Are wives/girls leaving their husbands/boyfriends in droves right now?

Thats what i mean loool this is one of my comspiracy hobby horses ie;'are we being split up'?communities are broken next its the family AND THE ABSOLUTE SINISTER ASPECT OF CHRISTOIAN DATING SITES JOINING IN Do these idiots not realise when families are finding it hard to rebuild or work on it for the kids they are actually encouraging the oipposite.God it makes my blood boil I mean yeah christian online dating they would be better spent espousing the bvirtues of the ONE they are supposed to represent not work for satan

I've noticed people break up and get together in cycles. People usually break up in the winter months, and find new love in the spring months.

By the way a very interesting thread op lots to get teeth into

Thank you so much for your kindness! The kids and I have been getting peace, at least, since all of this started. I was a stay at home mom. I've since gotten a job, doing what needs to be done to take care of us. I'll do whatever it takes to keep myself and the kids strong. I'm 37 and at this age, I won't curl up in the fetal position and die, lol. Something I've learned through the years is that I have no control over anybody but myself, that knowledge helps a great deal. I control what happens to us from here on out. :-)

I'm not a guy and I play both.

I also know I'm more of a man than most men I meet. Not biologically, but because I solve problems, get shit done, and don't run away to let someone else make decissions.

I don't think the games have anything to do with manhood, but I don't like the punk-assed little bitches who usually run their mouths on games like those.

yeah but theres splitting up and then theres splitting up en mass this like springtime for hitler

I hear of a lot of guys in their 40s (mid life crisis thing) who are leaving their wives now, usually for someone half their age.
Some women just leaving their husbands and kids, but it seems the majority are guys who found a much younger girl who wants to be taken care of.
Also, seems like as soon as kids are out of school, most couples split. It's pandemic.

same here, I've seen 4 friends go through some nasty divorces because of facebook. in 2 of the situations, the women only lasted about a year with the new guy after they left their husbands and after that first 'wonderful' year of what they called 'finding their soul mate', they found themselves alone again. In one situation, the new guy decided she was not right for him and hooked up with another 'new' facebook acquaintance. good times, lol. not only are people making big mistakes, they are living them out on facebook for the world to see. in the other situations the women realized they did not want to be divorced but it was too late, facebook had connected the newly single guys with some new women. The thing I learned is learn from other people's mistakes. the grass is not greener, in some instances it has not even been mowed

Sorry bitch, but you made vows and you need to keep them. Till death till you part, and you don't get to kill either.

Do your wifely duties, and be glad to be married.

Also, I am hearing that pornography is usually involved.
Nasty, destructive stuff.

Sorry about your loss. Since you were only married a few months, maybe he really was a psycho and you just had not been around long enough to see one of his rage/flare-ups. OR maybe there really is some kind of crazy thing going on right now that's making people pull apart. That's why I'm curious if people are also getting together more.

It's absolutely true and heartbreaking how people are anymore. I see it even with people up to their 40's. They want instant gratification in everything. They want to experience the first rush of love over and over again and then move onto someone else as soon as that fades. They don't understand commitment or the value of staying together.

My parents were together their entire lives, and they were each other's firsts as well. They never had to experience heartbreak or any of that and I think they were blessed for it.

The rush of new love will always be a fleeting thing and it becomes harder for a person to obtain the older they get. It's a terrible drug to get addicted to. And how many diseases and children do you pick up on the way of that journey?

As long as someone isn't abusive, and there was a connection in the beginning, it's good to remember that about a person and continue on through the ups and downs knowing that deep down there is a kindred spirit who you fell in love with, and that love is in a place that is eternal even after the body's biochemical high wears off.

People though have to have the foresight of - what do I want to be when I'm I old? A person in a nursing home remembering hundreds of sex moments, or sitting with the person I spent my life with recollecting our shared voyage through life, our successes and failures, the times we laughed and cried, but always knowing there was one human being in this crazy world we could depend on?

I'm a female and I love WoW...I played a lot before the ex came and took my laptop, ugh..And the house is still clean, I go to work, have dinner on the table at five, have everybody's laundry done, etc. etc.

I don't mind if a man wants to play a video game while I clean the house or whatever, lol...I'd rather him be playing WoW or Call of Duty than out running around God knows where or playing on social sites with God knows who. :-)

The road goes both ways. The man is to love his wife as he loves himself. He is supposed to provide for and protect her. Women are not designed to be doormats....they are to be helpers.

SG, this sounds very much like bipolar disorder or similar mental illness, or even a severe case of SSRI discontinuation syndrome. I wish you (and particularly the kids) the best. If the kids are biologically his I strongly suggest keeping detailed notes about what happened for use in future custody determinations if needed. If he gets on (and stays on) some effective meds and commits to therapy he may be able to be a father to the children eventually.

Be well.

This seems to have been going on for a couple of years.

Yup and if you try to suggest stuff like porn is instrumetal in a huge way for the morale decline you get lambasted for 'not being with it' or 'it actually has decreased in countries where porn has been part of culture'(<oh yeah like holland which is in terminal decline.Its STIFF FKIN NIGHTMARE LADIES AND GENTELMEN the world in which is evolving.Oh and heres a good one this makes me chuckle the social and other human rights steering comittees who have the final word in a government advisory capacity suggesting such wise pieces opf shit like 'there is no eveidence that suggests violent graphic pc games dont affect kids@ gimme a break tv ads sellin a pc game ( a gangster dude shooting other gutter rats surrounded by whores glorified,eulogised) now tell me if this isnt a lesson to kids lokk sonny its cool to shoot and you get whores hangin round

You hit the nail on the head. In the beginning of his troubles, he was diagnosed as bi- polar and exactly four weeks after he started taking medications, the attempted suicides began. He was also a recovering alcoholic...had been sober for over two and a half years. After the first suicide attempt, he added the alcohol...

Wow. I was willing to get through it...you know? He was in and out of the hospital, admitted to the psych unit. It was a nightmare, but he's my husband, I'm supposed to stick by him through thick and thin. That's what you're supposed to do in a marriage, but he continued to drink (i can't live with that) and he jumped the gun and filed for divorce with a quickness. I asked him to not make any life changing decisions until after his three month therapy was over, but he said he was sure about his decision.

The children are not his, so thank God I don't have to worry about any of that. He does have two children of his own and I'm not sure what's going on in their lives anymore. It's very sad for all the kids. I don't believe in divorce, but what can I do?

I wish him the best. I am not angry or bitter over what's happened. Life goes on. :-) I'm sad that it happened, but won't let it get me down. I have a future. I was a good wife, I did everything I could for him and now it's time to let it go.

Holy cow...I didn't mean to hijack the thread, lol...sorry guys, guess I needed to yap.

One of the strangest things about porn now sociologically is that it features methodical, completely bizarre and unnatural sex and now the younger generations being brought up in a world where it's rampant actually see it as the way sex should be performed and duplicate it like a script.

Interesting thread - I had privately wondered this myself.


In the last 18 months I have seen lots of women dump their men - often for no apparent reason (affairs, addictions, abuse etc).

After centuries of subservience and being treated like possessions, I guess we should not be surprised.


Peace to all women everywhere!

(and a punch in the face to the large number of misogynist [that means woman-hater] red-neck retards that post hateful drivel about women here on GLP)

^^this^^

Honest relationships are a thing of the past. Modern media and celebrity influences is what controls the mind of a women, and that control says always find the next best thing, and sadly there is always going to be a next best thing. Women want a guy that can give them everything they want, and guys are giving it to them. Guys are at fault here, because they're to easy, and women know this. They can control you and take you for everything you have, then just jump on to the next guy and do it all over again, always getting what they want. The guy just sits there and takes it up the ass, then cries about it like a pussy. Fuck relationships, they're for suckers, 40+ year olds, and people that live in the Midwest.

its simple really, when men cannot handle this challenge, they find themselves alone.

Don't apologize your posts are great! It's likely that most breakups will have fairly typical reasons for them from person to person, but my original query is to the perception of a sudden massive increase in it. Only by hearing personal testimonies may some larger context or pattern be visible. Although many people may appear to have individual stories or events that are attributable to macroscopic details, it may turn out that people are being driven apart through another process that we have not identified.

These relationships may be dying "natural deaths" on the surface but it may be that we have not identified the true root cause.

If everyone who split up from a lasting relationship went on to have a better life as a result that would qualify as people making positive changes in their life. Yet I myself have seen very little evidence of that and in fact it would appear that the more breakups, sex and relationships people have the more miserable and damaged they are becoming. If true it would not represent a positive evolution or change in human behavior, on the contrary it would appear to be very destructive and tragic.

LOL - A typical basement-dwelling, retarded, GLP woman-hater post.

These dweebs are usually homosexuals - who are in complete denial of their femininity - and thus feel the need to make stupid comments about women.

REAL MEN do NOT make hate comments about women! EVER!

great post. I totally agree, love or the pursuit of love is like a drug for many. It totally occupies one's mind and unless they are in hot pursuit of someone new, they are not happy. Been with the same lover (my hubby) over 20 years and have learned a thing or two about that 'fleeting' high you get from attention from the opposite sex. Its not worth throwing a good relationship/marriage away because you find yourself daydreaming about a new lover. If you are best friends with your spouse, you have the greatest gift ever while here on this rock.

So true, I wish everyone understood that.

THIS^^^^^

many do understand, which is why so many people either try to tear something apart/ridicule it or worse, try to be a home wrecker. with 7 billion people on this rock, no one should be trying to steal another person's mate. ever. so not cool and the people that try to break people up will have a lot to answer for on judgement day.

Let no man tear apart what God has brought together...

SG,

So very sorry for your experience (and that of his biokids). That sounds like the wrong meds or wrong dosages, it takes a long time to find the sweet spot to actually get something effective that isn't simply sedating someone into drool land. Actually reads more like a mixed episode then a strictly manic or strictly depressive state and those are the hardest to deal with. Meds are great at stopping mania but not so much at getting someone out of depression, and when the meds only serve to take away the highs (that feel good and aren't really considered a problem by those experiencing them) without also getting rid of the lows, nobody wants to stay on them.

What you said -- "It was a nightmare, but he's my husband, I'm supposed to stick by him through thick and thin. That's what you're supposed to do in a marriage ..." sums it all up. Fewer and fewer people feel that way nowadays. That was what I kept coming back to when I experienced a similar situation last year.

To try to draw this back to the OP's topic, this time of year is when people start to get hit by seasonal affective disorder or simply start feeling depressed over the holidays. At such times people are much more willing to take the plunge and leave their spouse/significant other. So many folks have this idealized version of the holidays based on how much they enjoyed them as a kid that they think that same joyfulness should just fall into place around them, and when it doesn't they lash out.