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Anonymous Coward User ID: 29311787 Canada 12/08/2012 10:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Empathy is the key. Quoting: ANHEDONIC Practice placing yourself in other peoples' shoes. Make an honest effort to try and understand a situation from another individual's perspective or vantage point. To do this you must be able to temporarily disregard your own feelings/emotions in order to assume that of another. Look at this endeavor as a challenge. It's a skill that you will refine over time. Practice. The more you are able to step outside of your individual perspective and gain an awareness for the perspective of others, the less inclined you will feel to only identify with your own emotions/thoughts/perspective. This is great advice too. Anhedonic: I find myself relating to, and being inspired by, a lot of your posts! Thanks for sharing your thoughts |
BRIEF User ID: 29128920 United States 12/08/2012 10:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not if you learn to say no Never liked that word...yes sounds sooooo much better I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
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BRIEF User ID: 29128920 United States 12/08/2012 10:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Did you talk to Sexy Rexy? I guess not, who is that? I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
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Pyractomena borealis User ID: 20793638 United States 12/08/2012 10:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mommy was brainwashed. There is nothing so powerful as truth, and often nothing so strange ~ Daniel Webster Omnia Vincit Amor ~ Virgil The more you learn, the less you know ~ Socrates That writer does the most, who gives his reader the most knowledge, and takes from him the least time. ~ Charles Caleb Colton |
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BRIEF User ID: 29128920 United States 12/08/2012 10:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hahaha.. Good ol' Brief. Though you should be banned for sig like that. Because of anti-semitism. How is nuking the carpet flopping towel heads antisemitism? Last Edited by BRIEF on 12/08/2012 10:33 PM I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
BRIEF User ID: 29128920 United States 12/08/2012 10:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mommy was brainwashed. Some brainwashing is good...she brainwashed me into eating my vegetables and now I have brainwashed my children into eating their vegetables...how is that bad? I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Isis One User ID: 14343270 United States 12/08/2012 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We're ruled by our compulsions to a large extent, surrender to your sense of your higher power. Read the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book and work the 12 steps, apply it to any compulsion (irresistible urge to do something you can't resist) and you will be able to bring consciousness to all you do, that transcends self-centeredness. Last Edited by Isis One on 12/08/2012 10:38 PM Spread the word, change the collective conscious...... THERE IS MORE THAN ENOUGH OF EVERYTHING TO GO AROUND When you are undisciplined, the universe is extremely forgiving and when you are disciplined, the universe is extremely generous. Me One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight, for a very long time, of the shore. Andre Gide [link to www.godlikeproductions.com] |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 29311787 Canada 12/08/2012 10:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | *Its not anti-semitic, but it is racist. relatedly, OP: another good way to become less self-centered is to drop stereotypes and hatred. These are symptoms of fear and insecurity. These too can be remedied through love and acceptance of the self. |
Pyractomena borealis User ID: 20793638 United States 12/08/2012 10:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mommy was brainwashed. Some brainwashing is good...she brainwashed me into eating my vegetables and now I have brainwashed my children into eating their vegetables...how is that bad? eating veggies = good exclusiveness = bad There is nothing so powerful as truth, and often nothing so strange ~ Daniel Webster Omnia Vincit Amor ~ Virgil The more you learn, the less you know ~ Socrates That writer does the most, who gives his reader the most knowledge, and takes from him the least time. ~ Charles Caleb Colton |
BRIEF User ID: 29128920 United States 12/08/2012 10:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | *Its not anti-semitic, but it is racist. relatedly, OP: another good way to become less self-centered is to drop stereotypes and hatred. These are symptoms of fear and insecurity. These too can be remedied through love and acceptance of the self. Telling the truth is not racist, at least if it is it's the right thing to do, albeit not politically correct, but only pussies give a fuck about that... I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 29311787 Canada 12/08/2012 10:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | *Its not anti-semitic, but it is racist. relatedly, OP: another good way to become less self-centered is to drop stereotypes and hatred. These are symptoms of fear and insecurity. These too can be remedied through love and acceptance of the self. Telling the truth is not racist, at least if it is it's the right thing to do, albeit not politically correct, but only pussies give a fuck about that... "Truth"... More like stating your opinion. And opinions reveal perspectives. |
Ozicell User ID: 28824185 Australia 12/08/2012 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What does it mean to be self centred? Don't confuse this with being self absorbed!! Being self absorbed is all about 'I' come first in ALL things! Being self centred is about your inner being, being the pivot point around which your world revolves. If you're not self centred, you are not balanced and your world will always be out of kilter! When this is the case, you will be of little use to either yourself or those who are your neighbours in the world around you! Being self centred is not a bad thing as you can freely give of yourself in a balanced way but being self absorbed is never good as you are a continual drain on everything around you including yourself! Last Edited by Ozicell on 12/08/2012 10:49 PM That which is - has already been, And what is to be - has already been. Quote: King Solomon. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26795689 United States 12/08/2012 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Far out. This is great advice too. Quoting: Parabola Anhedonic: I find myself relating to, and being inspired by, a lot of your posts! Thanks for sharing your thoughts That is very kind of you to say. Thanks for the feedback. : ) Your username also happens to be the name of an excellent Tool track. We're ruled by our compulsions to a large extent, surrender to your sense of your higher power. Read the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book and work the 12 steps, apply it to any compulsion (irresistible urge to do something you can't resist) and you will be able to bring consciousness to all you do, that transcends self-centeredness. Quoting: Isis One A couple months ago I was listening to a Coast 2 Coast interview and the guest was speaking about spirituality and he was a former alcoholic and was swearing by the 'Big Book' and how valuable/helpful it is. I'm not an alcoholic or anything but I'm always interested in the subject matter of self-help. Who wrote this book and how long is it? Thanks. |
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Démodé User ID: 23771538 Serbia 12/08/2012 10:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hahaha.. Good ol' Brief. Though you should be banned for sig like that. Because of anti-semitism. How is nuking the carpet flopping towel heads antisemitism? Nothing personal Brief.. you know I like you. But knowing what "Semitic" means should redirect to what anti-semitic is. [link to en.wikipedia.org] |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 29311787 Canada 12/08/2012 11:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That is very kind of you to say. Thanks for the feedback. : ) Quoting: ANHEDONIC Your username also happens to be the name of an excellent Tool track. My pleasure. Your posts are enlightening, and often make me laugh, or smile (depending on their intent). Coincidentally, I just found that out that my name is also a tool song two days ago. I searched GLP for Parabola (out of curiosity) and there were "Parabolic" threads about the song. Taking my first listen now. |
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MrWreckedIt User ID: 1078974 United States 12/08/2012 11:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | to be fair when was the last time anyone used anti Semitic to refer to hatred of Muslims. although i will do this from now on to blow minds. this thread is geared more towards spirituality so im bringing it back there... pray/meditate when youre hungry and wide awake. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1667173 United States 12/08/2012 11:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Legendary, That is one of the best questions I've ever seen on GLP. The opposite of Self centeredness is Truth centered-ness. You should seek to know the truth and begin to love the truth more than your opinions. When I say truth, I'm talking about what is in accordance with reality. For example, you should know that any given person's opinion about brain surgery doesn't mean a whole lot unless it aligns to what is actually true about brains. If a person doesn't care about what is true and goes to operate on a brain, the patient dies. The same is true in your relationships with other people. There is a correct way to interact with a person in order to have a healthy relationship. If a person violates that the relationship begins to suffer and eventually dies. If you understand what love really is (to want what is right more than anything else), then you can begin to judge your actions against that standard. If you do this, you will quickly find two things that hamper that correct motive - the need for significance and the need for love and acceptance. These emotional needs, when not properly met and managed, are the source of self centeredness. Men typically want so badly to be significant that they do things they shouldnt or that are harmful. Women want to be loved and accepted so bad that they do the same. These needs begin to drive people and most people don't even know why they're doing what they're doing. If you recognize these fundamental needs within yourself and seek to become do what is right and best instead of constantly feeding these needs - you will become purpose centered instead of self centered. |
BRIEF User ID: 29128920 United States 12/08/2012 11:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Brief has issues. He pushes a raciest agenda. Complete right wing nut. Probably a Trucker in his mid 40's who is indoctrinated by talk radio. I bet he lives somewhere in the south - southwest. Quoting: Legendary I'm 38 and have several businesses, one of which I do financial counseling for people in debt and who are ready to get out of the slavery and insanity of borrowing money... :Briefandyoungest: :kingsisland: I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26795689 United States 12/08/2012 11:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Coincidentally, I just found that out that my name is also a tool song two days ago. I searched GLP for Parabola (out of curiosity) and there were "Parabolic" threads about the song. Taking my first listen now. Quoting: Parabola The style of music might not be everyone's cup of tea but the lyrics are amazing! [link to www.youtube.com] |