omg, I dont know what to do about my 100% negative Marine husband. Hes getting worse.....dm | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27666306 United Kingdom 11/19/2012 08:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if this is a true story, and your not a troll. I would do this: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27129259 Find a wonderful Christian church, evangelical, bible believing, outreaching concerned church. I would go to church, if your not 'born again' I would ask the Lord to change my heart for Him. I would pray both silently and infront of my husband. I would curb my tongue, soften my tone, show concern and love and charity, for my husband, for my family, for my community and my church. I would spend hours reading the bible, turn from the tv, movies and news and not engage with them, but if your husband wants to talk about the 'news' listen politely and show that you care what he is talking about. But don't add to the fuel or the fire. Show him a better way to be. Be the way YOU want him to be. When he sees its not just a temporary 'thing', and that you have peace of mind, heart and soul, maybe he will become interested. He is not happy in his skin, in his life or with the path he has choosen. But people dont automatically figure it out or have the energy, faith, know how to get off 'that path'. The Lord will help you, he will first change you, and with adamant prayer and faithfulness, he will show your husband through you. It takes faith, it takes time and patiance. If you love your husband, you must first love God. Talk is cheap, action is what will give credance. Don't talk a lot about your change, just show him. Get involved in charity work, helping others, fill your time creatively, positively and with good intention fulfilling needs of people who can not fulfill their own. We can not change others. We can only change ourselves. And through dailey prayer, contact and intercession, can we ever hope to influence a change in those we love. Wholly Fuck!!! Unicorns, Rainbows and Mystical Fairies. OP, Do Not do this!!! LMAO LMAO LMAO LMAO |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 548776 Germany 11/19/2012 08:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He is covering up some sort of fears. It comes out in the traits you described. He likely doesn't even realize what his fears are. He has been conditioned with all that macho marine crap, and doesn't have a way he thinks is manly to express his fears, so he lashes out in other ways, as you describe. I'm a vet, not some military basher, before anyone decides to flame me. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 28067315 United States 11/19/2012 08:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am a Marine wife, too (retired). First off, there are some wonderful Marine families and marriages out there. Hang around with them so that he sees good behavior modeled in front of him. He will eventually see that his negativity is not neccesary and may be holding him back in life. I am of the old school and believe that you should support your husband 100%, although you may have to get YOUR emotional support from others (Bible, trusted family, etc.). Given the up tempo life that Marine families go through, I am sure that he is under a lot of stress. I think that it is particularly telling that he doesn't want anyone over Thanksgiving. Surely you know by now that our lives are not like other lives and our Marine Corps. burdens are not like other family burdens. It sounds like he really needs to unwind for a day with no responsibilities. I would honor that and make it the most relaxing day possible for him. Good luck and many blessings to you. A Marine wife of 27 years |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 23524705 United States 11/19/2012 08:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived So you live in Florida, drive around with flat tires and can't cook. Your hubby is pointing out FACTS and you call him negative? Seriously... I lived in Ft lauderdale for three weeks once and it was three weeks too long. You don't DO anything about your husband. Marine or not, the fact is that you should be a faithful wife. If he is being so negative its probably because he is unhappy with you in some or many ways. Honestly he is being polite, I'm sure he probably wants to smack you and kick your ass to the curb sometimes. Seriously, your not meeting his expectations, and instead of just saying it, he is being critical, its a common response. If you love him and you want him to keep you, then you should think really carefully about how best you can make him happy. And for fucks sake the man is in the Marines, hes got all kinds of shit to deal with, including possibly shooting it out with some assholes in a shitty third world country for nothing, for a society that considers men like him disposable. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 4808800 United States 11/19/2012 08:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. He needs to go to counseling you already know this. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 4808800 United States 11/19/2012 08:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived So you live in Florida, drive around with flat tires and can't cook. Your hubby is pointing out FACTS and you call him negative? Seriously... I lived in Ft lauderdale for three weeks once and it was three weeks too long. You don't DO anything about your husband. Marine or not, the fact is that you should be a faithful wife. If he is being so negative its probably because he is unhappy with you in some or many ways. Honestly he is being polite, I'm sure he probably wants to smack you and kick your ass to the curb sometimes. Seriously, your not meeting his expectations, and instead of just saying it, he is being critical, its a common response. If you love him and you want him to keep you, then you should think really carefully about how best you can make him happy. And for fucks sake the man is in the Marines, hes got all kinds of shit to deal with, including possibly shooting it out with some assholes in a shitty third world country for nothing, for a society that considers men like him disposable. WTF I hope this post is the a joke. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 28067315 United States 11/19/2012 08:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla...ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. BTW... The bla, bla, bla, part shows YOUR disrespect for your husband right there. Have you considered that you may be contributing to the problem? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 25470949 United States 11/19/2012 08:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm on his team... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23948538 Bills are a pain in my fucking dick. Truck tires do need air...so fucking stupid! Those steaks you bought DID suck, do some fucking research next time. Florida is a fucking hell hole, like most of this country. His Boss, Eric, is a known fucking degenerate asshole. FUCK having people over for Thanksgiving...nobody touches my feast. What you are describing is typical manly man behavior, there's nothing wrong with your husband. Now make me a fucking sandwich and shut your fucking mouth. I love you. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 636900 United States 11/19/2012 08:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. let me guess-- he busts his ass and you do shit all day.. whiney biatch |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 22903086 United States 11/19/2012 08:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | get used to it militarty wives..they are pumped full of vaccinations and then thrown into a third world country, surrounded by male testerone soldiers, who in secret are scared shitless.. then they come home, either working in a boring ass matrix or sitting at home because they cannot find a job..understood...but most join because of this reason, they cant hack it so join the military... yes they protect our country, atleast I think they do, maybe they just really are puppets on a huge string, thrown into a war zone... I would be one pissed off mother fucker too... |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 22903086 United States 11/19/2012 09:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | oh yes, the vaccinations are the start of the whole mental problems....throw in the stress of third world country male dominated war zone...ship them back home, after a prolonged period of isanity, basically swinging their peckers in the desert with guns...throw them back into reality, or the matrix...BIG big recipe for disaster..... |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 26456664 United States 11/19/2012 09:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You men dont understand that you get bjs when you are NICE, not negative assholes. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1906403 i was once offered a bj at the end of every day i could go without a cigarette. well i didnt even make it one day ever without a cigarette. now that im not with that girl anymore, i dont smoke. go figure. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26456664 United States 11/19/2012 09:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You men dont understand that you get bjs when you are NICE, not negative assholes. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1906403 i was once offered a bj at the end of every day i could go without a cigarette. well i didnt even make it one day ever without a cigarette. now that im not with that girl anymore, i dont smoke. go figure. seriously go figure that out. break up with the girl/// no need to kill myself with ciggies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOLOLOL |
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samanthasunflower User ID: 14930415 United States 11/19/2012 09:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This reminds me of my father, he was never deployed anywhere, but I can't stand it when he starts the woe-is-me train. From one subject to another, he keeps going on and on and on. He usually starts with something that just happened or that he just read about, and then works his way through every slight in his life. Sometimes going back to complain`about things that happened when he was 6. He's 70!!!! This isn't new, it's just how he is. Complaining about his complaining or asking him to stop doesn't help. The only thing that works is to leave him alone for an hour. He's an emotional vampire and seems to live on making others suffer through his complaints. But walk away for an hour and then come back, and he's broken the loop and can be a nice person again. If I didn't walk away and stayed, he would literally complain the entire day. (My idea of Hell is having to drive him somewhere far away, and have him start the woe-is-me train when I drive out the driveway. ) Everyone needs to be able to complain a little. But if you husband hitches the woe-is-me train up, then go find something to do far away from him. You can suggesting help or talking to religious leader, but it's up to him to go. When he starts, I'm betting your blood pressure goes through the roof. Remember, you can't help him if your dead. Go for a walk or drive and then come back in an hour. It really helps. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 28008747 United States 11/19/2012 09:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. I have 6 Combat tours, and they effect everyone differently. Me, I have PTSD thats triggered by noises, but not too bad. Other than that I stay very happy, positive and motivated all day & night long. Is your Marine a Combat Veteran too? If not then most likely he is severely depressed, and we all know what depressed people do, they come in and out of depression very regularly for life. If your husbad is not a Combat Veteran, it might be time for "YOU", ..... "Make that Move". I can see that your 6 combat tours have turned you into a happy positive motivated jerk. She should start by paying the bills and getting the tires pumped up. Take some load off the guy and see if the mood improves. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 5141990 United States 11/19/2012 09:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 I can no longer stand it, nor make excuses, nor pretend it isn't there. No one has seen anything like it. Everything is bad, wrong. The minute he opens his mouth, Got to pay this bill The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived His boss is an ass I don't want anyone over Thanksgiving Bla bla bla bla... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IS POSITIVE. HOW CAN PEOPLE LIVE INDIDE THEIR SKINS LIKE THAT ???????? I can't take it any more. He is suffering from Depression. Get him to a doctor. This^^^ |
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Ozark User ID: 1145827 United States 11/19/2012 10:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | [link to www.fastereft.com] for you OP for your Marine: [link to www.stressproject.org] Good luck, these really do work! Favorite quote or Haiku, Nikos Kazantzakis " I said to the Almond tree, "Sister, speak to me of God..." And the Almond tree blossomed... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 23524705 United States 11/19/2012 11:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Negativity from morning till night. Quoting: natasha77 The truck tire needs air Those steaks you bought suck I hate Florida(course, hes hated everywhere hes lived So you live in Florida, drive around with flat tires and can't cook. Your hubby is pointing out FACTS and you call him negative? Seriously... I lived in Ft lauderdale for three weeks once and it was three weeks too long. You don't DO anything about your husband. Marine or not, the fact is that you should be a faithful wife. If he is being so negative its probably because he is unhappy with you in some or many ways. Honestly he is being polite, I'm sure he probably wants to smack you and kick your ass to the curb sometimes. Seriously, your not meeting his expectations, and instead of just saying it, he is being critical, its a common response. If you love him and you want him to keep you, then you should think really carefully about how best you can make him happy. And for fucks sake the man is in the Marines, hes got all kinds of shit to deal with, including possibly shooting it out with some assholes in a shitty third world country for nothing, for a society that considers men like him disposable. WTF I hope this post is the a joke. No joke. |