Refused access to my son

Lawyer up man.

Get a lawyer, sorry you are going through this. I hate when people break up and then deny the right for either one to see their children.

The kids get hurt by this and it's just mean and spiteful. Hope it works out for you. And make sure you have receipts of all the child support payments, she may try to say you don't give her anything if it comes to that.

I can't stress this enough... Get a Lawyer now. If she keeps your child away from you and you allow it to happen the divorce judge can look at you and see that you have had no contact and that can be used against you. I'm serious!

I can't stand women that do this to the father, all it does is hurt the kids because they don't care about money, they just want love from Mom and Dad. Sorry you're going through this OP. :(

You can get a Court Order in less than 24 hours that will cause your wife to be in contempt of court if she does not give you access.

That same court will lower your child support as well, but at this stage I would try to get custody and have her pay the child support.

This is wrong!! The child is the one hurt in all this.
Tell your soon to be ex to let you spend time with him, even if only in the back yard for now.
You shouldnt have to settle for that, but its better than nothing until you can make better arrangements.

Good luck to you and shame of your wife.

The same thing happened to my brother. OP you have to get a lawyer and protect yourself. My brother got depressed and gave up and got so royally screwed by his ex he never got to see his kids again. He literally ended up drinking himself to death over it.

I've seen men do this time and time again. Just lay down and give up.

I hope you are able to get a good lawyer and find the strength to fight for your child. Women who use to children to "get back" at a man are only hurting the child. Even in a divorce situation the child needs both parents.

dont pay any child support. she will eventually realize the error in her ways. or not. either way, you gotta stand up for what you believe in

I hope things work out for you.

I am a mediator. I am not a lawyer, nor do I give legal advice. I don't know the law in UK so that is doubly good.

Check out mediation if you are trying to avoid costly lawyer fees. Chances are that you will be sent to mediation anyway if this gets to court with attorneys. Here in the states a lot of judges are automatically sending all contested divorces to mediation because they feel that you all are the experts in your lives and should be given every opportunity to work out custody issues/parenting plans, and property settlements.

Keep receipts of all paid child support. Here we have, state by state, on the internet, what your child support will be based on income and # of children. Courts generally always go by that....doesn't matter what your hardship might be. Couples can, however, work out alternate plans through mediation.

Google it. Lots of on-line info.

Oh, and if she won't talk to you, try a neutral 3rd party friend. Mediators are neutral 3rd parties but will not speak to either of you about the case before hand...thus remaining neutral.

Good luck.

Good luck.

DO NOT follow this advice. Make sure you pay WHATEVER you can and document it. You cannot withhold payment as that will be held against you.

She has no right to withhold your child from you, regardless of your track record on paying support.

Pay. Keep records. Get a lawyer.

Right now, she is in the wrong. Don't join her. It will weaken your case.

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Best advice. For all you know, she has one already. This woman is willing to deny her son his father- FOR MONEY.

That says something about what she prioritizes.

Better get custody yourself, and then allow her to visit him, so he has his mother.

I am a certified mediator also. I cant say i ever put it to use due to moving and life changes, but i think what we are taught is a very good way to resolve problems without the need of lawyers and court. Excellent system.

Seems like black mail really.

Does she have a legal right to refuse you access or is she just saying 'You can't see him." Can't you just drop by and visit him or see him in a different location?

+1

Only women do this and it's disgusting.

Best of luck, OP.

I know one thing: 65% chance of divorce. I will never get married.

Hmmmmm....you sound like an attorney or someone burned. ADR is mediation....alternative dispute resolution. I have seen cases that attorneys tried in every way they cooul to settle and they could not, sometimes, simply because they were not comfortable with the messiness that sometimes/often comes up in mediation. A good mediator understands that sometimes this is necessary and will not let it get out of hand. Then the focus is on moving forward.

I have seen incredible outcomes when ALL parties come to the mediation table in good faith. Sometimes attorneys are there simply for discovery purposes and not true collaborative problem solving.

OP check out transformative and collaborative mediation. I still think you might be sent (mandated to go) anyway. Perhaps you all can avoid this getting any uglier. Something to at least check out on line. And any mediator you contact, be sure to interview as to their style and settlement rate.

The "no refund" clause is designed for everyone to at least sit down and give it a shot before you just get mad and leave. Otherwise, mediators would spend a lot of time and never get paid if it was that easy to leave. Money does talk. Oh, and people that get "free" mediations, often do not settle. There has to be an investment...a buy in.

Think about it OP.

My ex did this to me too. I was a broken man.

Pray lots and lots.

Get a lawyer and get in front of the court. It is a long process but never stop fighting for your son.

God be with you.

(((HUG)))

P.S.

Through God's help I got through it and got my son back.

Never stop fighting!!!

Pay. Document. Get a good lawyer.

Get a t-shirt that says "my lawyer can beat up your lawyer"

HAHA.

You are fucked, dumbass.

You should have thought about these things before you GOT FUCKING MARRIED.

I am not even christian! But I DO BELIEVE that MARRIAGE is a SACRED FUCKING VOW.

You broke the vow. You lose the kid.

In reality you should not have had a child with a woman you did not intend to stay with.

You fucked up.

Now you get to live with it.

No easy solutions.

Think about your choices in the future, dipshit.

THIS

Don't waste any time.

Also, keep all receipts. Even if you buy him something like clothes.

child support is a % of your income.. she does not get to pick it also unless she has a good reason and proof of you being bad for the boy it will look real bad in court on her for not lettiing u see him

Hire the most ruthless SHARK lawyer possible.

See if someone in social services will give you a name.
They know.