How to be less self centered?

This is great advice too.

Anhedonic: I find myself relating to, and being inspired by, a lot of your posts! Thanks for sharing your thoughts

Never liked that word...yes sounds sooooo much better

Did you talk to Sexy Rexy?

volunteer with those who are struggling all the while practicing loving kindness.

I guess not, who is that?

Try looking at "The Law Of One" material, google it.
If you realy mean it, it's a good start.

Best Wishes

Hahaha.. Good ol' Brief.



Though you should be banned for sig like that. Because of anti-semitism.

Mommy was brainwashed.

J.O.Y.

Jesus first
Others second
Yourself last

How is nuking the carpet flopping towel heads antisemitism?

Last Edited by BRIEF on 12/08/2012 10:33 PM

Some brainwashing is good...she brainwashed me into eating my vegetables and now I have brainwashed my children into eating their vegetables...how is that bad?

We're ruled by our compulsions to a large extent, surrender to your sense of your higher power. Read the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book and work the 12 steps, apply it to any compulsion (irresistible urge to do something you can't resist) and you will be able to bring consciousness to all you do, that transcends self-centeredness.

Last Edited by Isis One on 12/08/2012 10:38 PM

*Its not anti-semitic, but it is racist.

relatedly, OP: another good way to become less self-centered is to drop stereotypes and hatred. These are symptoms of fear and insecurity. These too can be remedied through love and acceptance of the self.

eating veggies = good

exclusiveness = bad

Telling the truth is not racist, at least if it is it's the right thing to do, albeit not politically correct, but only pussies give a fuck about that...

"Truth"...
More like stating your opinion.
And opinions reveal perspectives.

What does it mean to be self centred? Don't confuse this with being self absorbed!! Being self absorbed is all about 'I' come first in ALL things! Being self centred is about your inner being, being the pivot point around which your world revolves. If you're not self centred, you are not balanced and your world will always be out of kilter! When this is the case, you will be of little use to either yourself or those who are your neighbours in the world around you!

Being self centred is not a bad thing as you can freely give of yourself in a balanced way but being self absorbed is never good as you are a continual drain on everything around you including yourself!

Last Edited by Ozicell on 12/08/2012 10:49 PM

Far out.





That is very kind of you to say. Thanks for the feedback. : )

Your username also happens to be the name of an excellent Tool track.





A couple months ago I was listening to a Coast 2 Coast interview and the guest was speaking about spirituality and he was a former alcoholic and was swearing by the 'Big Book' and how valuable/helpful it is. I'm not an alcoholic or anything but I'm always interested in the subject matter of self-help. Who wrote this book and how long is it?

Thanks.

Empty yourself of you and be filled with God's love to SHARE and GIVE to others... it makes you less selfish immediately! Believe me, I've been there and done that, it's true!

Nothing personal Brief.. you know I like you. But knowing what "Semitic" means should redirect to what anti-semitic is. [link to en.wikipedia.org]

My pleasure. Your posts are enlightening, and often make me laugh, or smile (depending on their intent).

Coincidentally, I just found that out that my name is also a tool song two days ago. I searched GLP for Parabola (out of curiosity) and there were "Parabolic" threads about the song. Taking my first listen now.

Would you guys stop trying to make this thread about yourselves when it is clearly MY OPINION he wants!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This!

start going to AA and follow the 12 steps, only the first step is about alcohol

Brief has issues. He pushes a raciest agenda. Complete right wing nut. Probably a Trucker in his mid 40's who is indoctrinated by talk radio. I bet he lives somewhere in the south - southwest.

to be fair when was the last time anyone used anti Semitic to refer to hatred of Muslims. although i will do this from now on to blow minds.

this thread is geared more towards spirituality so im bringing it back there...

pray/meditate when youre hungry and wide awake.

Legendary,

That is one of the best questions I've ever seen on GLP.

The opposite of Self centeredness is Truth centered-ness. You should seek to know the truth and begin to love the truth more than your opinions. When I say truth, I'm talking about what is in accordance with reality. For example, you should know that any given person's opinion about brain surgery doesn't mean a whole lot unless it aligns to what is actually true about brains. If a person doesn't care about what is true and goes to operate on a brain, the patient dies.
The same is true in your relationships with other people. There is a correct way to interact with a person in order to have a healthy relationship. If a person violates that the relationship begins to suffer and eventually dies.

If you understand what love really is (to want what is right more than anything else), then you can begin to judge your actions against that standard. If you do this, you will quickly find two things that hamper that correct motive - the need for significance and the need for love and acceptance. These emotional needs, when not properly met and managed, are the source of self centeredness. Men typically want so badly to be significant that they do things they shouldnt or that are harmful. Women want to be loved and accepted so bad that they do the same. These needs begin to drive people and most people don't even know why they're doing what they're doing. If you recognize these fundamental needs within yourself and seek to become do what is right and best instead of constantly feeding these needs - you will become purpose centered instead of self centered.

I'm 38 and have several businesses, one of which I do financial counseling for people in debt and who are ready to get out of the slavery and insanity of borrowing money...




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