dating question for men / women welcome advice

no, she did not betray you. she was simply looking for information on the other woman.

trust me, she has already started "operation find a man", she has two reasons; YOU and that ho, Trish that went to the movies with you. You've basically humiliated her. Good job. Nothing like some good solid humiliation to ruin a relationship for good. No turning back on that type of behavior.

but I think she knew it would cause a problem

let me repeat this...

MOST women would stay. They would stay until they found a better man.

Women are not generally stupid when it comes to this type of stuff. We are stealth in our plans to depart. And when it happens, you won't see it coming.

She's probably texting your best guy friend looking for a shoulder to cry on...

you have no idea... no idea.

Just out of curiousness?
would it be the same answer if she was me and I was she...

what would the men of glp do if it was a women that did this to you?

can you elaborate...

If i was your girlfriend i would hope i would respect you and trust you enough to let you go do whatever you want. If you cheat on me physically or emotionaly and i find out about it then you can eat shit and i will never talk to you or see you again. I wany to be with.someone I make happy and if you want someone else than I will.move the fick on no problem.

Bring your girlfriend along too and tell her you want this girl in your life as a friend.

So you would stay with me? and You would expect the freedom to see movies with your guy friends in a relationship, and this is normal?

Does anyone else agree with this?

I asked her if she wanted to meet trish. She didn't but it was after trish was hitting on me.

Can you elaborate...?

omg.you CAUSED the problem by going out with Trish.everything after that is an effect, including her asking about it.You cant have a go at your GF for reacting in anyway to something dum that YOU did.lol
foresight is a skill, i think maybe you need to learn it.
and yep id never have taken your calls or seen you again after youd hung up and gone out with another female and i was obviously upset.To me, you have shown you didnt have my best interests at heart and that i couldnt trust you.so yep id end it.

(sorry mucked quotes up by not scrolling far enough in my last reply)

clearly you do not understand that if this bother's your gf, you need to deny yourself that female friend (trish) and explain to the friend that your gf is upset at the idea of you taking another woman to the movies and that out of respect to the gf, you cannot see her.

I would further ask yourself, what is it about trish that makes you want to be friends with her... usually when a guy and girl are in a relationship and living together, they are pretty much committed to each other and opposite sex friends are hopefully enjoyed together in a group setting, not separately in a dark movie theater.

some people have no problem with their significant others being in the company of the opposite sex, others go ballistic.

lots of people have plenty of opposite sex friends in the workplace, but they have boundaries on what and where they can actually interact in.

grow up, if you really love and value your gf, you would not want to hurt her.

Me personally, I would not be hurt. But I would be well on my way to searching for my next boyfriend.

OP, you are pathetic.

And you will most likely be alone. First of all, Tish is a home wrecker and your GF doesn't want to meet some ho that is jockeying for a chance at her boyfriend.

Its real simple OP...Relationships are built on TRUST.

If she can not/will not trust you to go the the movies with an old "friend" then you have a bigger problem than you think.

Does she trust you to go to work, the store, the bar? If you were going to cheat on her I'm sure you have plenty of opportunities.

If she can't deal with honesty and truth, or if she insecure and jealous, maybe it's time for you to have a long conversation with her.....or move on.

thanks everyone for posting. its really helping me get the big picture

no its just trish that bothers her. Or girls that hit on me in general...

Theres been a couple, but I draw a line, when It bothers her.

I have yet to meet a man who would allow his significant other to go to a dark movie theater with a guy friend who once hit on her in the past.

You are a fucking moron.

You know how you know you love someone? You cannot fathom them being in the danger zone of gaining the attention or affection of another person, especially when you could have stopped it.

I can remember a time when I was living with my boyfriend and an old guy friend called to invite me to a family event. My boyfriend's look on his face was so sad when I asked him if he would mind if I did the guy friend a favor and attend the event with him since it was a family type thing and I knew them so well.

I didn't think twice about declining the invitation with the old guy friend s my boyfriend was far more important to me.

so let us get this straight... you have no guy friends to be your wingmen, but you are so hot, girls just keep hitting on you.

good night, OP.

over 5 years 3 girls have hit on me.

Yes most of my friends are now getting married, in college, or over sea's.

I know, right? There is no flippin excuse for just plain stupid. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other

Probably a BBC too !

OP, I think you know the answer to your own questions.

you are a guy who already has a live in girl friend seeking friendship with another girl who. Its common knowledge that men do not want friendship with women, they want sex.

Perhaps you just need to be single so you can have all the female 'friends' you want.

I am total believer in friendships. I think they are important, but not at the cost of hurting someone who is obviously upset that a woman who once hit on you is moving in on her territory again.

That's all I can add. I think maybe you are just one of those guys who is afraid to be alone and not really in love? otherwise why hurt your gf?

Would you be upset if your GF went out to a movie with someone who has hit on her? Do you (even on a subconscious level) value the extra emotion/attention you get from these 2 women when this particular scenario arises? If you have no friends and a deep need for them, maybe you're doing this for much needed emotional interaction.
If you're a lonely guy, be smart and dignified about it. It seems desperate to hold on to a situation that could hurt your GF just so you can have night out with friend.