Sort of depressed - life without purpose

Hi fellow GLPers.

I'm 36 and feel that life is going nowhere. I lost my dream job last year after a senior manager took it upon themselves to engineer my dismissal because I constantly demonstrated that they couldn't do their job. I got a handsome payoff not to sue them, but had to start from scratch careerwise.

My girlfriend left me soon after as well.

I started work at another place right at the bottom and have quickly worked my way up to a managerial position just by avoiding office politics, working hard and helping out fellow workers who were struggling.

But it all just feels so pointless. People would look at me and think, "Oh, hasn't he done well. He's honest, hard-working and helps other people," but I can't help feel that I'm just going to be shat on again.

I've not made the mistake of opening up to anyone at work. It's strange how people feel comfortable enough to confide in me (and I would genuinely never betray their confidence) but they know very little about me apart from my 'work persona'.

Outside of work, my friends are all married up with kids so no-one goes out much. I just come home, go on the internet, sleep, wake up, go to work, come home, round and round. I did try joining a few clubs outside of work, but got a bit bored.

I don't feel as if I can trust women anymore either.

I still talk to my close family, but my parents have spent so much of the last decade bombarding me with their woes and not taking any notice of mine that I'm just not bothered about them anymore. Don't get me wrong, I do love them, but tired of being an emotional sponger for them when it should be the other way round.

I just feel empty. My cat makes me happy, and I like sci-fi shows.. I like coming on here and laughing at Hagel and Valugua etc. But these things are so little.

When I look at how desperately sad things are in the world with so much suffering and despair... I dunno.

I'm probably just tired, but it's good to let it out. I know there are good things and good people out there.. but I just can't connect with it anymore. How do I connect with it in a genuine way, and not just pretending so as to appear normal? I can only fake the smile so much.

Hi fellow GLPers.

I'm 36 and feel that life is going nowhere. I lost my dream job last year after a senior manager took it upon themselves to engineer my dismissal because I constantly demonstrated that they couldn't do their job. I got a handsome payoff not to sue them, but had to start from scratch careerwise.

My girlfriend left me soon after as well.

I started work at another place right at the bottom and have quickly worked my way up to a managerial position just by avoiding office politics, working hard and helping out fellow workers who were struggling.

But it all just feels so pointless. People would look at me and think, "Oh, hasn't he done well. He's honest, hard-working and helps other people," but I can't help feel that I'm just going to be shat on again.

I've not made the mistake of opening up to anyone at work. It's strange how people feel comfortable enough to confide in me (and I would genuinely never betray their confidence) but they know very little about me apart from my 'work persona'.

Outside of work, my friends are all married up with kids so no-one goes out much. I just come home, go on the internet, sleep, wake up, go to work, come home, round and round. I did try joining a few clubs outside of work, but got a bit bored.

I don't feel as if I can trust women anymore either.

I still talk to my close family, but my parents have spent so much of the last decade bombarding me with their woes and not taking any notice of mine that I'm just not bothered about them anymore. Don't get me wrong, I do love them, but tired of being an emotional sponger for them when it should be the other way round.

I just feel empty. My cat makes me happy, and I like sci-fi shows.. I like coming on here and laughing at Hagel and Valugua etc. But these things are so little.

When I look at how desperately sad things are in the world with so much suffering and despair... I dunno.

I'm probably just tired, but it's good to let it out. I know there are good things and good people out there.. but I just can't connect with it anymore. How do I connect with it in a genuine way, and not just pretending so as to appear normal? I can only fake the smile so much.

Just take antidepressants and become a happy zombie. Give up, there is no point trying to fix it through doing things or thinking things or feeIng things. The only hope is to obliterate your angst through pharmaceutical numbness. Resistance is futile, join the pharmaBorg.

I will change your life, for the better.

Nex year, grow a garden. A large garden. A vegetable garden, of food that you can eat, and share with your friends, or whoever. If you live in the city, grow in containers wherever possible. If you are near the country, ask a farmer if they will leave a corner of a field for you to use (say, a 100 x 50 foot plot, that they have already plowed, pay them something for this, of course), and just drive out there once a week to tend it. Think big, even in the first year, and try growing a wide variety of plants. Even try growing wheat if you can get a larger plot for this. Try beekeeping there as well if you are really feeling ambitious.

All of these activities will open up numerous new opportunities for you... you will be doing something relaxing outdoors, you will meet new people, you will see the fruits of your labours, you will be experiencing things most humans before this age knew of, and you will just feel good doing it, every step of the way.

It's the start of winter, so you have a couple of months to get your seeds together, do some reading, talk with people, and make plans for May.

Do this, and your life will be better when next fall rolls around, I promise you!

Hi fellow GLPers.

I'm 36 and feel that life is going nowhere. I lost my dream job last year after a senior manager took it upon themselves to engineer my dismissal because I constantly demonstrated that they couldn't do their job. I got a handsome payoff not to sue them, but had to start from scratch careerwise.

My girlfriend left me soon after as well.

I started work at another place right at the bottom and have quickly worked my way up to a managerial position just by avoiding office politics, working hard and helping out fellow workers who were struggling.

But it all just feels so pointless. People would look at me and think, "Oh, hasn't he done well. He's honest, hard-working and helps other people," but I can't help feel that I'm just going to be shat on again.

I've not made the mistake of opening up to anyone at work. It's strange how people feel comfortable enough to confide in me (and I would genuinely never betray their confidence) but they know very little about me apart from my 'work persona'.

Outside of work, my friends are all married up with kids so no-one goes out much. I just come home, go on the internet, sleep, wake up, go to work, come home, round and round. I did try joining a few clubs outside of work, but got a bit bored.

I don't feel as if I can trust women anymore either.

I still talk to my close family, but my parents have spent so much of the last decade bombarding me with their woes and not taking any notice of mine that I'm just not bothered about them anymore. Don't get me wrong, I do love them, but tired of being an emotional sponger for them when it should be the other way round.

I just feel empty. My cat makes me happy, and I like sci-fi shows.. I like coming on here and laughing at Hagel and Valugua etc. But these things are so little.

When I look at how desperately sad things are in the world with so much suffering and despair... I dunno.

I'm probably just tired, but it's good to let it out. I know there are good things and good people out there.. but I just can't connect with it anymore. How do I connect with it in a genuine way, and not just pretending so as to appear normal? I can only fake the smile so much.

Agreed. I believe it happens but it is rare.

Esp. now that most humans never mature.

yo, life is too awesome and profound for you to feel this way!

You should feel honored that others like and confide in you AND that those fools had to pay you off to fire you--some people just get canned...

Don't be surprised that some people do sucky things--they just do and it shouldn't surprise you nor bring you down.

I have a friend who was getting dumped a lot by girls and to me it always seemed like he was asking for it. You need to get in touch with the profounder aspects of this reality and find someone willing to go there with you, or else you will be doomed to mediocrity and getting dumped...

So forget about women for now and focus on what makes life real and interesting for you--and take chances, think big and just start the journey, whatever it is: music, art, researching whether or not Christ is real or giants roamed the earth...

consider that the entire cosmos obeys laws and rules, but you have free will... to think anything... to do spontaneous acts of kindness... to love others in unique ways...

:)

As soon as you lose your job or health they bail out on you. And i see very few women speaking out against it which adds to the hopelessness. Just mentioning this will label you a woman hater and people demonise and vilify you.

It really is all pointless. Its as if one needs to have a family, career, health etc just to feel as if there is a purpose for life.

Then you die.

But if you don't have those things, you're unhappy.

Then you die.

Different path, same result, ergo it's all pointless.

I think, God is really tired and he's realizing he's fooled himself long enough with his own devices that he's grown ambivalent and disconnected with mankind.

What happens when a child loses interest in his toys? They just lay there doing nothing.

The biggest lie of all time!

the women thing. Sounds like we have the same problem. When women become this shallow and flaky it does take the purpose out of everything.

But is not the journey of life more important? Whether you believe in an after life or not, does your attitude towards life not directly have in impact on people around you? Are you not moved by a person giving you a smile without reason? Did such an act not influence you, and would it have occured if that person would have thought life is pointless?

My purpose in this life is to be an Observer.

Of the End Times.

Just take antidepressants and become a happy zombie. Give up, there is no point trying to fix it through doing things or thinking things or feeIng things. The only hope is to obliterate your angst through pharmaceutical numbness. Resistance is futile, join the pharmaBorg.