MET A Girl Over Thanksgiving....I STILL Think About Her A Lot

have you talked within the last 2 weeks?

nope. It will be 2 weeks tomorrow. I thought I would give it time, more for me to get over this funk I'm in than anything else.

If she hasn't contacted you she isn't interested. I hate to tell you this but it's true. If she HAS contacted you in any way during the last two weeks then go for it. If not, you're just setting yourself up for some heartbreak.
Your life, your decisions, just my 2cents

Funny thing is on the last day we got a little drunk and somethings I only discuss on GLP came out and I thought for sure when I woke up the next morning (the day we were leaving) she wouldn't even want to look at me, but the opposite is true...but again, has to be pure infatuation. If she was only a few hundred miles away I would be so much more inclined to try...I just don't see how this could be healthy, i really just want to get over it all.

Call her....

You guys are such cowards.

in order for anything to manifest itself, believing is the first step.

its your choice.

If I were a guy who clearly felt has passionate as you seem over a girl, I'd call her - you have nothing to lose. The down side is the longer you wait, the more the chance that she rehearses in her mind that you do not like her as much as she may have like you... or that chaos theory steps in and changes her course in life; which could mean you don't come into her life due to other events that lead her down another path due to your cowardness.

time is a nasty, nasty divisive little thing that can either kill a potential love relationship or make it stronger. but in order to make it stronger, you have to connect and bond it first.

time... chaos... choice... bravery...willingness to be vulnerable

I met a girl over Thanksgiving in 1990... To this day I still think of her and last year I got word that she still thinks of me. I went all the way with her the next night and that Saturday, never saw or heard from her again. Your not psychotic by any means. It's always gonna be a what if, so just cherish what you had with her.

OP, Many people have forfeited the one chance they may get at connecting with that one special person that makes them feel as you are describing.

If you don't call her, you can look forward to spending the rest of your time here on GLP posting threads about 'the one that got away' and how from this day on, no other girl could compare. She will be at the forefront of you mind, even as you walk down the aisle with a woman you don't truly love as much as you obsessed over this other woman.

So what's it going to be a phone call and a 50/50 chance at some fireworks and future to start planning or Friday and Saturday nights on GLP... and then in a few years as luck may have it, you'll find out she's married and you'll forever kick yourself for not reaching out and making that one call.

If you've been around GLP long enough, you know how this story ends. If you don't call her you will be forever haunted by your own lack of courage, sure her memory will fade over time, but you will be bruised. Remember, taking a hit and feeling down from rejection is far easier than trying to learn to be brave in matters of the heart.

wow...very wise and deep words. I guess in my head I just assumed anything coming of this was pure fantasy, that in another place and time we could have had something. But given the extreme obstacle of distance and the fact I barely know her makes it impossible to wrap my head around. And maybe this is pure cowardice...I'm still baffled by how I can feel this way this quickly when we barely know each other and am not sure how trying a long distant anything would be healthy for either of us, ASSUMING she even feels the way I do.

I guess I feel that if I had known her for four weeks instead of days, then I would have a much better understanding whether or not this is real or just extreme infatuation for her and yearning to relive a very good day we had, over and over again.

WOW!!

I don't know how to feel about this!

well look at it this way, millions of people use online dating services, hoping to 'connect' and get to know each other online and to some day meet and hopefully like each other in person. You've already hit half the jackpot, you met her and LIKED her, and it seems like you like her a lot. So now, if you are wise, you will undo the programming that has been pounded into your head from watching too much reality TV and the like and contact her. At the very least you make a friend and you keep in touch... after all were those not the words you parted with when you said your farewells? Perhaps she is waiting... the longer you make her wait the less she will feel that it was real...whatever she may have felt.

time... don't let it make the decision... you make it happen.

I will at least contact her tomorrow to, at a minimum, see how she is. Considering she spent a good amount of time here in the US before moving back to the EU, it now kinda seems i'm being an asshole for at least not asking how she is. But not sure how I can possibly "win" this one because I feel whatever happens it's gonna hurt:

1) she hates me (very very unlikely)
2) she's indifferent now or blows me off (possible)
3) She still has a thing for me (possible)
4) She feels as strongly as I do (very unlikely)

All of them would suck though because even if 3 or 4 happened, the best I can hope for is an extremely long distant 'thing' but I guess people do make it happen. Just don't know if I would be cut out for that, but like I said I will at least make contact.

YOU call that girl!!!

What's the worst that can happen? If she does not feel the same way, at least you took the risk (risk of reaching out to say hello) and you can then move on in life, either developing a relationship with her or getting over your obsession about her. You have nothing to lose, really and everything to gain, at worst a long distance friendship with someone in another country -- that is worth the phone call right there, just to start a friendship. If I were you and I liked as mush as you did, I'd be planning a trip to her neck of the world at some point in 2013. I dated a guy once overseas, it can work if you really like them.

And if the worst happens and she blows you off, so what... you are in another country and never have to see her again. its a win win on taking a chance on this one.

remember, the greater the risk, the greater the reward

Well I made contact with her...we just small talked but it didn't go too badly at all, guess as good as it could have. Even though it was just chit-chat I felt on top of the world...a few hours later I felt pretty down again...yep I really think she's like a drug. I was actually hoping she would flat out ignore me or worse, so I could move on. Damn emotional rollercoaster. I swear if I didn't have a picture we took, I probably would have forgotten what she looked like by now lol. that's how little I actually know her. ahhhh.

Congrats! A man of true courage! Now that the initial contact has been made you can allow her to hopefully reciprocate in some way.

What you are feeling is totally normal. For many people relationships are very much like a drug and so is the 'chase', there are highs and lows, much like the rollercoaster you mentioned... wouldn't you rather be on the ride than sitting on the sidelines?

Now just keep your cool. Don't sweat it if you feel a little down, go with the emotions, own them. Remember, she is a person too, and she is no doubt probably having mixed feelings as well with highs and lows about meeting you also.


good luck, OP... Let love rule ~~~~

LMAO!! Funniest thing I've read in awhile! +karma




I think it's time to take a trip. Ever see the movie Eurotrip?

^^ LOL at eurotrip! Gosh that does remind me!

But anyway, today went even better...sigh. Not exactly sure how I feel though...the conversation was perfect...still small talk but could not have gone better.

Normally I wouldn't want to take things TOO slow (emphasis on too) but there really is no way to win this thing unless I do. I highly doubt I will drop in to "friend zone" being 5000 miles away unless I really overdo "slow". But then again I don't know where tomorrow may lead...may not even talk to her tomorrow, i don't know. We'll see.