I'm Dealing With Someone Who Values Emotion Over Reason

shes a woman.
and even though you are male you can LEARN to relate on an empathis ;level-themn she may be willing to communicate and hear what youre saying better-once she knows youre Hearing how she feels and understand that.
shes female youre male.this shit happens, its how you deal with it that matters.

Been there... the worst of it is, they don't value us for our minds or intellects (at all). You're mistaken if you think she does.

Oh, that must be a woman :-P

Take a university critical thinking course. Then take a university interpersonal communication course. Okay, then take a university general psychology course. Then you won't need to post your hastily generalized Freudianesque misread of a girl's preference for civilized conversation.

Baloney. My ex-husband could not reason his way out of a paper bag and threw temper tantrums to get his way.

The stereotyping on this site is stupid.

When you raise your voice "a little", please stop to think about why you are raising your voice. Is it to make yourself audible over ambient background noise? (that would be the only purely logical reason) Or is it because you yourself are displaying angry aggression?

A voice raised in anger is among the first steps towards escalating violence. A perceptive person, animal, or amoeba knows that. And anticipates the escalation.

A wise person often knows that it is best to discontinue interacting with the aggression at that point, rather than remain involved for the next step of the confrontation.

You may be quick to look down upon someone who withdraws from your raised voice because it is "just" a voice, technically not an act of violence... yet.

But please realize that a raised voice in and of itself is part of an ancient primal gut-level escalation into violence, not a logical thing.

In short, once a voice is raised -- that is to say that the first party enters into the ancient primal escalation of aggression -- he is the one who has breached and abandoned logical communication and entered into primal conflict.

The brain wisely shuts down listening to the intellectual meaning of the words and prepares itself for combat.

Because physical assault is the next step. Truly.

Women are braindead when it comes to out-of-box problems. We are heading into an economic abyss as the feminists discuss gay marriage.

Most people are mentally insane seriously about 80% of people think bizarre thoughts and want to kill other people and fuck with their lives.

Don't cry now. Mommy will fix the mess that Daddy made, as usual.

The human brain has three distinct parts:

1. The reptilian brain - interested in fighting, eating and procreating

2. The mammal brain - focused on social status and emotion

3. The frontal lobes - where logic, creativity, and spirituality is handled


The frontal lobes are practically dormant in most people, and such people will alternate between emotional social drama (mammal) and defensive aggression (reptilian).

Your friend is a textbook example.

Agreed. I thought the stereotyping was a joke at first. Very disturbing to find out people really think like this! Its perhaps the doomiest thing of all.

Why not try finding out if she had any early experiences that have shaped this reflex?