What has divorce done to you?

Because divorce is common?

As common as ignorance.

Well, you can cure your ignorance by learning about what knowledge you lack...too bad to can't cure stupidity though, sorry about your luck :(

Looking at it in the rear view mirror I can only say it made Me Stronger.

Sorry but the divorce isn't the issue, it's the parents that create the problems during and after the divorce.

If as a parent you set the right boundaries, give enough freedom of choice and love unreservedly, your kids WILL grow up well adjusted, independently minded and understand that they are only as good as the last decision they make.

I'm sorry you have to look in a mirror to cope with reality while conversing with others.

Learned more about forgiveness than I thought I could ever learn.

Forgive, forgive and forgive until it hurts!!!

My wife decided that our 16 year marriage wasn't worth trying to keep together so she went and found the love of her life and decided to walk away.

She said our marriage was like a partnership. I loved my wife dearly and it cut into my soul like a knife but she was right there was no passion. I bit my tongue as much as humanly possible and remained friendly to her through it all. (I highly recommend to anyone in this situation)

30 days later she needed money to help get her own place and start a business, I gave her some money to help her, she also came to the house and I gave here anything and everything she wanted in the way of furniture and possessions.

I kept physical custody of my son,then 10 year old, now he is 14.

After 3 1/2 years we are still not divorced. I set up an online divorce and told her I'm not going to fight her in court but would like her to fill out the divorce paperwork so we can just get it over.

She still hasn't filled out the paperwork and tells me she isn't in a hurry to get remarried and thus isn't in a hurry to get divorced.

I asked her why she wont get divorced, after all she is making as much money as I am and we already split all the possessions. The only answer she gives is "I don't know".

To this day I await patiently for her to finish the divorce paperwork. About every six months or so I ask her to finish up and its just the same old thing.

Im not interested in ever marrying again so it isnt really a big deal to me either although it would be nice to be legally single.

left after last college bill was paid. Stayed too long though.I wanted to see son finish college with all bills paid. Split everything 50/50. Paid huge emotional price.though for staying so long. I survived the massive abuse because I had an escape plan.
Never been happier. Don t have much. dont need much.
Nothing like freedom after mental imprisonment.By the way I am female, if you are keeping score.

you and your brother are douchebags, grow the fuck up.

I got my clothes and an antique table that belonged to my grandparents. She kept everything else, including furniture, china and silver given to us by my mom.

Paid about $102,000 over the course of 5 years for my step-daughter...under the table so she did not have to declare it on her taxes (meaning I did not get the deduction).

I'll finally recover financially when I win the PowerBall tonite

You can thank the governments involvement in marriage for this.

"There is money to be made" in Family Law.

Sorry for your losses. Hope things get better for you.

I have paid more than 360K in Child support for two kids who are grown now and the ex-wife never spent a fucking dime on them. Instead, the worthless cunt bragged to them that she could now re-furnish her house, get new hardwood floors, etc. I even paid for their clothes when they were growing up because this cunt refused to dress them in decent clothes. My kids are adults now and they see what a greedy, self absorbed loser she is. They HATE her.

I even bought both my kids used cars when they were 16 to 18 and still help them financially when I can.

The ex remarried someone who makes twice or three times what I make and they still fucking complain. (While they take their vacations, cruises, and live in a super nice home in a resort community).

Both my kids have small kids of their own now. The ex hasn't worked in years and won't even by Christmas or birthday gifts for the grandkids. This is NOT abnormal...MOST women do this shit.... and, you women one there who think your pussy is a ATM machine...well, you are right...thanks to our corrupt Government. Your kids will see you for what you are and they will despise you when they grow up. Bitches like this will die alone and NO ONE will give a fuck about you.

NEVER, EVER get married....no MATTER how much you think she won't fuck you over...she will and since the courts are run by loser, greedy cunts, the courts will be glad to help.

You never really know a women until you meet her in court.

best line ever-- You never really know a woman till you meet her in court--lol because it is so tr


more happy and peaceful after real forgiveness


better organized
more active
enjoy holidays way more (one way to your parents is a death sentence ladies)
now kids go to my side of family more
my family gets to see them more
disneyland dad gets better quality time w sons
no more laundry-- that gets sent back to their moms dirty
more hunting,fishing, mountainbiking
more spontaneous

debauchery, I'm in your boat. I'm a female and my ex ruined me financially. You hear all these stories about money grubbing women. There are men like this too. I always worked, made more than him. All I wanted was a 50-50 split. We don't even have that much. He continues to fight me because he wants it all: wont' rest until I have nothing. I hope he rots in hell. I really do.

Oh, but I should add that I'm infinitely better off. Even if he financially destroys me. I found a quality man who treats me with respect, shows me love, and appreciates me. He does not put me down and nitpick every blessed thing I do. I don't have to walk on eggshells.

If I yelled at this new man (and he is in the true sense of the word, a man. A gentle man) in unchecked anger I do not have to fear that he would ever lift a finger toward me. Not that I ever would yell at him. He is a kind and good person. I love and appreciate him, and I tell him this every day.

So yeah, my ex can suck on that.

Let's see.. destroyed the best years of my life and my future, and left a trail of pain and devastation in it's wake.

I did the same thing. We separated. I filled out his forms and my forms, dividing the debts and the property. He didn't contest it, but did wait awhile to sign off on it. After about 10 months the final divorce papers came in the mail and it was done.

Wow she dumped you that coldly stealing your money and then asked for child support?

So lame.

Never should have married her in the first place. We had a amiable divorce and have a functional co-parent relationship. She's immature though so it can change like the weather.

BEFORE: 1 million in debt, drove a shit car, she cheated like an assclown without bothering to be kind, lived with her lies, went crazy, carried the world on my shoulders

AFTER: no debt, thousands in savings, no stress

Sometimes it's an easy decision. If the woman is a monster that makes it easy.

married her because she got pregnant, had 2 more kids because of the eggs in one basket theory, worked out fine but was sure a bumpy road when i had to kick her to the curb, took 3 years to get back to normal, hang in there

Some sad stories here.
Tough times that came from what was supposed to be a force.

I was happy when my parents divorced bc it was not a good match and I was tired of their issues spilling in to my life as a teen. Drama. I was not able to even consider marriage until mid 30s.

Its definitely a shit system. I can't understand how people can't act like grown ups and sort their own shit fairly. Only trailer trash need to go through child support.

#1 is a serial cheater. I left two days after I caught him kissing another woman. He didn't know what was coming mayflower came packed my stuff and I took my young kids and moved back home.
He paid a small amount of child support but never kept up with his end of anything. I made a real bad choice but he made pretty babies.

#2 was common law wedding and common law divorce. We remain friends to this day. It just didn't work we made better friends. I left with what I came with.

Divorce from #1 kind of made me a hater. He's such a jerk.

I'm sorry to hear that. But at least your children are now safe. No house or money will make up for having that type of influence in their lives.

And she also lost her children. How sad for her. I'm sure you wished your kids had a solid, healthy mother in their lives.

In Australia, we have to register with a government body before we register for child support. That government body pays us a small amount depending on how much we receive from the supporting partner. What people here don't usually realise, if you agree to wipe the child support debt, this government body will class it as you have been paid that money and you will end up with a debt to the government.

That is soooo wrong.