dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya!

It's just the honeymoon period, it'll all be over soon.

You are thinking to much …… stop it!..... enjoy life

Sex.

Sounds like casual dating. Nothing has been promised or insinuated so he's just exploring his options.

Hope it works out op!

sometimes the good guys win

don't 'over think' it.

Caution is a good thing. Psychopaths too are extremely charming.

It takes time to really know someone.

Enjoy it and don't overthink it.
It sounds like you are still logging on, too.

Don't you think you would be better off asking him about his continued online activities than asking us? You would get better and more instant feedback that way.

Did you discuss your non-negotiable needs in a relationship (e.g. monogamy, marriage, children)?

You should do so ASAP so there are no misunderstandings.

He will probably be surprised because most people don't know what they want and just jump into a relationship with no goal in mind.

If he is not on the same page as you regarding needs, let him go.

Soon, for him, it will be "Don't care, had sex."

Then you will see what he is about.

No one can know, so take it slow and easy. He has introduced you to a friend(s) and taken you to his home so he apparently is not married nor living with someone.

Does he speak of his family? Learn a little more, enjoy the moment and do not jump into bed. Do not get needy nor worry too much, it will be or not.

It sounds like this guy is very nice and does like you.

I like that he put in that straw so you 2 could share the drink, he sounds thoughtful.

I have low self esteem too, and I understand how you might feel. However I feel this guy likes you as much as you like him.

everything sounds find to me, don't know what your beefin about. just chill, everythings fine. he only checks the single site cause it is an addiction. he should be discouraged from it, but he doesn't need to have busted balls over the whole thing.

This^ Cant emphasize this enough. Sadly i need to do the same.

I totally understand your apprehension. If he was on the dating site for a while it's possible that he formed a few friendly relationships.

It seems you are getting along with him so I would continue to date him. It's only been 2 weeks and maybe he is playing the field a bit.

I wouldn't ask him why he is still logging on to the dating site, it may turn him off because you are just getting to know each other.

See what happens but remain guarded, I wouldn't throw away a potential good match for the reason stated. Good luck..I hope it works out for you.

Just stay true to yourself OP and be confident in yourself. You're only just getting to know him so stay loose and have fun.


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After two weeks and the super analysis?!

Just relax and enjoy the ride.....

Drink his sperm and get genital warts on your mouth.

It never hurts to be straight forward with men. In fact, I believe they prefer it. They aren't wired for the games we play, or the needs that we infer but never outright present to them. When I met my husband (we've been married 10 years) I was very straight forward with him. Right from the begining of dating...I said "we need to have a talk.....these are my needs, this is what I am looking for....this is where I want to head with this...if you don't see yourself going here, it would be best for both of us to not move forward but keep looking...." and I am so thankful he wanted the same outcome. I have tried to be straight forward with him and direct throughout our dating years/marriage. I always tell him exactly what I want or what I am feeling and he does the same for me...the games and the unspoken needs are what hurts people most of the time. and believe me...if I tell him ANYTHING I need (hold my hand in public, tell me you still think I am beautiful, etc) he jumps at the chance to do it. But I know that if I expected him to know what I wanted he would never meet the mark, and vice versa. He tells me what he needs from me (give him a list, give him his personal time to do what he enjoys, etc) and it works so well. but right from the begining....before I would go out a second time or let him hold my hand I wanted to make sure we were on the same page....not as a promise to eachother so soon but as an agreement that neither of us took dating lightly. Sounds to me like you are future minded and don't want something casual. You might want to be direct and make sure you are both on the same page. And I agree wholeheartedly....if your gut is telling you there's something not quite right, then get out of it now, no matter how good it looks. We have those senses for a reason

Very wise advice.

Its sounds to me that he really likes you and trusts you, seeing how he left his cell phone with you.

He may be logging in to see if you have logged in, who knows, he may be wondering the same thing you are. Lol

I think your just being paranoid because it may seem to good to be true like you said, but have faith, be positive, and enjoy your time together.

Just think about this, you cannot completely control how this turns out, if its meant to be, then it will be.

I would just keep getting to know him, have fun, ask friendly, non threatening questions, and try and trust your intuition.

As soon as you see red flags, end it, because red flags are always a sign of worse things to come.

Good luck to you:)

some men just don't want to settle for one woman. you will just have to enjoy the time you have with him and not expect a future.

Yeah, doesn't OP have to log in to the dating site to know that HE'S logging in as well??

OP, if something doesn't feel right about this guy, go with your gut.

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That's Hilarious! Lolo

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Last Edited by Doomina on 03/05/2013 11:51 AM

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Last Edited by Doomina on 03/05/2013 11:51 AM

I don't know. Sounds really unusual. Step back and wait....

Forgot to log on.

Sounds like he has been banging chicks he meets online.

If he has gone that far out of his way to make you feel comfortable, he was looking to get in your pants and move on to the next girl.

No guys are that aware of how a girl feels around his friends. Or asks over and over again.

Sorry about your situation op