How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?

Just make a lot of grunting sounds, dont give a fuck about anything but yourself, kill animals for sport, drive really fast and out of control, run over as many animals in the process as you can, always vote republican, never give a shit about anyone but your own economic class and your own race and even then fuck people over to climb the ladder. Degrade women and make them feel less than human. Be as racist as you can. Start fights with others over virtually nothing. Always be petty and shallow and fake and always into image. Never care about nature and do as much polluting as you can. And beat up and bully sensitive people.

That about covers it.

woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.

I basically do what I high lighted above for my hubby. I am a devoted wife and have the luxury of staying home, he is my life and I do everything and anything for him.

you need the following:

- find a girl you like, become friends, best friends... then...

- honesty - always be honest, even if she pissed you off, tell her, she can take it. Never keep secrets, secrets kill relationships.

- sense of humor - make her laugh (and not with your penis)

- take care of her. yes. I said take care of her; emotionally, physically and spiritually by teaching her, in other words, be the man of the house and lead, pay for everything like a gentleman. Don't live beyond your means and go broke, but always try to give her the sun, the moon and the stars.

- find a girl who has had very few lovers and is pure in heart, mind and soul(virgins are probably scarce), the more lovers your mate has, the more bad I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST I_AM_AN_ILLITERATE_RACIST and negative energy they potentially will have and potentially infect you with their bad vibes.

- make love to her right (ideally after marriage), some nights slow, other nights make it saucy and have fun, role play sometimes, it makes things interesting.

- Once in a while take her shopping. Not all the time, just surprise her every now and then. Its like reverse retail psychology, if she associates shopping with your reltionship being happy and healthy, she will not shop when she is depressed.

- Learn new hobbies together.

- No need to be a bad ass or treat any woman bad. If you are just true and honest with a girl as you would be a guy friend that you like hanging out with, she will feel like your 'equal' even though you are making all the calls in the relationship anlooking out for her best interests.

- Women, no matter how successful or independent, deep down inside want to be taken care, protected and feel safe with a guy. If you can give her those simple things, she will be putty in your hands.

- most important thing of all is the offer of your friendship.

- Love is friendship set on fire.

- When all else fails above, you need a fat wallet and a big c*ck.

Something happened to her - maybe premenopause or something. She doesn't want sex with anyone now, but claims she still likes it. She has remorse about being a slut when she was younger. She's always been happy with me in bed after we actually have sex, but somehow she feels revulsion until we get it on. I've ravaged her and others dry in any way you can imagine.

She is a manipulative cunt, though I'd give her a chance if she got real.

The confidence thing is odd - it's hard to get a new woman without screwing up a lot, and wasting months or more. After I've had sex, women seem to want me more.

I don't do videogames, or guitar either. I can do a keyboard/piano to a degree. Guitar is especially hard for some reason, though I do own two.

I tried this approach many times, with a bit of success. There's a girl I love deeply and have taken care of emotionally and physically for 20+ years. She thinks I'm "too needy" sexually, and yes - she's the best in bed. She wants to be my best friend forever, but without sex, it's not worthwhile, and she always is looking for greener pastures. She'll have sex a few times a year if I pressure her enough, but she says it repulses her.

Now I need to find someone that's hotter than her and soon, and keep her. I never abandon friends though.

woah, sex repulses your ex GF/FWB? You'll never be a 'bad boy' if you suck in bed. Watch some porn, learn some techniques and ravage that woman dry. That'll build up your confidence.

Then dump her ass for being a wishy washy manipulative cunt.

Buy a REAL guitar, not a video game, and learn how to play. Start a band and you'll be swimmin'in wimmen' if you're any good.

aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.

aw, that is too bad.

Here's the deal, when you are looking for 'something' you usually don't find it. What I mean is, this may be a great opportunity for you to do a little soul searching (for lacl of a better phrase) on what you really want out of life.

Other people cannot make us happy. Contrary to what the movies tell you, you are not 'completed' just because you have a mate/spouse. You need to do some deep exploring about why you want what you stated above in your original post.

You need to really learn how to LOVE yourself. And I mean really love yourself. Respect yourself. Take good care of yourself. And this doesn't mean someone else does everything you need/want.

I went through a period of time once when I wanted no one. I just wanted to be me, and take care of me. In this process, I realized how much I loved me, how much I respected me. And how much I needed me, just me, that no one else was going to come along and 'complete' me.

I know it may sound confusing, but when I came out of this experience I was able to project an entirely different me and I did it naturally... it was the real me. Then things just happened. Met the man of my dreams, and we traveled the years together exploring and discovering each other with me being the true me, no pretense.

I loved me fully, so I was able to love him even more. He could tell I was a happy person, because of that, he just wanted to be around me. There is something of mystery about people who don't need anyone to make them happy, others are just attracted to that. It worked for me. I got what I felt was right for me in a spouse and my hubby got what he wanted, a happy, devoted wife.


Anyway, best to you in your search. Always keep the faith, there are lots of good women out there, don't believe most of what you read here, its depressing. I still believe men are the best thing ever, I will always have the utmost respect for the good men in this world, despite how many hate threads get posted about them. You guys rock, most of you, anyway.

That's cool, hope she's worth it. Practice those keys and get in a band. It's great for meeting people and travelling to new places

That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.

Just make a lot of grunting sounds, dont give a fuck about anything but yourself, kill animals for sport, drive really fast and out of control, run over as many animals in the process as you can, always vote republican, never give a shit about anyone but your own economic class and your own race and even then fuck people over to climb the ladder. Degrade women and make them feel less than human. Be as racist as you can. Start fights with others over virtually nothing. Always be petty and shallow and fake and always into image. Never care about nature and do as much polluting as you can. And beat up and bully sensitive people.

That about covers it.

That might be good advice - if I was a girl, but I'm not. Real MEN NEED SEX - it's visceral. We only have one X chromosome and always need another, and we bond through sex. We also DO feel complete, and it's the only time we do.

I've done the hard work of soul searching and it's take years, and if I had it to do over, I'd just do lots of sex and drugs. It's like seeking a phantom. Sex with or without drugs is the ultimate connection and enlightenment.

Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.

Or

You could try to evolve past that.

Wouldn't it be great to be free of being chained down by sex.

Like I said, visit an animal shelter. Watch the documentary 'The cove' about how dolphins are slaughtered. Join GreenPeace. You can burn up a lot of testerone with that group. Try to use your testerone for something good.

Really sweet nice girls would love a man like that. I know I do.

OP, you sound very patient. It sounds like she may need some counseling. I can tell you for most happy couples sex only gets better as you grow older together, especially if you stay fit and take care of yourselves physically and because of the trust and bonding you develop with time. I do things now I had no idea existed when we first got married, its exciting. And I love it when he comes to me asking to try something new, its exciting for me that he wants to keep exploring me in that way of pleasing me. I try to be spontaneous and exciting with him as well. Sure people get dry spells now and then do to life, stress, work, etc. but if she is telling you no more sex, that is something serious that she might be dealing with. Is she okay physically? does anything hurt during sex? she may be afraid to tell anyone. just some thoughts.

I could give advice but frankly it's wicked plain and simple. If you want to scoop romantic interests, surround yourself with as many as you can. Plenty of lovin out here.

She and I have very few secrets, and she's told me that she never liked my body. I'm twice her size in build - she's very slender and my chest is twice the size of hers. She's built to dance and I'm built for heavy lifting. We're both in good shape and have taken serious backcountry hikes together. Appearance together means a lot to her, and I can never be sufficiently slender for her taste, even if I was skin and bones. Nothing hurts during sex except she gets dry. We lube everything and then try everything, and she's OK with that.

She would never live with me, and refuses couple's counseling. I've heard that it really doesn't work 80% of the time, and many counselors don't encourage and force couples together. I've no interest in what's right - only what works.