long distance relationship

Keep communicating or it's over.

I know a girl that had 2 LDR.

The first was with a guy that promised her everything. He even moved from another state to be with her. After he'd been there 2 weeks, she found out he had dozens of other "girlfriends" scattered all over the country.

The second was with a guy that kept saying he wanted to be with her.. Even flew her out to meet him and she got to meet his friends and his sister. She found out later on that he had never told his parents about her because it was "against their culture" if he was with a girl that was divorced. They were together a total of about 2.5 years.

She broke it off and then about 5 years later they got back together. Again, he made many promises that he just never kept. He kept telling her that he wanted to be with her and that he was gonna move to where she was so they could be together. Never happened. He just strung her along for ANOTHER 2 years.

She seems to be completely done with him now though. And she's so much better without that loser in her life now.

So take it from someone that's seen another person go thru it. It's just not worth it. My friend went YEARS without affection or sex. I'd be willing to be my entire salary that he didn't do without. He'd call her every night like clockwork, but never wanted to be more intimate, like phone sex or even get on Skype with her or even exchange pics. I mean, WHY NOT? Never made sense to me.

Mine worked out. Happily married. Needs to be with someone you can trust. Talk about the relationship a lot don't just let it drift. Be deliberate. Most LDR don't work because people are passive wimps.

I had an LDR for about a year. Although I knew in the back of my mind we'd never be together forever, I loved every minute of the relationship. I lived in his country for a while, moved back to the states and kept in touch over phone and then he came here for a few months and I showed him as much of the states as I could. I went back over to his country for 3 weeks and then he came back for a short stay and at that time the question of "who is going to move?" came up and we both knew neither of us wanted to move just yet. We stayed in touch and remained long distance friends for a while, writing and calling. It was a great relationship because it was a total learning experience. He showed me his country and some other parts of europe and I was able to show him parts of the US. To this day I look back with only the fondest of memories and learning experiences. He was an awesome boyfriend even if it was for just a year.