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Why do our first loves seem to be so much more real than the rest?

 
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12/05/2012 09:40 AM
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OP... I dunno if I would label it LOVE. Better term would be OBSESSION....
In the end it doesn't even matter...
William_the_Bloody

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12/05/2012 01:06 PM
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Update:

It's going very well.

Having done this before with smaller fish, this is the best case scenario.

Usually it's small talk, bullet point catch up and then we litter each other's friends page with nary a "Like" on anyone's status updates.

This one is opening up to me on a deeper level, giving me permission to do the same. I feel that an old/new friendship is in the works and she's still the same spunky girl I knew so long ago...1986-87.

She's revealed to me that she's not-so-happy with her current situation.

I am fairly happy with mine, but if there's only one temptation on Earth to bring it all down, it's her.

It would be easier if she were a train wreck.
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12/06/2012 02:43 AM
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Update:

It's going very well.

Having done this before with smaller fish, this is the best case scenario.

Usually it's small talk, bullet point catch up and then we litter each other's friends page with nary a "Like" on anyone's status updates.

This one is opening up to me on a deeper level, giving me permission to do the same. I feel that an old/new friendship is in the works and she's still the same spunky girl I knew so long ago...1986-87.

She's revealed to me that she's not-so-happy with her current situation.

I am fairly happy with mine, but if there's only one temptation on Earth to bring it all down, it's her.

It would be easier if she were a train wreck.
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So strange how someone can be out of your life for such a long time but still remain in your heart and then just walk right back into it again. Obviously you did the groundwork but it is obviously what both parties wanted all along. I hope that you remain friends and remember to keep the important people in your life, even when things seem hard.

hf
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12/06/2012 02:55 AM
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OP... I dunno if I would label it LOVE. Better term would be OBSESSION....
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“…I have never understood the concept of infatuation. It has always been my understanding that being ‘infatuated’ with someone means you think you are in love, but you’re actually not; infatuation is (supposedly) just a foolish, fleeting feeling. But if being ‘in love’ is an abstract notion, and it’s not tangible, and there is no way to physically prove it to anyone else… well, how is being in love any different than having an infatuation? They’re both human constructions. If you think you’re in love with someone and you feel like you’re in love with someone, then you obviously are; thinking and feeling is the sum total of what love is. Why do we feel an obligation to certify emotions with some kind of retrospective, self-imposed authenticity?”
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12/06/2012 03:22 AM
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It's not spiritual love. But it is intense biological love. Humans are made to imprint on their mates, similar to how animal parents imprint on their young. This is because it's an easily observable fact that humans are by nature monogamist or at least serial monogamists.

The first love is the strongest imprint. In a perfect world we wouldn't have to look beyond that. Interesting fact that of all relationships high school romances are the most likely to succeed long term.
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12/06/2012 09:24 PM
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bump
William_the_Bloody

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12/11/2012 11:21 AM
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Another update:

I am over-eager for the dialogue to keep going, but I am sensing that I'm being kept on the end of a long pole. If I make a post, she "Likes" it, but actual exchange of Q&A, well, the turnaround is pretty long thus halting momentum. In short, being very in touch with my inner world, and having felt this before...I'm over-invested.

I need to be glad I found her and got to catch up a bit, but I also need to let go of long-held fantasies that finding her would create a chain-reaction.

A bit of sadness that I don't seem to hold the same spot in her heart that she does mine. Then again, with the life she's led, I doubt she's had that much time to even look back.
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weird timing.

I have long suspected that the first person you love stays in your head no matter what forever.

And after the 2 weeks I have had I think that any thought about them conjures them back into your life accidentally.

Good luck.
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SoCalGuy

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I believe in love at first sight. my last relationship was the best I've ever known. I felt like I was in high school all over again, it was that passionate. Who would have thought? Yeah I remember my 1st and that was great at that time, but as we all grow wiser, seems to me that the depth of future relationships can have alot more depth to them if you are open to it. Life can be surprising and hope it still has some left. HA.
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