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Anonymous Coward User ID: 16565139 United States 11/20/2012 11:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm with one that got away from me in highschool, it's nice because I feel a closer bond. We know each other better from the start. A long time has passed though, and the puppy love you felt then probably won't be the same now. You will probably always wonder, so why not do something about it? Facebook is great for things like this. Thats how I got back in touch, a random message out of the blue and now we're together for a year. |
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KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Im going through this now. I love her so much but she seems to be moving on. To think about her in ten years with a husband and kids and family will kill me Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27175055 Are you fighting to get her back? That was my biggest regret; I walked away without fighting for the relationship. You should fight for what you believe in. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm with one that got away from me in highschool, it's nice because I feel a closer bond. We know each other better from the start. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16565139 A long time has passed though, and the puppy love you felt then probably won't be the same now. You will probably always wonder, so why not do something about it? Facebook is great for things like this. Thats how I got back in touch, a random message out of the blue and now we're together for a year. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 12:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? well I am happily married, but I ran into a hs guy friend on FB a few years ago. I felt some nostalgia, he had asked me out back in hs one time and I was interested in another guy at the time so I declined. Well I got to know him again only briefly on FB and some weird stuff went on in FB (too much to list here and too boring) and he deleted me. I suppose it was some sort of payback for turning him down in hs, but he was a real douche bag the way he treated me on FB. So glad I never really got too friendly with him or shared too much info about my life. I would have never cheated on my husband, but I was hopeful we could have at least been friends,because he was so friendly with all teh other classmates, I felt alienated and now I don't keep in touch with anyone from hs. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. and to be honest most of them thrived in gossipy conversations, something I have no interest in. And no, to answer your question he was not as great as I remember. He was divorced and seemed bitter towards me, no matter what our interaction were on FB (I never saw him in person) I was pretty much snubbed by him and any mutual friends we had at the time. I got over it real quick though, figured if he is still operating like a stubborn little boy then he has not grown up or matured to anyone worth knowing. His loss. |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You think these thoughts for a reason. Do it. You never know how much time you have left darling. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9223773 Yeah, I'm on "borrowed time" already. I hesitate getting in touch because the breakup was so ugly and hurtful on both sides and I'm afraid he still hates me. It just feels like a chapter in my life that needs closure. I compare everyone else to him and no one compares but I think my memory is playing tricks on me. And I'm sure my 24 year old brain saw things differently than my 37 year old brain would today. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, let bygones be bygones. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28116191 Anyway I'd rather have memories of my exes as the sweet young things they used to be. I doubt time has improved either them or me. I've tried to let it go for more than 10 years and the wondering still surfaces from time to time. I just want to know if there's anything left. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
mopar28m User ID: 14265444 United States 11/21/2012 12:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I keep in contact with him & his wife over Facebook. He lives in California & is going to be a grandfather early next Spring. Still the same great guy that I remember. vaccinefreehealth blogspot com The risk far outweighs any benefit as the risk will vary from child to child. facebook.com/graphixyourway |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26612419 Canada 11/21/2012 12:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mine asked me 3 times to marry him from the age of 9 to 15. We both went our separate ways when at 15 I moved to live with my mother. He found me on Facebook...so his friends were planning his 50th birthday party and went through his friend list and asked if I would go. I did and it was like finding a long, lost friend. Well, many years later we have maintained our reconnected friendship but no romance. There is something very comforting having someone that used to push you on a swing :) |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? well I am happily married, but I ran into a hs guy friend on FB a few years ago. I felt some nostalgia, he had asked me out back in hs one time and I was interested in another guy at the time so I declined. Well I got to know him again only briefly on FB and some weird stuff went on in FB (too much to list here and too boring) and he deleted me. I suppose it was some sort of payback for turning him down in hs, but he was a real douche bag the way he treated me on FB. So glad I never really got too friendly with him or shared too much info about my life. I would have never cheated on my husband, but I was hopeful we could have at least been friends,because he was so friendly with all teh other classmates, I felt alienated and now I don't keep in touch with anyone from hs. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. and to be honest most of them thrived in gossipy conversations, something I have no interest in. And no, to answer your question he was not as great as I remember. He was divorced and seemed bitter towards me, no matter what our interaction were on FB (I never saw him in person) I was pretty much snubbed by him and any mutual friends we had at the time. I got over it real quick though, figured if he is still operating like a stubborn little boy then he has not grown up or matured to anyone worth knowing. His loss. Wow, sorry to hear that. He definitely ended a friendship attempt. I'm glad you have a great marriage and husband. I sometimes wonder if the lesson I'm meant to learn in this lifetime is how to overcome struggle and hardship. Not defeat it, but learn to live with it. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I ran into my first love a little over a year ago at his brothers funeral. He saw me & we just hugged & cried for about 15 min. Quoting: mopar28m I keep in contact with him & his wife over Facebook. He lives in California & is going to be a grandfather early next Spring. Still the same great guy that I remember. That's great that you reconnected and are able to be friends. I would like that in my situation. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mine asked me 3 times to marry him from the age of 9 to 15. We both went our separate ways when at 15 I moved to live with my mother. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26612419 He found me on Facebook...so his friends were planning his 50th birthday party and went through his friend list and asked if I would go. I did and it was like finding a long, lost friend. Well, many years later we have maintained our reconnected friendship but no romance. There is something very comforting having someone that used to push you on a swing :) Oh, absolutely! He knew you before you grew up! Almost like family. Why no romance? Were either of you married or was the spark gone? "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
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mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 12:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? well I am happily married, but I ran into a hs guy friend on FB a few years ago. I felt some nostalgia, he had asked me out back in hs one time and I was interested in another guy at the time so I declined. Well I got to know him again only briefly on FB and some weird stuff went on in FB (too much to list here and too boring) and he deleted me. I suppose it was some sort of payback for turning him down in hs, but he was a real douche bag the way he treated me on FB. So glad I never really got too friendly with him or shared too much info about my life. I would have never cheated on my husband, but I was hopeful we could have at least been friends,because he was so friendly with all teh other classmates, I felt alienated and now I don't keep in touch with anyone from hs. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. and to be honest most of them thrived in gossipy conversations, something I have no interest in. And no, to answer your question he was not as great as I remember. He was divorced and seemed bitter towards me, no matter what our interaction were on FB (I never saw him in person) I was pretty much snubbed by him and any mutual friends we had at the time. I got over it real quick though, figured if he is still operating like a stubborn little boy then he has not grown up or matured to anyone worth knowing. His loss. Wow, sorry to hear that. He definitely ended a friendship attempt. I'm glad you have a great marriage and husband. I sometimes wonder if the lesson I'm meant to learn in this lifetime is how to overcome struggle and hardship. Not defeat it, but learn to live with it. yeah, I am not a big fan of Facebook because so much can be misinterpreted, but it didn't change the fact that he lied to me and a few of his close friends lied about some stuff as well. Overall I believe him to fit the definition of a sociopath because of the way things went down. Had he been normal, he would have just acted normal and been honest with me and just communicated like a mature, intelligent person. he chose to play games and involve people that had no idea he was lying about stuff. at age 40 something we should all know is how to talk to each other without being a deceitful liar. The sad thing for me is I can never go to a reunion or see former classmates for fear of running into him. that is the only thing that really pissed me off. he stole that from me, and my memories of hs are now kind of sour. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 20898323 United States 11/21/2012 12:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? No, you should call me. I'm over it. |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? well I am happily married, but I ran into a hs guy friend on FB a few years ago. I felt some nostalgia, he had asked me out back in hs one time and I was interested in another guy at the time so I declined. Well I got to know him again only briefly on FB and some weird stuff went on in FB (too much to list here and too boring) and he deleted me. I suppose it was some sort of payback for turning him down in hs, but he was a real douche bag the way he treated me on FB. So glad I never really got too friendly with him or shared too much info about my life. I would have never cheated on my husband, but I was hopeful we could have at least been friends,because he was so friendly with all teh other classmates, I felt alienated and now I don't keep in touch with anyone from hs. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. and to be honest most of them thrived in gossipy conversations, something I have no interest in. And no, to answer your question he was not as great as I remember. He was divorced and seemed bitter towards me, no matter what our interaction were on FB (I never saw him in person) I was pretty much snubbed by him and any mutual friends we had at the time. I got over it real quick though, figured if he is still operating like a stubborn little boy then he has not grown up or matured to anyone worth knowing. His loss. Wow, sorry to hear that. He definitely ended a friendship attempt. I'm glad you have a great marriage and husband. I sometimes wonder if the lesson I'm meant to learn in this lifetime is how to overcome struggle and hardship. Not defeat it, but learn to live with it. yeah, I am not a big fan of Facebook because so much can be misinterpreted, but it didn't change the fact that he lied to me and a few of his close friends lied about some stuff as well. Overall I believe him to fit the definition of a sociopath because of the way things went down. Had he been normal, he would have just acted normal and been honest with me and just communicated like a mature, intelligent person. he chose to play games and involve people that had no idea he was lying about stuff. at age 40 something we should all know is how to talk to each other without being a deceitful liar. The sad thing for me is I can never go to a reunion or see former classmates for fear of running into him. that is the only thing that really pissed me off. he stole that from me, and my memories of hs are now kind of sour. Do you regret getting in touch with him? "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
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KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? No, you should call me. I'm over it. Ok, but why don't you call me? "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
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mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 12:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You think these thoughts for a reason. Do it. You never know how much time you have left darling. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9223773 Yeah, I'm on "borrowed time" already. I hesitate getting in touch because the breakup was so ugly and hurtful on both sides and I'm afraid he still hates me. It just feels like a chapter in my life that needs closure. I compare everyone else to him and no one compares but I think my memory is playing tricks on me. And I'm sure my 24 year old brain saw things differently than my 37 year old brain would today. I would say go for it and contact him, you have nothing to lose. If he is still mad, that is his loss. I've reconnected with lots of other people from years past that I may have had a falling out with and we are all friends again. life goes on, its too short to hold a grudge. if you communicate in a honest fashion, you can never lose. just be true and honest with yourself, that way it will be easy to be that way with him. good luck! |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 12:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You think these thoughts for a reason. Do it. You never know how much time you have left darling. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9223773 Yeah, I'm on "borrowed time" already. I hesitate getting in touch because the breakup was so ugly and hurtful on both sides and I'm afraid he still hates me. It just feels like a chapter in my life that needs closure. I compare everyone else to him and no one compares but I think my memory is playing tricks on me. And I'm sure my 24 year old brain saw things differently than my 37 year old brain would today. I would say go for it and contact him, you have nothing to lose. If he is still mad, that is his loss. I've reconnected with lots of other people from years past that I may have had a falling out with and we are all friends again. life goes on, its too short to hold a grudge. if you communicate in a honest fashion, you can never lose. just be true and honest with yourself, that way it will be easy to be that way with him. good luck! I think I will do it. I'll keep you updated.. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 12:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: mk ultra 5813027 well I am happily married, but I ran into a hs guy friend on FB a few years ago. I felt some nostalgia, he had asked me out back in hs one time and I was interested in another guy at the time so I declined. Well I got to know him again only briefly on FB and some weird stuff went on in FB (too much to list here and too boring) and he deleted me. I suppose it was some sort of payback for turning him down in hs, but he was a real douche bag the way he treated me on FB. So glad I never really got too friendly with him or shared too much info about my life. I would have never cheated on my husband, but I was hopeful we could have at least been friends,because he was so friendly with all teh other classmates, I felt alienated and now I don't keep in touch with anyone from hs. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. and to be honest most of them thrived in gossipy conversations, something I have no interest in. And no, to answer your question he was not as great as I remember. He was divorced and seemed bitter towards me, no matter what our interaction were on FB (I never saw him in person) I was pretty much snubbed by him and any mutual friends we had at the time. I got over it real quick though, figured if he is still operating like a stubborn little boy then he has not grown up or matured to anyone worth knowing. His loss. Wow, sorry to hear that. He definitely ended a friendship attempt. I'm glad you have a great marriage and husband. I sometimes wonder if the lesson I'm meant to learn in this lifetime is how to overcome struggle and hardship. Not defeat it, but learn to live with it. yeah, I am not a big fan of Facebook because so much can be misinterpreted, but it didn't change the fact that he lied to me and a few of his close friends lied about some stuff as well. Overall I believe him to fit the definition of a sociopath because of the way things went down. Had he been normal, he would have just acted normal and been honest with me and just communicated like a mature, intelligent person. he chose to play games and involve people that had no idea he was lying about stuff. at age 40 something we should all know is how to talk to each other without being a deceitful liar. The sad thing for me is I can never go to a reunion or see former classmates for fear of running into him. that is the only thing that really pissed me off. he stole that from me, and my memories of hs are now kind of sour. Do you regret getting in touch with him? not at all. we all have a childhood and a past. It was just kind of a slap in the face to be deleted and never talk about why he treated me like scum. But again, I can only surmise that he simply did not have the skills to talk to a woman perhaps because he had a nasty divorce. I am not the same, shy person I was in HS. I've been fortunate enough to live and travel outside of my hometown. He is still living in the same town we grew up in. I believe we are just different people now with nothing in common. and to be honest the 4 years spent in HS can not measure up against all the other years after that which provided far better relationships,memories and experiences. having a crush on someone from HS is not the same as becoming a woman and getting swept off your feet by the man of your dreams in your 20s. no, no regrets. |
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mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 12:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You think these thoughts for a reason. Do it. You never know how much time you have left darling. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9223773 Yeah, I'm on "borrowed time" already. I hesitate getting in touch because the breakup was so ugly and hurtful on both sides and I'm afraid he still hates me. It just feels like a chapter in my life that needs closure. I compare everyone else to him and no one compares but I think my memory is playing tricks on me. And I'm sure my 24 year old brain saw things differently than my 37 year old brain would today. I would say go for it and contact him, you have nothing to lose. If he is still mad, that is his loss. I've reconnected with lots of other people from years past that I may have had a falling out with and we are all friends again. life goes on, its too short to hold a grudge. if you communicate in a honest fashion, you can never lose. just be true and honest with yourself, that way it will be easy to be that way with him. good luck! I think I will do it. I'll keep you updated.. good for you. Holidays are the perfect time to reach out, people have a good excuse to wish each other a happy thanksgiving. If there is one thing I've learned in all my years, its that honesty is the ksy to a healthy relationship with anyone. Being dishonest or lying will only send you down a hole. Just be your excited, enthusiastic self and reach out to say hello to him. good luck! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1465884 United States 11/21/2012 12:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am the one that got away from someone I have kept in touch with. He's never put it that way, but he said he's waiting for me to figure it out. It's been tempting to reciprocate, and I kept wondering if he was the one that got away, but something was always holding me back, and I finally figured out what it was, and I'm glad we did not get back together. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 9223773 Puerto Rico 11/21/2012 01:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You think these thoughts for a reason. Do it. You never know how much time you have left darling. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9223773 Yeah, I'm on "borrowed time" already. I hesitate getting in touch because the breakup was so ugly and hurtful on both sides and I'm afraid he still hates me. It just feels like a chapter in my life that needs closure. I compare everyone else to him and no one compares but I think my memory is playing tricks on me. And I'm sure my 24 year old brain saw things differently than my 37 year old brain would today. So if anything contact him apologizing for the past and explain that you wanted to simply right what you felt was a wrong. he may or may not respond but you will have healed apart of your past that your still holding onto. Do it honey. |