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How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?

 
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you still have to socialize to make all this work. It's not enough to just ignore them unless you're good looking.
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
Just make a lot of grunting sounds, dont give a fuck about anything but yourself, kill animals for sport, drive really fast and out of control, run over as many animals in the process as you can, always vote republican, never give a shit about anyone but your own economic class and your own race and even then fuck people over to climb the ladder. Degrade women and make them feel less than human. Be as racist as you can. Start fights with others over virtually nothing. Always be petty and shallow and fake and always into image. Never care about nature and do as much polluting as you can. And beat up and bully sensitive people.

That about covers it.
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Dude..he wants to be BAD..NOT to become president.
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woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.
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Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.
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People give the whole supposed bad boy allure too much credit. Yesterday I was at a bar in a heavily inebriated state (having been drinking since noon) and a girl asked me if I was alright to which I responded with something along the lines of 'Mind your own f*cking business, you ugly c*nt.' Nothing came of it.
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lmao
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Just make a lot of grunting sounds, dont give a fuck about anything but yourself, kill animals for sport, drive really fast and out of control, run over as many animals in the process as you can, always vote republican, never give a shit about anyone but your own economic class and your own race and even then fuck people over to climb the ladder. Degrade women and make them feel less than human. Be as racist as you can. Start fights with others over virtually nothing. Always be petty and shallow and fake and always into image. Never care about nature and do as much polluting as you can. And beat up and bully sensitive people.

That about covers it.
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Dude..he wants to be BAD..NOT to become president.
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LOL - that was priceless! There are some good ideas there though.
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woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.
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Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.
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That's cool, hope she's worth it. Practice those keys and get in a band. It's great for meeting people and travelling to new places
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
You: I'm not trying to go back to prison!
Her: What were you in prison for?
You: (Growl) I don't want to talk about it!

If you've ever been in jail, even for hitchhiking, or just to the courthouse for a traffic ticket, just say : I thought I was still on parole!- if she finds out you lied.
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Youre better off listening to my advice than to become a fucking musician. The hell is wrong with you guys LOL
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I'm sick and tired of wasting time, money, and effort trying to get pretty girls in the sack. I'd much rather just have one waiting on me, nurturing me, feeding me and fucking me.

It seems that some guys get that without trying and I need to learn how. I'm damn angry at all the time I wasted, and I blame it both on girls giving mixed signals and my failure to read them and be whatever I need to be.

I want to be as bad as necessary, but I'd like to avoid fistfights and jail. Just bad enough to hook the girls with minimal effort and keep them fucking me. And I don't want the loser "bad boy that's really nice" approach. It doesn't seem to work.
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I basically do what I high lighted above for my hubby. I am a devoted wife and have the luxury of staying home, he is my life and I do everything and anything for him.

you need the following:

- find a girl you like, become friends, best friends... then...

- honesty - always be honest, even if she pissed you off, tell her, she can take it. Never keep secrets, secrets kill relationships.

- sense of humor - make her laugh (and not with your penis)

- take care of her. yes. I said take care of her; emotionally, physically and spiritually by teaching her, in other words, be the man of the house and lead, pay for everything like a gentleman. Don't live beyond your means and go broke, but always try to give her the sun, the moon and the stars.

- find a girl who has had very few lovers and is pure in heart, mind and soul(virgins are probably scarce), the more lovers your mate has, the more bad I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST and negative energy they potentially will have and potentially infect you with their bad vibes.

- make love to her right (ideally after marriage), some nights slow, other nights make it saucy and have fun, role play sometimes, it makes things interesting.

- Once in a while take her shopping. Not all the time, just surprise her every now and then. Its like reverse retail psychology, if she associates shopping with your reltionship being happy and healthy, she will not shop when she is depressed.

- Learn new hobbies together.

- No need to be a bad ass or treat any woman bad. If you are just true and honest with a girl as you would be a guy friend that you like hanging out with, she will feel like your 'equal' even though you are making all the calls in the relationship anlooking out for her best interests.

- Women, no matter how successful or independent, deep down inside want to be taken care, protected and feel safe with a guy. If you can give her those simple things, she will be putty in your hands.

- most important thing of all is the offer of your friendship.

- Love is friendship set on fire.

- When all else fails above, you need a fat wallet and a big c*ck.

tomato
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
thats easy go to the gym and become a absolute monster just workout all day every day no days off days off are for sissies.

real men work all day 7 days a week hard work

in the field buildin muscle boy
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
Who wants some sexy fuckhole anyways? I mean yea .. its def a fun time bangin out some sexy slut but honestly american women are all disloyal materialistic whores who want everything done for them bro.....


If ya wanna get laid it'll cost ya bout the same but go someplace with nice upper crust hookers . drop a grand for a weekend and a hotel room and by the time monday hits youll be dying to get away from her annoying whiny voice.
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woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24470597


Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.
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That's cool, hope she's worth it. Practice those keys and get in a band. It's great for meeting people and travelling to new places
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24470597


OP, you sound very patient. It sounds like she may need some counseling. I can tell you for most happy couples sex only gets better as you grow older together, especially if you stay fit and take care of yourselves physically and because of the trust and bonding you develop with time. I do things now I had no idea existed when we first got married, its exciting. And I love it when he comes to me asking to try something new, its exciting for me that he wants to keep exploring me in that way of pleasing me. I try to be spontaneous and exciting with him as well. Sure people get dry spells now and then do to life, stress, work, etc. but if she is telling you no more sex, that is something serious that she might be dealing with. Is she okay physically? does anything hurt during sex? she may be afraid to tell anyone. just some thoughts.
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I'm sick and tired of wasting time, money, and effort trying to get pretty girls in the sack. I'd much rather just have one waiting on me, nurturing me, feeding me and fucking me.

It seems that some guys get that without trying and I need to learn how. I'm damn angry at all the time I wasted, and I blame it both on girls giving mixed signals and my failure to read them and be whatever I need to be.

I want to be as bad as necessary, but I'd like to avoid fistfights and jail. Just bad enough to hook the girls with minimal effort and keep them fucking me. And I don't want the loser "bad boy that's really nice" approach. It doesn't seem to work.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


I basically do what I high lighted above for my hubby. I am a devoted wife and have the luxury of staying home, he is my life and I do everything and anything for him.

you need the following:

- find a girl you like, become friends, best friends... then...

- honesty - always be honest, even if she pissed you off, tell her, she can take it. Never keep secrets, secrets kill relationships.

- sense of humor - make her laugh (and not with your penis)

- take care of her. yes. I said take care of her; emotionally, physically and spiritually by teaching her, in other words, be the man of the house and lead, pay for everything like a gentleman. Don't live beyond your means and go broke, but always try to give her the sun, the moon and the stars.

- find a girl who has had very few lovers and is pure in heart, mind and soul(virgins are probably scarce), the more lovers your mate has, the more bad I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST and negative energy they potentially will have and potentially infect you with their bad vibes.

- make love to her right (ideally after marriage), some nights slow, other nights make it saucy and have fun, role play sometimes, it makes things interesting.

- Once in a while take her shopping. Not all the time, just surprise her every now and then. Its like reverse retail psychology, if she associates shopping with your reltionship being happy and healthy, she will not shop when she is depressed.

- Learn new hobbies together.

- No need to be a bad ass or treat any woman bad. If you are just true and honest with a girl as you would be a guy friend that you like hanging out with, she will feel like your 'equal' even though you are making all the calls in the relationship anlooking out for her best interests.

- Women, no matter how successful or independent, deep down inside want to be taken care, protected and feel safe with a guy. If you can give her those simple things, she will be putty in your hands.

- most important thing of all is the offer of your friendship.

- Love is friendship set on fire.

- When all else fails above, you need a fat wallet and a big c*ck.

tomato
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
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That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
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woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24470597


Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.
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of all the things some guys do, video games is the biggest turn off imho. If you have managed to stay away from those mind controlling sedatives, you are one of the lucky ones.

When my hubby told me he had never played a video game, I knew we'd be seeing more of each other. Real women generally don't like to compete with an Xbox or japanese anime type of stuff, its just very juvenile once you are over age 25.
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
Or

You could try saving puppies instead of trying to not be true to yourself just to have sex.

Seriously, be yourself, do something for someone else.

The right girl will appreciate you for that.

Being a bad boy attracts bad girls. And that is just a waste of your energy.

Good luck and think about what I said.
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I basically do what I high lighted above for my hubby. I am a devoted wife and have the luxury of staying home, he is my life and I do everything and anything for him.

you need the following:

- find a girl you like, become friends, best friends... then...

- honesty - always be honest, even if she pissed you off, tell her, she can take it. Never keep secrets, secrets kill relationships.

- sense of humor - make her laugh (and not with your penis)

- take care of her. yes. I said take care of her; emotionally, physically and spiritually by teaching her, in other words, be the man of the house and lead, pay for everything like a gentleman. Don't live beyond your means and go broke, but always try to give her the sun, the moon and the stars.

- find a girl who has had very few lovers and is pure in heart, mind and soul(virgins are probably scarce), the more lovers your mate has, the more bad I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST and negative energy they potentially will have and potentially infect you with their bad vibes.

- make love to her right (ideally after marriage), some nights slow, other nights make it saucy and have fun, role play sometimes, it makes things interesting.

- Once in a while take her shopping. Not all the time, just surprise her every now and then. Its like reverse retail psychology, if she associates shopping with your reltionship being happy and healthy, she will not shop when she is depressed.

- Learn new hobbies together.

- No need to be a bad ass or treat any woman bad. If you are just true and honest with a girl as you would be a guy friend that you like hanging out with, she will feel like your 'equal' even though you are making all the calls in the relationship anlooking out for her best interests.

- Women, no matter how successful or independent, deep down inside want to be taken care, protected and feel safe with a guy. If you can give her those simple things, she will be putty in your hands.

- most important thing of all is the offer of your friendship.

- Love is friendship set on fire.

- When all else fails above, you need a fat wallet and a big c*ck.

tomato
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
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Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.
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I basically do what I high lighted above for my hubby. I am a devoted wife and have the luxury of staying home, he is my life and I do everything and anything for him.

you need the following:

- find a girl you like, become friends, best friends... then...

- honesty - always be honest, even if she pissed you off, tell her, she can take it. Never keep secrets, secrets kill relationships.

- sense of humor - make her laugh (and not with your penis)

- take care of her. yes. I said take care of her; emotionally, physically and spiritually by teaching her, in other words, be the man of the house and lead, pay for everything like a gentleman. Don't live beyond your means and go broke, but always try to give her the sun, the moon and the stars.

- find a girl who has had very few lovers and is pure in heart, mind and soul(virgins are probably scarce), the more lovers your mate has, the more bad I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST and negative energy they potentially will have and potentially infect you with their bad vibes.

- make love to her right (ideally after marriage), some nights slow, other nights make it saucy and have fun, role play sometimes, it makes things interesting.

- Once in a while take her shopping. Not all the time, just surprise her every now and then. Its like reverse retail psychology, if she associates shopping with your reltionship being happy and healthy, she will not shop when she is depressed.

- Learn new hobbies together.

- No need to be a bad ass or treat any woman bad. If you are just true and honest with a girl as you would be a guy friend that you like hanging out with, she will feel like your 'equal' even though you are making all the calls in the relationship anlooking out for her best interests.

- Women, no matter how successful or independent, deep down inside want to be taken care, protected and feel safe with a guy. If you can give her those simple things, she will be putty in your hands.

- most important thing of all is the offer of your friendship.

- Love is friendship set on fire.

- When all else fails above, you need a fat wallet and a big c*ck.

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 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
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Look, I KNOW what you are feeling. I love sex more than most men I know, I even tire my husband out at times as I have a high sex drive, always have. I shut myself down in the prime of my life to do some really deep searching. It was cathartic to do this and be in total control of my mind, spirit and body and from my sexual desires. Yes, I denied myself sex during this time. I actually was developing some of the best skills about denying one's self something to get to another level. I am probably rambling now, but trust me, when I got through it, it was worth it.

And my sex drive is still alive and well today 5a
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woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.
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Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.
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That's cool, hope she's worth it. Practice those keys and get in a band. It's great for meeting people and travelling to new places
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OP, you sound very patient. It sounds like she may need some counseling. I can tell you for most happy couples sex only gets better as you grow older together, especially if you stay fit and take care of yourselves physically and because of the trust and bonding you develop with time. I do things now I had no idea existed when we first got married, its exciting. And I love it when he comes to me asking to try something new, its exciting for me that he wants to keep exploring me in that way of pleasing me. I try to be spontaneous and exciting with him as well. Sure people get dry spells now and then do to life, stress, work, etc. but if she is telling you no more sex, that is something serious that she might be dealing with. Is she okay physically? does anything hurt during sex? she may be afraid to tell anyone. just some thoughts.
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She and I have very few secrets, and she's told me that she never liked my body. I'm twice her size in build - she's very slender and my chest is twice the size of hers. She's built to dance and I'm built for heavy lifting. We're both in good shape and have taken serious backcountry hikes together. Appearance together means a lot to her, and I can never be sufficiently slender for her taste, even if I was skin and bones. Nothing hurts during sex except she gets dry. We lube everything and then try everything, and she's OK with that.

She would never live with me, and refuses couple's counseling. I've heard that it really doesn't work 80% of the time, and many counselors don't encourage and force couples together. I've no interest in what's right - only what works.
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I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.
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when sex doesn't control you , neither can anything in the world... its not for everyone. Most people do not understand. Being held captive over one's sexual desires is a prison in itself.

Own your sexual desires, don't let them own you... when you change the way you think/approach this, it is amazing what will be attracted to you...hf
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Just make a lot of grunting sounds, dont give a fuck about anything but yourself, kill animals for sport, drive really fast and out of control, run over as many animals in the process as you can, always vote republican, never give a shit about anyone but your own economic class and your own race and even then fuck people over to climb the ladder. Degrade women and make them feel less than human. Be as racist as you can. Start fights with others over virtually nothing. Always be petty and shallow and fake and always into image. Never care about nature and do as much polluting as you can. And beat up and bully sensitive people.

That about covers it.
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Dude..he wants to be BAD..NOT to become president.
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as if being "good" ever made anyone a president.
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I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7061022


ABSOLUTELY NOT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELL NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did I make my point? I like my testosterone and I like having my fluids cumming out of all the orifices of a pretty girl. I want to merge with her, not some damn dolphin!

BTW, I love sex and want it every day, multiple times. And I want a needy girl too - one that's not dramatic, just compliant.

I'm not a lefty either, just a selfish libertarian that cares for my friends and lovers.
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aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7061022


when sex doesn't control you , neither can anything in the world... its not for everyone. Most people do not understand. Being held captive over one's sexual desires is a prison in itself.

Own your sexual desires, don't let them own you... when you change the way you think/approach this, it is amazing what will be attracted to you...hf
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To add what you said.

Once you focus on something bigger than yourself, like a cause, everything will take care of itself.

And you will be in a position to meet nice girls. Girls that are attracted to bad boys just aren't the type you take home to mommy, besides, they will dump you for the next bad boy. Then you have to factor in that she probably already had a bad boy boyfried, who might really be a badass and then you can get in trouble.

Think about just being yourself and focusing on something to help others.

hf
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aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.
5a
 Quoting: mk ultra 5813027


That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7061022


ABSOLUTELY NOT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELL NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did I make my point? I like my testosterone and I like having my fluids cumming out of all the orifices of a pretty girl. I want to merge with her, not some damn dolphin!

BTW, I love sex and want it every day, multiple times. And I want a needy girl too - one that's not dramatic, just compliant.

I'm not a lefty either, just a selfish libertarian that cares for my friends and lovers.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28089709


Well fighting for liberty could be your cause. Smaller government, etc.

I do wish you luck though. I don't think it is healthy to be this way.
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Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.
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That's cool, hope she's worth it. Practice those keys and get in a band. It's great for meeting people and travelling to new places
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OP, you sound very patient. It sounds like she may need some counseling. I can tell you for most happy couples sex only gets better as you grow older together, especially if you stay fit and take care of yourselves physically and because of the trust and bonding you develop with time. I do things now I had no idea existed when we first got married, its exciting. And I love it when he comes to me asking to try something new, its exciting for me that he wants to keep exploring me in that way of pleasing me. I try to be spontaneous and exciting with him as well. Sure people get dry spells now and then do to life, stress, work, etc. but if she is telling you no more sex, that is something serious that she might be dealing with. Is she okay physically? does anything hurt during sex? she may be afraid to tell anyone. just some thoughts.
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She and I have very few secrets, and she's told me that she never liked my body. I'm twice her size in build - she's very slender and my chest is twice the size of hers. She's built to dance and I'm built for heavy lifting. We're both in good shape and have taken serious backcountry hikes together. Appearance together means a lot to her, and I can never be sufficiently slender for her taste, even if I was skin and bones. Nothing hurts during sex except she gets dry. We lube everything and then try everything, and she's OK with that.

She would never live with me, and refuses couple's counseling. I've heard that it really doesn't work 80% of the time, and many counselors don't encourage and force couples together. I've no interest in what's right - only what works.
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Unfortunately it does sound like a bad match. I truly believe in the physical chemistry component for a long lasting relationship. I was always attracted to the marky mark build on a guy and luckily my hubby has that type of build. During my dating years I dated all types, but for some reason, I had a certain 'type' of guy in physical stature that I desired. Perhaps it was programming, IDK, but I could never marry someone I wasn't physically attracted to. Its all about chemistry when you first meet. The rest are just crossing stuff you would like in a mate off the list, but physical attraction is first, if you kid yourself about this, you usually wind up divorced. Lots of people panic and marry the first person that says yes at age 30 something... then years later they claim that they are not attracted to them anymore, well the truth is they were never really attracted to them to begin with, they just didn't want to be lonely and single.
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I could give advice but frankly it's wicked plain and simple. If you want to scoop romantic interests, surround yourself with as many as you can. Plenty of lovin out here.
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Please elaborate, somehow I missed it, and I'm damn tired of missing out on life.
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I'm sick and tired of wasting time, money, and effort trying to get pretty girls in the sack. I'd much rather just have one waiting on me, nurturing me, feeding me and fucking me.

It seems that some guys get that without trying and I need to learn how. I'm damn angry at all the time I wasted, and I blame it both on girls giving mixed signals and my failure to read them and be whatever I need to be.

I want to be as bad as necessary, but I'd like to avoid fistfights and jail. Just bad enough to hook the girls with minimal effort and keep them fucking me. And I don't want the loser "bad boy that's really nice" approach. It doesn't seem to work.
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Na. Your fucked mate. It's too late.

Better luck in the next life.
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That's cool, hope she's worth it. Practice those keys and get in a band. It's great for meeting people and travelling to new places
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OP, you sound very patient. It sounds like she may need some counseling. I can tell you for most happy couples sex only gets better as you grow older together, especially if you stay fit and take care of yourselves physically and because of the trust and bonding you develop with time. I do things now I had no idea existed when we first got married, its exciting. And I love it when he comes to me asking to try something new, its exciting for me that he wants to keep exploring me in that way of pleasing me. I try to be spontaneous and exciting with him as well. Sure people get dry spells now and then do to life, stress, work, etc. but if she is telling you no more sex, that is something serious that she might be dealing with. Is she okay physically? does anything hurt during sex? she may be afraid to tell anyone. just some thoughts.
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She and I have very few secrets, and she's told me that she never liked my body. I'm twice her size in build - she's very slender and my chest is twice the size of hers. She's built to dance and I'm built for heavy lifting. We're both in good shape and have taken serious backcountry hikes together. Appearance together means a lot to her, and I can never be sufficiently slender for her taste, even if I was skin and bones. Nothing hurts during sex except she gets dry. We lube everything and then try everything, and she's OK with that.

She would never live with me, and refuses couple's counseling. I've heard that it really doesn't work 80% of the time, and many counselors don't encourage and force couples together. I've no interest in what's right - only what works.
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Unfortunately it does sound like a bad match. I truly believe in the physical chemistry component for a long lasting relationship. I was always attracted to the marky mark build on a guy and luckily my hubby has that type of build. During my dating years I dated all types, but for some reason, I had a certain 'type' of guy in physical stature that I desired. Perhaps it was programming, IDK, but I could never marry someone I wasn't physically attracted to. Its all about chemistry when you first meet. The rest are just crossing stuff you would like in a mate off the list, but physical attraction is first, if you kid yourself about this, you usually wind up divorced. Lots of people panic and marry the first person that says yes at age 30 something... then years later they claim that they are not attracted to them anymore, well the truth is they were never really attracted to them to begin with, they just didn't want to be lonely and single.
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We had GREAT chemistry for 4 years, and after that, it was always more difficult, but we always had some sex. Like I said, I need to either get her back on my terms or find someone hotter. Whoever it is must be 1/2 my weight and 1/3 my age, and reasonably tall. Fuck anyone that says it can't be done - I'll be as bad as necessary to make it happen.
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
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Secret to life, really.
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Re: How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?
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Secret to life, really.
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How sad. Might as well die.

No life without sex.

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