How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?

Why? Sex is way better than integrity.

I wouldn't know, i've got too much integrity. : (

Nail your ball sac to the floor...

If you ain't bad after that... you never will be.

Oh FUCK! This is the worst advice ever! First off, who the hell is yourself? Second, how does one do it? Third, why would any girl want a random "yourself"?

The name of the game is to close the deal as quickly and effectively as possible, without getting emotionally or financially involved more than necessary. Emotions can be added later, once she's a sure thing.

Treat her like your bratty little sister.

Seriously.

Be vague and mysterious about everything.

1. Read book "The Game" by Neil Strauss
2. Treat women like objects, no emotional attachment.
3. Talk about women you have dated with women you are dating. Make up shit, no matter. It just messes with them.

Be cool man, dont care so much.
Smoke some greenery to help you learn not to give a fuck.

Talk to girls about your philosophies. NOT annunaki or wtc7

Drunk sex and shes all yours.

Be confident, know who YOU are. And treat her like shes only an accessory. Or as i say "compliments to my swag" lol.

After that you should be good man, bad bitches and cold drinks. Beware the one girl that gets you feeling queezy like never before on the first date. Dont do it she will eat your fucking soul.

Listen to groups like this...this lead singer is 3'5" and nobody messes with him...its all about fake plumage and projection...

This is a golden rule. I didnt even notice ot was a rule till i read it and realized it worked with every girl ive been in bed with. Apply with caution though.

I basically do what I high lighted above for my hubby. I am a devoted wife and have the luxury of staying home, he is my life and I do everything and anything for him.

you need the following:

- find a girl you like, become friends, best friends... then...

- honesty - always be honest, even if she pissed you off, tell her, she can take it. Never keep secrets, secrets kill relationships.

- sense of humor - make her laugh (and not with your penis)

- take care of her. yes. I said take care of her; emotionally, physically and spiritually by teaching her, in other words, be the man of the house and lead, pay for everything like a gentleman. Don't live beyond your means and go broke, but always try to give her the sun, the moon and the stars.

- find a girl who has had very few lovers and is pure in heart, mind and soul(virgins are probably scarce), the more lovers your mate has, the more bad I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST and negative energy they potentially will have and potentially infect you with their bad vibes.

- make love to her right (ideally after marriage), some nights slow, other nights make it saucy and have fun, role play sometimes, it makes things interesting.

- Once in a while take her shopping. Not all the time, just surprise her every now and then. Its like reverse retail psychology, if she associates shopping with your reltionship being happy and healthy, she will not shop when she is depressed.

- Learn new hobbies together.

- No need to be a bad ass or treat any woman bad. If you are just true and honest with a girl as you would be a guy friend that you like hanging out with, she will feel like your 'equal' even though you are making all the calls in the relationship anlooking out for her best interests.

- Women, no matter how successful or independent, deep down inside want to be taken care, protected and feel safe with a guy. If you can give her those simple things, she will be putty in your hands.

- most important thing of all is the offer of your friendship.

- Love is friendship set on fire.

- When all else fails above, you need a fat wallet and a big c*ck.

You deserve to be credited for coming forth and admitting the truth. "desperation & confidence" Good for you.

Now, I don't have the first clue as to what a "Jersey Shore" douche bag is but it's tough to let a woman know you don't need her without being a bit of a "dick" in the process. You give solid advice but then contradict that good advice. Shithead.

that's weird, what I originally typed got changed. I forget what word I used.

don't do it man

you're just going to get hurt

Definitely, I'm an overly rude, dismissive arse and I haven't exactly been overly successful with the ladies. Still, I'd reckon the same thing would also count for people with a less off personality.

I reckon that women, gullible as they are, only go for a certain type of male. The one that is cocky without being too abrasive. The one that, despite all his shortcomings, of which there should a great many, seeing as he would be successful with women and women have a propensity to make one bad judgement call after the other, has intangible domineering presence.

Call it social ease, call it pheromones, it's nothing you can easily concretize or even pin down. It's not really looks, although they might play into it, not charisma, because most of the guys women go for have none.

Honest to god, I've got no clue. And women haven't either. Some might say that they want a nice guy, or a funny guy, or are out for an adventure... Ultimately, that's just an inaccurate evaluation of what they think their personal desires are. Women, bar none, know what they want deep down.

In the end, it all comes down to that deeply primitive, deeply animalistic, nebulous thing that is either there or isn't and that no one can really fully grasp.

Poser...

I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.

You and all the hopeless along with you seem to miss out on what that animalistic thing is.. Lord help you, I made sure to mention it in my first post.. It's making sure they know you want to mate with them ASAP.

It's what nice lonely guys deem rude.

Read "No more Mr. Nice Guy. You absolutely need that book. Look up info you can on being ultra-assertive. It's not that girls necessarily like bad boys, they just like guys who are highly decisive and go for what they want. Get the book. Also watch the series "The pick up artist". Good luck!

Cocaine is the answer to your problems (until you develop a habit).

Granted, those subliminal social interactions shouldn't be overanalyzed or rationalized but wouldn't that put the man in a weak spot? The woman has something he wants, something she can hold over his head as leverage, namely her capacity to spread her legs, pushing to meticulously maintaining the conversation and steering it to point where physical contact can be engaged with her consent, while she can just decide at a whim whether she is willing to allow sex or not.

Short version

Get online. Lots of hot, horny chicks there.
When you meet one, tell her EXACTLY what you want and expect of her.
Stand by what you tell her.
If she leaves fine, if she stays better.
Repeat

I did this after my first marriage and found myself with 10-12 women at any given time after a few months. They all knew to call before coming over or wait until I called them. At that point, it became a game to see which ones wanted to play. All of them stuck around knowing I had other women around. Some treated me very well trying to win me over, some played for a few months and moved on. I treated every one of them with respect and as if they were the only one while I was with them, even though we both knew better. It kept me occupied and satisfied until I was ready to have another relationship. The most important part for me was to get rid of all of them before I met my wife. I am now happily married again with children and haven't looked back. Good luck!

you are who you are... there's nothing more pathetic than a "nice" guy pretending to be "bad"... whatever the fuck that means anyways.

any awesome chick that goes for dudes that are "bad" have a radar going off when the dudes a total fake. I myself go for guys that look tough, but are really nice. I almost feel like people are brought up a specific way and it annoys the shit out of me when douche bag dudes try to morph into a scene that they were never in just to get ass.

If you want to keep a girls interest by being a fake you're going to get the dumb girl that's going to sit around waiting for your call just to come do the whole booty call crap. nothing interesting... just be a total dick and act like you don't care. most girls dig that... and please note that I am saying girls, NOT WOMEN.
not anyone you want to take home to mama. I'm talking get your nails done, nothing cool to say ever, really stupid highlighted hair, words on the ass of her panties type chick.
good luck with that... lol

Lol I agree cocaine!Jk
First time I tried cocaine it was in high school. good times. Tried meth but that was dirty, Continued smoking pot in college. And then I stopped because I got bored. But now I want to re-live those moments.btw how old are you Op?decades!
You can always be a badass in your heart!
<------;DORK

Make yourself about 6'2", longish dark hair, about 190-200 lbs. Then, get born in the sign of Scorpio. Become a really good guitar player and get a bad bike. Doesn't hurt to have a great sense of humor and an IQ of 140. Oh, and you must also appreciate fine wines when available and keep it up for 40 minutes at a time. Trust me, that works.

But not just any motorcycle - a Harley

I bet a booty call chick sounds better than wtf you are trying to portray here. Obviously you are making a scene wanting all that drama kinda chick-shit.

Dont fall for the trap OP. This chick sounds nice but before a quicky you need to have 2 hour long conversations. And when she doesnt like it, no punani.

Your better off with the just call to fuck chick, when she doenst want to fuck you just ignore her for a week and its on.

Last Edited by nonperson on 11/19/2012 08:04 PM

woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.

Still over thinking are we? Meticulously maintaining the conversation? C'mon man!
A weak spot is a woman not knowing if you want to sleep with her. Most woman have zero confidence. You gain and edge by letting her know what you want. This is what women refer to as confidence.

In your scenario you are giving the woman's role all the power. But they only have one damn card. In my scenario I walk away when she seems uninterested or too coy and then she chases after, or not, nor do I care. And if I care not, she is that more likely to chase. Why does she chase? Cause I am the only guy in the room who has expressed an interest in her. Why do I care not? Cause every other woman in the room holds the same card she does.

There is your problem. Listen and learn: