Need some advice from married people about approaching a woman | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 22604218 United States 11/18/2012 03:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sounds like you might want to practice on other women first, I say this because you need to just be real with them, joke - treat them like a friend, but keep the sexual tension up if you can, touching, jokes to get smiles - where you both smile and make eye contact and that twinkle in the eye is MUTUAL, doing things together where both are engaged, hinting to future fun and giving her reason to keep you in her thoughts. I say you should practice with other women because it sounds like you really dig this girl and don't want to fuck things up. Girls are hard to understand, you can't totally be yourself when trying to swoon them - though at the same time, you can't be a fake either. Hell, OP.. I have no advice for you. Good luck! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 17119454 United States 11/18/2012 03:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sounds like you might want to practice on other women first, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22604218 I say this because you need to just be real with them, joke - treat them like a friend, but keep the sexual tension up if you can, touching, jokes to get smiles - where you both smile and make eye contact and that twinkle in the eye is MUTUAL, doing things together where both are engaged, hinting to future fun and giving her reason to keep you in her thoughts. I say you should practice with other women because it sounds like you really dig this girl and don't want to fuck things up. Girls are hard to understand, you can't totally be yourself when trying to swoon them - though at the same time, you can't be a fake either. Hell, OP.. I have no advice for you. Good luck! Indeed. Get a practice woman. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 28009359 Denmark 11/18/2012 04:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Since she is your brother's sister in law, you'll probably be at the same thanksgiving celebration. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28006209 If not, have your brother arrange it. Then after dinner, ask her to go for a walk with you. Then get married. Marriage... that is happening. I will never give up on this chick! Or maybe I will, I have pretty bad self-esteem. Women find that unattractive. I must get rid of my insecurity before I "make a move". But she will be my future wife, count on it! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1610510 United States 11/18/2012 04:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sounds like you might want to practice on other women first, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22604218 I say this because you need to just be real with them, joke - treat them like a friend, but keep the sexual tension up if you can, touching, jokes to get smiles - where you both smile and make eye contact and that twinkle in the eye is MUTUAL, doing things together where both are engaged, hinting to future fun and giving her reason to keep you in her thoughts. I say you should practice with other women because it sounds like you really dig this girl and don't want to fuck things up. Girls are hard to understand, you can't totally be yourself when trying to swoon them - though at the same time, you can't be a fake either. Hell, OP.. I have no advice for you. Good luck! Indeed. Get a practice woman. Yes. The waterproof type that inflates. . |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 331367 Austria 11/18/2012 04:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OMG .. RUN you fool. It is your DNA having found another DNA carrier emitting pheromones fitting. Nothing more. And there is a high chance at least 10% of all female population will fit too. That is ap. 300 million to chose from that you will actually really like (your hormon system will say so) and you can still do 80% of the rest while you will 10% of all women disgusting (your hormones will) People .. grow up and do not act like hormone powered robots .. or you will eff up your live. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 28009359 Denmark 11/18/2012 04:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So you're suggesting that I should die alone? That's a horrible way of living. I rather find the perfect woman to marry, a woman who I can trust with my life and a woman I can rely on and be there for whenever she needs it. You WILL die alone... anyway. Get it ? Nah, I will die in the hands of the woman of my dreams |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 28009359 Denmark 11/18/2012 05:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm not looking for a relationship based on sex if that's what you mean. Sex can wait until marriage and she's a very open minded person. She will understand. She's not the type of lady who's unfaithful and sleeps around. She's been married before but the marriage ended because her ex turned out to be a homosexual, lol. He told her this only months after the marriage. Really good job there a-hole! And she also has cancer although it can be treated with fairly good results. She's going through a lot in her life right now and it seems like she has no one else but her family to support her. I want to be there for her you know? She's a very special lady! |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 28009359 Denmark 11/18/2012 05:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Invite her for a cup of coffee........see what she says. Quoting: Lisa*Lisa Or, have a family barbeque and invite her too. Hi Lisa! Good to hear from you again! A barbeque might be a good idea. A few weeks ago when I was helping my brother renovating his kitchen she was also there helping out a bit. Later that day she went out to buy some food for us and asked me if I wanted to come with her. I said no... stupid me! I have no idea why the heck I said no! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1106916 United States 11/18/2012 05:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Invite her for a cup of coffee........see what she says. Quoting: Lisa*Lisa Or, have a family barbeque and invite her too. Hi Lisa! Good to hear from you again! A barbeque might be a good idea. A few weeks ago when I was helping my brother renovating his kitchen she was also there helping out a bit. Later that day she went out to buy some food for us and asked me if I wanted to come with her. I said no... stupid me! I have no idea why the heck I said no! That's ok, you panicked! LOL! Have a family dinner and invite her. That way you can spend some more time with her without making it obvious. Try and spend as much time with her as possible at the dinner, and then casually ask her if she would like to join you for coffee or a drink sometime. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 28009359 Denmark 11/18/2012 06:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Invite her for a cup of coffee........see what she says. Quoting: Lisa*Lisa Or, have a family barbeque and invite her too. Hi Lisa! Good to hear from you again! A barbeque might be a good idea. A few weeks ago when I was helping my brother renovating his kitchen she was also there helping out a bit. Later that day she went out to buy some food for us and asked me if I wanted to come with her. I said no... stupid me! I have no idea why the heck I said no! That's ok, you panicked! LOL! Have a family dinner and invite her. That way you can spend some more time with her without making it obvious. Try and spend as much time with her as possible at the dinner, and then casually ask her if she would like to join you for coffee or a drink sometime. I will... eventually :) She's a very special lady and I really really like her. It's not made up feelings here, I genuinly like her. I just love that look in her eyes, that spark. Gaaah, I think I'm going crazy over her! She's going through a lot in her life with her cancer. It's not the worst case of cancer but it can still be fatal. I'm praying to the Lord every day for her to be completely cured. |
Eagle # 1 User ID: 16389604 United States 11/18/2012 06:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP .... Could be she is a 'Mother figure' to you and ESPECIALLY attractive because of her self confidence AND older years, that you DON'T ! Is your Mother still alive. Have you ever 'withdrawn' from Mother love, so you can love another female ? Some of your repeated statements lead me to think you have NOT ! Look into Flax Seed Oil as a cure for her cancer. It has keep me alive from doctor diagnosed lung cancer for 20 plus years ! Besides keeping the one alive by NATURAL means, it could develop into a VERY strong bond between you both. Eagle |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 22604218 United States 11/18/2012 07:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | a family dinner is a good idea try to get her engaged in what you're doing ie, ask her to hold stuff for you even if it's not necessary, cut up vegetables, get stuff out of the fridge, etc then ask her if she wants to go for a walk, or if she wants to go with you for a drive to the store to get dessert for everyone etc |
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christian Suited up and Armored in Christ! User ID: 6038128 United States 11/18/2012 07:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So you're suggesting that I should die alone? That's a horrible way of living. I rather find the perfect woman to marry, a woman who I can trust with my life and a woman I can rely on and be there for whenever she needs it. What are you basing Perfection agaisnt? Marriage is not about Perfection Marriage is not about making yourself happy.. Marriage is not about what it can do for you... Marriage is about putting that other person's needs before your own Marriage is about loving that person when they are un-loveable.. WATCH FIREPROOG.. GOOD MOVIE ON MARRIAGE.. You can watch on Youtube.. Great Message here! [link to www.youtube.com] Susie For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.....Matthew 6:21 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: Ecclesiastes 3:1 |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 22892874 United States 11/18/2012 07:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | PS OP..I posted before I read the whole thread...You are a great man! Not many men would want to date someone who has been married before at your age and that she has cancer. My guess is when you said no about going with her to get some food she probably thought you were not interested. Just remember we all have our insecurities and she may be concerned about her issues as you are yours. I try to also remember with anyone in any circumstance...they put on their pants just like me...to help keep things in perspective. :-) Please keep me posted! :) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 28026218 Luxembourg 11/18/2012 07:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Google Pickup, learn about pickup, read the book THE GAME by neil strauss learn how to read body language set yourself a plan. approach 20 woman, with the direct method and 10 with the indirect method learn what mistakes you did analize continue approaching 20 other girls, get their numbers have sex with them ENJOY |