There is indeed some wisdom here. Some part of us I believe goes back to the primal nature of us particularly when we dealing with powerful emotions like this. ie hunger, sex, fear etc..

The caveman that clubbed his woman and dragged her by the hair back in to the cave is the one that got some and continued on the line. Now I'm not saying go out and find your muse and then club her, No. Just be her rock. Take charge.

Women want to feel safe with you so you gotta harden up, be a man, then your muse will come to you! And just once in a while show the deeper you it will keep her guessing and interested. Good luck buddy.