'We're married, we just don't have sex'

Sex tween a man and a woman is an abomination
in the eyes of the Lord.

Book of Argos Ch6 Verse19

Well, that is fine but don't be telling people sex is disgusting just because you don't want to have it.

that is what a woman on another forum said about her non-sexual relationship with her husband. that it would never end. after a few decades her husband ran off with another woman and had a normal sexual relationship with her. this woman is now living with another woman because normal men do not want to live like this.

No, it is not.

Easy OP.

You're ruffling feathers amongst the cavemen here,. Lol

The people attacking you are defined by their genitalia. Im willing to bet that the attackers are mostly, if not all, men. For them, being a "man" means having a big "stick" and strutting it. How else would they define themselves if they didnt use their stick?

The idea of a life without sex is impossible for them. Worse, they insult others who find a meaningful life without the need of sex.

If they only knew that women could care less. And their stick competitions are nothing more than cavemen chest-thumping-rights amongst themselves.

So how could they imagine a life, never mind a relationship, without using their sticks? The vast majority of people equate sex with love.

Kudos to you and your spouse for rising above the bonds of physical entrapments.

Hey, well I give him 5 points for trying to get evolved . I mean a few decades!?! Even though he failed miserably, that underdeveloped human deserves an applause.

Yes, the AC was.

People who have an aversion to sex are always ugly, fat, and generally grostesque and their sexual malaise is nature's way of preventing such defective genetics from spreading. This particular OP got her hymen shredded by some cowboy who rawdogged a load and fled the scene. Her emotions, like her hymen, will never heal and now she has built a defence mechanism that she is somehow superior from conducting the very act that created her current mental state. Now she has found a husband that is playing along, for now, with the sexless and ultimately loveless marriage. He is either a secret cum guzzler, OR a brow beaten straight male who will someday overindulge in Budweisers at some neighbour's bbq and then either fuck a neighbors wife to smithereens or come home and beat and fuck said celibate wife when she protests such barbarism. If he is truly repressed, then look out when that cork finally blows.

Completely wrong.

My husband is physically beautiful. Absolutely goregous man.

I think this is a bot.

Wrong again.

Benn married more then 10 years and the sex is still great.

The only disgusting part is if it has been more than 1 week, this is both of us.

But everybody is different and expect different things from life.

I really don't understand the Neanderthal connection, and I don't understand the small dicks thing either, and I don't understand the "using you for your house" thing either ... Who is to say that the house wasn't hers, and why do "big dicks" equal satisfying women, only an idiot would think that simplistically.

Asexual relationships = friendship.

Marriage or partnerships (even just dating, haha) ought to take it further - to that bliss place you find with great sex. The most natural thing in the world for us humans.

Why in the world you would call that 'disgusting' is beyond me.

But to each his own OP. As long as you're happy.

:flowerssmile:

Thank You :)

You're just doing this for attention, that you could be getting in the bedroom. You give us new agers a bad name, my friend.

Also, the false sense of superiority you are getting is just holding you back. We are human, it's natural, as long as its with someone you love and you dont obsess over it. You aren't better just because you aren't sexually attracted to each other. And thinking so makes you worse than many of us.

Underdeveloped human :)

I'm an evolved human.

What else can I say?

Only for you underdeveloped humans.


Please don't make the mistake of grouping all of us into the same boat.

Sex is a bodily function, like going to the toilet. If someone bragged about their poop all the time what would you think of them?

The two are completely different things.

In response to my earlier posting from my own very old Catholic perspective, wherein I maintained that the sexual act is sin, with a quote from King David in the Psalms (page 5 of this thread), a couple of people provided Bible verses also.

I need to point out that in the omniscience of God, the Fall of Adam and Eve was foreknown... and that in Genesis 2:24, the reference to the man leaving his parents to cleave to his wife to become "one flesh" was describing a future contingency -- since clearly Adam had no parents he would be leaving, obviously.

In the New Testament, after 4,000 years of human history, Jesus Christ, and later the Apostle Paul (who was the author of the Letters to the Corinthians, as well as The Book of Hebrews in the N.T.), acknowledged that men and women would continue to marry and bear children.

Please note the famous quote "the marriage bed undefiled" is a misstranslation which correctly reads: "The marriage bed SHOULD BE undefiled." You can check this for yourself in numerous KJV scholarly references, or your pastor can confirm it for you, if he has a proper library.

Similarly, the Apostle Paul's advice, and I paraphrase, "Marry, or burn" is his way of helping people to handle a reality of everyday life, where the majority of people will never put God first, and their lusts second.

Religious marriage vows and family life were instituted to provide human beings with a compromise, adjusted to their inability to control their physical natures and fight Satan's seductions.

Couples married in the Church go to heaven, having practised sexual gratification throughout their lives.

As a former Assemblies of God licensed Pastor, and now a baptized and confirmed pre-20th century Catholic (don't get me started on Vatican II), I have thought these matters out carefully over the years.

Don't forget what Jesus said about eunuchs - "for the kingdom of heaven's sake." Here is the passage in its full context from Matthew 19:

Matthew 19

King James Version (KJV)

19 And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;

2 And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.

3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

It doesn't bother me. Good for you but I enjoy pleasing the woman I love. Remember though you would not be here now if your parents didn't. :)

If neither of you feel desire, it is likely to be a hormonal malfunction, not a spiritually enlightened state.

But, I guess if you're happy with the way things are, keep going, I hope you can keep an option open, to have sex in the future.

Nope, you are completely wrong.

I was trying to be nice, but you are pretty judgmental OP. To declare yourself more 'developed' than the rest of us is quite arrogant I must say!

this was a joke from her side (i have to laugh a little bit myself here)

do you understand that you yourself give this view credence by your reply? you yourself seem to believe in the notion of 'more developed people'

get it?

lol

I'm only speaking the truth, Sloane.