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REPORT ABUSIVE REPLY
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What Was Your One Big Mistake In Life?
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I lost the only love of my life.
The opportunities were there and I blew it. He was not perfect but I kept saying "I'll find someone better". I never have.
I think about him a lot.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15751650 this is why I tell young people, when you meet someone that makes you laugh, love and live, don't wait for someone better to come along. Grab that person and get busy living,loving and laughing. The world is filled with wonderful people and too many times people get greedy thinking someone better will come along. There are no perfect people. Most women make the mistake of chasing career and thinking they are going to find their prince charming at age 35+ when in reality you have a better chance of meeting mr right in your early 20s. You realize this when you hit 40 and you go back to who you were at 18, its a strange process, going back to your roots. You spend your entire life growing and evolving, only to return to the innocence you had in youth. Best thing I ever did was run off and marry the man that stole my heart in my early 20s... we've grown together is so many ways and we've helped each other through the big changes everyone encounters at one time or another. ] You are smart. I also got married young, no regrets. People are poisoned by the abundance of choices. It seems like there is infinite possibility and people think the sky is the limit, they are going to be millionares and have the perfect job and family, blah blah blah...then by the time they recognize their limitations it is too late. Nobody is happy with "good enough" anymore, whether in marriage or other areas of life.
Contemporary culture instills a delusional "go for broke" attitude. People don't have a sense of perspective anymore. good points. also, people get caught up in the 'soul mate' crap, which IDK if it really exists, all I know is I married my best friend who means the world to me, so I assume he's my 'soul mate' My point is, many times people think at first sign of struggle or growth in a marriage that they married the wrong person, when in actuality they are most likely just experiencing a period of growth in the relationship and if you are wise enough to throw a life vest on, you'll weather the storm and keep sailing along to calmer waters once the storm passes. All I know at this stage of my life is if you can find someone who is honest with you and is willing to be unconditional with their love, then you've found "the one". Trust is the foundation of a good friendship and any long term marriage is defined by the friendship the husband and wife share together, its something money just can't buy. and the younger you make friends the more trust you can build upon, hopefully.
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