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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28420771 11/25/2012 02:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28370349 11/25/2012 03:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You must rise above the riffraff. Hold up your head. Smile. DO NOT LET THEM GET TO YOU. Show them how unaffected you are. If you act afraid or bothered by them they will eat you up alive. You MUST be strong. The only other choice is to walk away entirely and that isn't always the best option. Stay strong and eventually they will back down and realize the whole matter is not worth going on about simply by your attitude. It's a game of poker. Right now you're going to have to bluff. EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. Smile Goddamit! |
| scorpio66 User ID: 2453057 11/25/2012 03:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm sorry, it wasn't clear to me - are you in high school? It sounds as if you are young. If you are underage you need to tell your parents or some other adult that you trust. You've been threatened and you're frightened and rightfully so it seems. You really need an adult to intervene. |
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| ANHEDONIC Uncensored User ID: 26795689 11/25/2012 03:44 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You must rise above the riffraff. Hold up your head. Smile. DO NOT LET THEM GET TO YOU. Show them how unaffected you are. If you act afraid or bothered by them they will eat you up alive. You MUST be strong. The only other choice is to walk away entirely and that isn't always the best option. Stay strong and eventually they will back down and realize the whole matter is not worth going on about simply by your attitude. It's a game of poker. Right now you're going to have to bluff. EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. Smile Goddamit! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28370349 ![]() "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it." |
| booklover (OP) User ID: 28430529 11/25/2012 03:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes I am a senior in high school. Ive tried holding my head up, smiling and acting as though what they have said doesnt get to me even though it does. That only made it worse. The CO of the explorers has had no problem making it seem as though im making everything up. My dad doesnt care about anyone elses problems except his and my mother hasnt been aroud since i was two. booklover |
| goodmockingbird Flyover-American User ID: 11364251 11/25/2012 04:00 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to consult with an attorney regarding sexual harassment. Since the drill instructor was fired -- probably for sexual harassment such as you endured -- you very likely have an excellent chance of winning a civil suit against the school. Look up local attorneys who handle civil rights law, or call your local bar association for referals. Meanwhile, document everything -- absolutely everything. Names, dates, and places. Who said what to whom, when. Write it up in notes, now. Just as you remember it. Make note of who all was present, any details you can recall. Just plain everything you can remember. And get a lawyer. NOW. Tomorrow morning, as soon as the law offices open. Don't wait and mull it over in your mind. Start getting proactive now. In Memory of Tyrone Woods and Glen Doherty: American Heroes. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28370349 11/25/2012 04:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Yes I am a senior in high school. Ive tried holding my head up, smiling and acting as though what they have said doesnt get to me even though it does. That only made it worse. The CO of the explorers has had no problem making it seem as though im making everything up. My dad doesnt care about anyone elses problems except his and my mother hasnt been aroud since i was two." --- Keep smiling. I'm telling you. It will get worse. Then it will get better IF YOU KEEP IT UP. But because you are only at highschool level it is also wise to get legal advice. Do you have an aunt, uncle or teacher you can talk to? Talk to them. |
| scorpio66 User ID: 2453057 11/25/2012 04:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think the consulting an attorney advice is very good for you. It may sound overwhelming but you will likely get a free visit and the help that you need. I also googled "what to do if you are being bullied" and think you should check out some of the links. i clicked a few and looks like pretty consistent, solid advice, which definitely all includes "tell an adult". surely there is a grandparent or family friend or neighbor or teacher or some adult that you can ask for help. most people i think would understand and feel glad you trust in them so please don't be shy about it. you really need to get an adult in your corner asap. here's the google link: [link to www.google.com (secure)] |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28416020 11/25/2012 04:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I agree with all the advice here OP....just keep a low profile until some new drama catches their attention. DO NOT BACK DOWN. This guy was a predator...probably coming onto other young women and maybe getting away with a LOT more. That's why he's mad...that will follow him. They would not have fired him if they thought it wasn't true. YOU stopped him...congrats. Keep your inner peace OP ...don't let them make you live in fear and steal your joy. Find a circle of friends you trust, keep your secrets to yourself with those you don't, and enjoy your senior year. |
| Shiva Nataraja User ID: 18762713 11/25/2012 04:30 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You must rise above the riffraff. Hold up your head. Smile. DO NOT LET THEM GET TO YOU. Show them how unaffected you are. If you act afraid or bothered by them they will eat you up alive. You MUST be strong. The only other choice is to walk away entirely and that isn't always the best option. Stay strong and eventually they will back down and realize the whole matter is not worth going on about simply by your attitude. It's a game of poker. Right now you're going to have to bluff. EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. Smile Goddamit! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28370349 ![]() ![]() It sounds as though you don't want any fuss and you didn't ask for any. It's a shame, but sometimes we all have to take the spotlight. There is always a background noise of disapproval whatever you choose to do... Learn to recognise it and to rise above it. Regardless of the situation, this learning process comes to us all. You are a valid individual who has the right to own your own experiences. Please smile and embrace the process off getting to know yourself and the world in which you live. Best wishes. (",)__¥ Dance, it's your birthright. X |