omg, I dont know what to do about my 100% negative Marine husband. Hes getting worse.....dm | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 23524705 11/19/2012 11:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived So you live in Florida, drive around with flat tires and can't cook. Your hubby is pointing out FACTS and you call him negative? Seriously... I lived in Ft lauderdale for three weeks once and it was three weeks too long. You don't DO anything about your husband. Marine or not, the fact is that you should be a faithful wife. If he is being so negative its probably because he is unhappy with you in some or many ways. Honestly he is being polite, I'm sure he probably wants to smack you and kick your ass to the curb sometimes. Seriously, your not meeting his expectations, and instead of just saying it, he is being critical, its a common response. If you love him and you want him to keep you, then you should think really carefully about how best you can make him happy. And for fucks sake the man is in the Marines, hes got all kinds of shit to deal with, including possibly shooting it out with some assholes in a shitty third world country for nothing, for a society that considers men like him disposable. WTF I hope this post is the a joke. No joke. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1593445 11/19/2012 11:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. You can't do anything about him, but you can get help for yourself. Find a professional to talk to. I prefer counselors with LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) after their name. They are practical, intelligent, and often have sliding fee scales. You can't help him unless you keep your own sanity and peace of mind. Good luck. |
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| Azarona User ID: 25436018 11/19/2012 11:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. He obviously does not believe the promise of GOD thru JESUS CHRIST of forgiveness. Ist He has to except that Christ will forgive all. He has to let go and let GOD. He has to forgive Himself for whatever is eating at Him. Get Him to go to some Spirit filled fellowship ASAP. IT can be in a neibors house or it can be in a big Cathedral. But ask GOD to show you where HE would that you go and HE will show you! Faith in GOD will guide you always! Love. |
| T Ceti H.C. Radnarg User ID: 27089841 11/19/2012 12:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...their not called jarheads for nothing...you should have married a navy man,lol...you could always go to the doctor,fake depression,get meds and then slip them into his food if he's unwilling to get help...but the poster whom said head everyday was a good idea,lmao...buy you some cherry throat numbing spray to make it easier on you,still lmao...dont forget the dildo show in sexy outfits for him also,roflmao... How unfortunate for some rulers when men,women,and children continue to think... Keep repeating the lies loud enough and long enough and just maybe the people will start to believe the lies again and good luck with that...finding your energy open until mars becomes raging aries... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27667491 11/19/2012 12:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | its not just marines, people from all walks of life can be like this few people are just naturally happy. life is generally shit for all of us to one degree or another, but you have to decide to either make the most of it, or live one long, bitter pity party it may be regular depression or the blues or whatever, but they may also be the type of person who HAS to find something to moan about, are in the habit of constantly reinforcing their own negative thoughts, and they will give zero thought as to how their constant negativity impacts on other family members youre pretty much fucked, and i speak from experience |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28078691 11/19/2012 12:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get him to a certified and OLD homeopath. Also, get him off of coffee - all caffeine (this is hard) Get him to take Rhodiola (herb) in the evenings Get him to eat WAY more vegetables and probably try a magnesium citrate supplement. His depression is caused by chronic mineral and adrenal depletion. |
| Leslie Zevo Commander and Beef User ID: 17090286 11/19/2012 12:39 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When was the last time you wrote ANYTHINg of value Toyman? I swear, you really are worthless. We're back to this? Didn't we just have a discussion about you moving away from your obsession with me and agreeing that you did indeed need to start moving away from it? I am starting to worry for you, friend. Last Edited by Baconhead on 11/19/2012 12:40 PM I am a son of Earth and starry sky. I am parched with thirst and am dying; but quickly grant me cold water from the Lake of Memory to drink. |
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| natasha77 (OP) User ID: 27998288 11/19/2012 12:48 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if this is a true story, and your not a troll. I would do this: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27129259 Find a wonderful Christian church, evangelical, bible believing, outreaching concerned church. I would go to church, if your not 'born again' I would ask the Lord to change my heart for Him. I would pray both silently and infront of my husband. I would curb my tongue, soften my tone, show concern and love and charity, for my husband, for my family, for my community and my church. I would spend hours reading the bible, turn from the tv, movies and news and not engage with them, but if your husband wants to talk about the 'news' listen politely and show that you care what he is talking about. But don't add to the fuel or the fire. Show him a better way to be. Be the way YOU want him to be. When he sees its not just a temporary 'thing', and that you have peace of mind, heart and soul, maybe he will become interested. He is not happy in his skin, in his life or with the path he has choosen. But people dont automatically figure it out or have the energy, faith, know how to get off 'that path'. The Lord will help you, he will first change you, and with adamant prayer and faithfulness, he will show your husband through you. It takes faith, it takes time and patiance. If you love your husband, you must first love God. Talk is cheap, action is what will give credance. Don't talk a lot about your change, just show him. Get involved in charity work, helping others, fill your time creatively, positively and with good intention fulfilling needs of people who can not fulfill their own. We can not change others. We can only change ourselves. And through dailey prayer, contact and intercession, can we ever hope to influence a change in those we love. Amen :D ![]() Im Catholic. There isn't one saint I have not prayed to. I beg God to please change him. I have talked to him pointing out that he has a lot to be greatful for. I have taken him to doctors. He's been diagnosed with ptsd, of course, he won't take any meds. There he is, on his recliner sleeping with the tv on. Well, I'm spending the day in bed. He hasn't even looked at me today. Sex? Lol. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but aren't you supposed to have physical contact while doing it? Lol He wants to watch me "play"... Then nothing. ??????? He's gotten very bad and I'm going to tell his doctor. I'm so willing to work with him, a little pleasant conversation, anything would make me happy. This is the man I love and have always loved. What a mess. I don't know what to do. IF YOU CAN'T CONVINCE THEM... CONFUSE THEM- Harry S. Truman |
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| CtYankee User ID: 10645599 11/19/2012 01:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. I have a wife that would make him look like mr happy face CtYankee "If at first you don't succeed, erase all evidence that you tried." -anonymous -Spouting a fountain of nonsense since 1972- Never met anyone important enough to lie to..... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26329297 11/19/2012 01:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if this is a true story, and your not a troll. I would do this: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27129259 Find a wonderful Christian church, evangelical, bible believing, outreaching concerned church. I would go to church, if your not 'born again' I would ask the Lord to change my heart for Him. I would pray both silently and infront of my husband. I would curb my tongue, soften my tone, show concern and love and charity, for my husband, for my family, for my community and my church. I would spend hours reading the bible, turn from the tv, movies and news and not engage with them, but if your husband wants to talk about the 'news' listen politely and show that you care what he is talking about. But don't add to the fuel or the fire. Show him a better way to be. Be the way YOU want him to be. When he sees its not just a temporary 'thing', and that you have peace of mind, heart and soul, maybe he will become interested. He is not happy in his skin, in his life or with the path he has choosen. But people dont automatically figure it out or have the energy, faith, know how to get off 'that path'. The Lord will help you, he will first change you, and with adamant prayer and faithfulness, he will show your husband through you. It takes faith, it takes time and patiance. If you love your husband, you must first love God. Talk is cheap, action is what will give credance. Don't talk a lot about your change, just show him. Get involved in charity work, helping others, fill your time creatively, positively and with good intention fulfilling needs of people who can not fulfill their own. We can not change others. We can only change ourselves. And through dailey prayer, contact and intercession, can we ever hope to influence a change in those we love. Amen :D ![]() Im Catholic. There isn't one saint I have not prayed to. I beg God to please change him. I have talked to him pointing out that he has a lot to be greatful for. I have taken him to doctors. He's been diagnosed with ptsd, of course, he won't take any meds. There he is, on his recliner sleeping with the tv on. Well, I'm spending the day in bed. He hasn't even looked at me today. Sex? Lol. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but aren't you supposed to have physical contact while doing it? Lol He wants to watch me "play"... Then nothing. ??????? He's gotten very bad and I'm going to tell his doctor. I'm so willing to work with him, a little pleasant conversation, anything would make me happy. This is the man I love and have always loved. What a mess. I don't know what to do. Sounds like you think of him as your "thing" not a human being.You say you love him, as what? A novelty? Or another human being? Sounds like you have the problems here perhaps you should go see a shrink? |
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| daslobo User ID: 9378898 11/19/2012 01:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sounds like you had the opposite problem that I had. My wife had a pretty traumatic childhood and was very negative. Being a man I would hear a problem and immediately go into problem solving mode. After a few years I finally understood that she wanted me to listen for awhile first. I began to try to help her emotionally rather than practically. Your husband might not want to ask for help but might really appreciate it. Try to make a list of the things he complains about most and fix a few. Sometimes a helping hand can take the pressure off when there seems to be so many things to do. Marriage that are worth it are hard work. Be a partner and take on some of his burdens. It might not pay off immediately but in the long run he will appreciate you and respect you more. Once you've built that trust and respect and gratitude, you can start to ask for things back. Ask him to talk to like a partner and try to solve problems together because it feels better to you to help rather than just be a complaints department. Good luck, progress is possible. Much love. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27881645 11/19/2012 01:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Three pages of bullshit advice and not one word on the mental healing power of cannabis... Godlike my ass. ![]() [link to www.420magazine.com] |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 23766809 11/19/2012 01:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if this is a true story, and your not a troll. I would do this: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27129259 Find a wonderful Christian church, evangelical, bible believing, outreaching concerned church. I would go to church, if your not 'born again' I would ask the Lord to change my heart for Him. I would pray both silently and infront of my husband. I would curb my tongue, soften my tone, show concern and love and charity, for my husband, for my family, for my community and my church. I would spend hours reading the bible, turn from the tv, movies and news and not engage with them, but if your husband wants to talk about the 'news' listen politely and show that you care what he is talking about. But don't add to the fuel or the fire. Show him a better way to be. Be the way YOU want him to be. When he sees its not just a temporary 'thing', and that you have peace of mind, heart and soul, maybe he will become interested. He is not happy in his skin, in his life or with the path he has choosen. But people dont automatically figure it out or have the energy, faith, know how to get off 'that path'. The Lord will help you, he will first change you, and with adamant prayer and faithfulness, he will show your husband through you. It takes faith, it takes time and patiance. If you love your husband, you must first love God. Talk is cheap, action is what will give credance. Don't talk a lot about your change, just show him. Get involved in charity work, helping others, fill your time creatively, positively and with good intention fulfilling needs of people who can not fulfill their own. We can not change others. We can only change ourselves. And through dailey prayer, contact and intercession, can we ever hope to influence a change in those we love. Amen :D ![]() Im Catholic. There isn't one saint I have not prayed to. I beg God to please change him. I have talked to him pointing out that he has a lot to be greatful for. I have taken him to doctors. He's been diagnosed with ptsd, of course, he won't take any meds. There he is, on his recliner sleeping with the tv on. Well, I'm spending the day in bed. He hasn't even looked at me today. Sex? Lol. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but aren't you supposed to have physical contact while doing it? Lol He wants to watch me "play"... Then nothing. ??????? He's gotten very bad and I'm going to tell his doctor. I'm so willing to work with him, a little pleasant conversation, anything would make me happy. This is the man I love and have always loved. What a mess. I don't know what to do. You want some real advise... just be direct with him. Tell him he's making you miserable. Get his shit together or you're gone. Besides, he's supposed to be a Marine. Marines are supposed to be tough and not complain about all the things you listed. He needs to man up. Funny thing is, Marines always claim to be ubber badasses, but some of the biggest douchebags I've met were Marines. WTF? Maybe you need to meet an Army grunt. |
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| shenandoah User ID: 2636202 11/19/2012 01:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That's what the military does to men; especially the Marines, they're the worst. They break their spirits, so they can have complete control over their minds and bodies. They turn them into soul-less machines. He's been brainwashed. |
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| shenandoah User ID: 2636202 11/19/2012 01:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That's what the military does to men; especially the Marines, they're the worst. They break their spirits, so they can have complete control over their minds and bodies. They turn them into soul-less machines. He's been brainwashed. Quoting: shenandoah How many years do you have in? Five, with a Marine. |
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