. If you want more, you could check facebook.....and if she's there send a PRIVATE message and tell her you're sorry, maybe ask forgiveness. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1911931 United States11/17/2012 01:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How far back in time did this happen? Why are you dwelling here? Can't you move forward with this? I suspect you know in your heart of hearts you kicked the best thing that ever happened to you to the curb, and now you are sorry, not for what you did to her, but what you did to yourself. Quoting: Ohwow! Move on, you lost this one by being a jerk. Maybe someday you will see you really feel sorry for yourself. I too, pray for her, that she moved on and up in life and left all the bad times behind and built a beautiful life for herself. Just as you should Op is probably starting to get bad karma from being such a douche. The best thing that happened to me in my similiar situation of a guy I really cared about, despite the pain and humiliation I felt at the time, was I found out what he was really all about, which was basically nothing. He was a vaccuous, empty shell of a person. the hardest part for me was realizing I cared so deeply for someone who was so cruel. I had never felt such an attraction to a male friend that I wanted nothing but the best for him and wanted to be a part of his life. But I definitely learned to be more careful and not be so trusting with people until they prove they are worthy. in the end, I realize I am better off without him in my life and that God was probably protecting me from getting involved with such a discontented and malicious person. Emotions are never easy when you care so much about someone who hurts you so much for reasons you will never understand. Guys like Op deserve to feel like shit, especially when they've been so callous and destructive with another's heart The best advice I can give you is this: You will NEVER be able to fully trust humans...as well you should not fully trust humans. The only One you can truly trust is Jesus. What you can and will do is learn to appreciate your experiences with humans as little gifts from God. The bad experiences actually help you understand how much God loves you and yes, He does love you. Check out a book named "Prison to Praise" by Merlin Carothers. -Love and I hope the best for you - some guy you don't know on the Internet :-) |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 9231012 United States11/17/2012 02:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry for you but it might take years before you get this off your chest, my advice is...don't rush it. Way back in 1975 I dumped a guy on the same day we were to go and buy my engagement ring, he wanted to become a long distance truck driver and I had already suffered through both of my parents working on the road and being gone. My mom had talked him into going to truckers school. No way was I going to do it and I had given him months of warnings about it that fell on deaf ears. On the day he came back to town from graduation he was in the shower at mom's and announced he was going to take me out to buy a ring that day. I said, "Um, no we are not." I left. Mom said he cried like a baby all night sleeping on her couch. Decades went by with me feeling like shit over not giving yet one more final attempt out of many to let him know why I backed out. I found him on facebook last year, we started chatting. He has done well, had 2 kids and a grand kid and had a fairly happy life, divorced and was teaching college classes from some extra training he had taken over the years. I finally took the time to apologize and I blamed it all on me and my ability to not want a husband on the road 20+ days out of the month only to leave again. He still loved me after all these decades. He passed away 3 months ago from health issues. I am so very glad I took the time to let the situation chill and go on with my life but also to take the time to go back, reconnect and explain everything. Give it some time, maybe even a few decades. Don't rush things. There is no hurry. Goodluck! |
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