What has divorce done to you?

It is totally criminal and biased towards the female. Makes my blood boil.

I kept the houses, businesses, properties, investments, and kids, let her keep her new car and gave her enough to live on until she could get through school...paid spouse maintenance for a while until I figured out how to get out of it...oh, and I let her keep her clothes.

Divorce stole my dignity and put a hole in the O-Zone layer!

Why doesn't hearing that you are divorced surprise me?

Well it freed me from an awful situation that I take full responsibility for putting myself into. From what I know of myself NOW, I see that I had no clue what kind of a person was good for me as far as a serious relationship goes. The good news is that I have a much better idea of what type of person is good for me. The bad news is that I don't think too many of those types of people were made.

I'm able to be a much more effective father to my two children, although I still have difficulty being away from them and not having them around every day.

Financially my credit rating is sacked, but I don't care too much about that as I have enough money set aside for security.

I consider myself one of the luckiest guys in Massachusetts to experience a divorce as the settlement was very reasonable, as there was no basis for her to 'take me to the cleaners' so to speak as overall I was a fundamentally sound husband, as it was strictly a relationship in which the chemistry soured to the point of there simply being no relationship.


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Last Edited by BOWMAN on 11/28/2012 09:46 AM

Please don't say that divorce is biased for females because it just is not true. I think it works best for the one who wants and initiates the divorce as they plan way ahead and are able to manipulate the system. I have a friend who has 4 children and the man has never paid them any child support. Divorce is usually for selfish people and it is devastating for the children. Whatever they do to these little ones, the WILL pay for in the next life. Live comfortably all you scumbag men and women who don't give a crap about anyone but yourself==great suffering awaits you!

Oh I didn't add.......my ex-wife was abusive, and I was the only parent my kids go to........ and still is.

Fifteen years ago when I first divorced, I paid $9600 a year child support for 3 children. Now I'm paying $11,500 a year for the remaining minor child. I actually consider that a bargain. If you knew my kids mom, you'd think so, too.

Come to think of it, if you live in Eastern Kentucky, you probably do know her and quite possibly could have slept with her.

I got nothing I wanted nothing...just to be let out. I am sorry for the destruction to your life OP. I hear your pain.

And the moral of the thread is; Don't get married!

Well.....my cousins husband was making A cool million a year he made alot of it buying selling apartment buildings. He put everything in her name except one pc of property. She divorced him bad move on her part. He totally let all of the property's go paying no taxes stoped collecting rent etc. He was ordered to pay 15,000 a month in child support. Well now my cousin owes almost 350k in taxes the county state and federal goverment is about to put her in jail. Her ex husband claimed he is crazy so he now gets social security he only pays 400 a month in child support. Wanna know the best part? The only thing that was in his name is some land he sold to the state of Maryland for the new intercounty connector it was in his sisters name there take away was about 15 million. No lawyer will touch my cousins case can't prove he has the funds since the sale was to his sister. That is how it is played if your a shady person.

I walked out with only the clothes on my back and the wedding ring, he tried to cut off my finger to get it. Didn't work.

He stole all of my money, destroyed all of my possessions, killed my pets. He got the house..and the big ass fucking mortgage.

I have the children. He pays no support.

Identity theft was an issue for a while. Him and his whore thought it would be a good idea to be me. Cost me a fair amount.

I'm free from his bullshit though. That's all that matters.

Divorce has finally set me free.
After 3 attempts I've finally accepted that marriage is not the way to go.


I've never been happier,absolutely zero stress.

Me and my cheating whoring wife divorced 12 years ago. She got custody of the kids for 4 years. She decided to leave and go to Florida. I got my 3 boys! From her partying and whoring lifestyle she got a Heroin addiction and a Death sentence diagnosis of Aids. Karma is a BITCH!

...and no she has not paid any child support for the last 8 years.

Went to the county courthouse, picked up a divorce packet.

Sat down at home and filled it out myself, and filed it myself.

Total cost, filing/court fees: $ 375.

Priceless.

No kids or property.

When I left my husband in Florida, I told him the only things I wanted were my pots and pans, a flat screen T.V. and my personal stuff. He has it all and I have my freedom. I've seemed to manage just fine setting up a new place up here. And, more important, I have my peace of mind. It wasn't worth the emotional turmoil to me fighting over stuff that can be replaced.

Now, my first one, lol, he never paid his child support of a hundred a month, and apparently that is causing him some problems now, 25 years later...it has ruined his credit rating and is preventing him from getting some professional designation. He keeps hauling me into court to try to get me to agree to reduce it or wipe the slate clean. Fat chance :)

I still don't understand the point of marriage to begin with. I can understand the union on a religious level, but not the need for a legal contract to be involved. If you feel you must sign the legal contract of marriage, it seems like a logical idea would be to also have a pre-numptial agreement to protect your assets.

It seems like a good idea, but now I say everyone has to go home, lol.

Ok guys , I m female.....seperated and then paid the mortgage for 10 years on my own , no child maintenence for my 2 kids either , when the place was sold it went 50-50 , don't ask me why but I just didn't want tp rip him off even though he is a pratt......I was quite happy with my 50k

my parents got divorced when I was young and me and my brother have psychological/personality problems as a result that still affect us today as adults. divorce also affects the kids.

Kids are grown, 31 years wasted on someone who never really loved me but we had 2 children and they deserved a childhood.Waited until oldest finished school and I paid $700 to end it. He still lives in house as he cannot afford to survive on his own. We have always been friends so it works out. I bear him no ill will.

it freed me from a backstabbing and coniving bitch!


NEVER EVER GET MARRIED!

the lawyers and the courts need to find the party with the money at fault. Anything else and the whole thing collapses.
Men are the only ones that can be found guilty and everyone else gets paid.

You are in the matrix.
You cant play fair and win

No regrets, still good friends today.

Last time I got married, I placed a pistola in the table in front of her and told her that this is the only kind of divorce proceedings allowed from now on, either you do me, or I do you.
no lawyers are gonna make a dime off this marriage this time

Made me a easier person to live with , little things dont bother me anymore.

I never married my daughters' mother because she would have been lying were she to promise to be faithful to me for the remainder of her natural physical life.

Out of the non-marriage non-divorce situation I came through with full custody of both of my children.

You'll do alright next time, OP. That is, if you begin to take ownership of your faults that placed you into your position. If you only ever look at the details of your present situation when seeking solidarity, you will learn nothing.

after that you understand ugly guy to have a good life after all lol

It's freed up some chicks to bang, if you can handle the baggage.

the only function of marriage nowadays is as a profit center for the officers of the court.