Are wives/girls leaving their husbands/boyfriends in droves right now?

I left my husband but I did love him and still do. He became unbearable to live and I was so stressed my period was out of whack and I got chronic stomach cramps and diarrhea.
After I left it all stopped and I'm so happy and in tune with nature that I get my period on the full moon every month without fail.
I've never been more content in my life and know I did the right thing.

In what ways did he become unbearable, if I may ask?

Good lord. With all the woman/marriage bashing I've seen lately, I gotta ask, what kind of people are you hanging out with, and/or meeting?!

Maybe I'm just lucky, but I'm happily married. All of our friends are happily married. Not one changed relationship status in all my Facebook friends.

We're 32 so maybe we're too old for silly drama some people bring on themselves.

You're still young sprouts! You're off to a great start though! I think you're the first one in this thread to take a look from crow's nest and say everything's clear.

that is fucked up. people should want the best for their friends.

If you are with somebody and all their friends are single these days, watch out. If they go for a "guy's night out" or "girl's night out" with their single friends, the entire purpose of it is to pick up on the opposite sex. Flirt with them, dance with them, and who knows whatever may happen when you start piling copious amounts of alcohol on the picture. The single friends these days almost always want to get their one friend "stuck in a relationship" back out to the party scene with them and will help to sabotage the relationship psychologically and physically.

People should also deal with their relationship problems only with each because as soon as one of them betrays the confidence of their partner and their relationship to someone else it's bound for trouble. Only if there is abuse or some such going on should you go outside for help. If people go to their friends just to indulge themselves in complaining about their mate it only creates something ugly.

Finally, finally, sanity comes.

It's always sad to me to hear of long-term couples breaking up. After 18 years together I would like to think that nothing could separate me and my wife, but there are plenty of examples of divorce after 20, 30 or even 40 years together.

For my part I have always been and continue to be completely faithful and I believe the same is true of her as well. I'd like to think neither of us would ever change this arrangement, but the Internet is full of threads like this which is depressing. I'm pretty sure if I ever did break up with her I would not seek another relationship. I am lucky to have her and I doubt a person gets such luck more than once per lifetime.

Ive weathered plenty of storms in my marriage and the last one (a few years ago) was shocking for me because of the extent of the lie that he kept and I had no clue. I decided that since he came to me and confessed, I owed it to him to give him another chance. Looking back I wish he never told me, but the guilt was killing him and making him crazy. I still love him dearly, but I am still broken in some ways over what went down. Its affected my ability to trust people, mainly because I had trust issues to begin with due to my upbringing.

At my age, I do not want to be single, the thought is just so depressing. I went through a terrible few months of self hate because I also felt responsible on some level and he kinda alluded that in some ways he felt neglected. I never once thought about leaving him because for one thing I love him and secondly, the people in this world are a fucking mess. And I sure has heck would not want to meet anyone new if I became single.

Thankfully this past year things have really gotten a lot better and my mind is slowly healing from the constant despair I once felt. He has literally been the best husband I could ever ask for. My biggest fear was that he would abandon me and I'd be all alone and perhaps it still is, but when you are this in love, you can;t help but feel this when you worry about something falling apart. It was the worst thing to go through, but we got through those dark nights. I know we'll have challenges again some day, but I have faith we can work through it.

please let it be more than once, some of us are slightly socially inept (the short bus kids of social interactions)

my gosh you sound like the male version of me... kudos to you, kind sir



ps are you the guy whose wife was super pissed the other night? lol

I hope she is okay now, you sound like you are a wonderful husband, and she is lucky to have you. we all screw up now and then.

Best of luck to you...

thanks! I need it more than ever these days it seems. (though I also don't believe in no win scenarios, so I am still hopeful to get her back.

Its related to 12/12/2012. Those who arent meant to be together will part. Those who are will rekindle relationships and stay together. Same goes for family members and friends.

its funny you mention this, whenever I go 'out with the girls', who are mostly divorced/never married, I always get some guy trying to talk with me, despite the fact that I am married and have a wedding band. Its like they don't care that you are already taken, some men are so bold, they will assume if you are out on the town and your man is not with you then you are fair game. And its not like my gf's are not super cute, cuz they are, yet I am always trying to escape that one guy that thinks I want to listen to his stories, no I am out with the girls, for real, not to pick up men, lol.

this really made my day

Just went through this recently and so did my kids mom. Crazy stuff happening to a lot of people :(

This is sadly why the Lord will have to spit them out of is mouth soon. They have totally lost it.

Your attitude is exactly why women end up alone with only cats for comfort.

You and me both!

interesting post, alot of sexism flying around from both sides but also some very interesting & genuine posts too

for me its been the opposite actually, just seen a bunch of single friends get into new relationships ,I was in fact surprised by so many all happening at once!

regarding the cycles, most people don't know but men have hormonal cycles as well, just not as visible so its quite possibly if something is effecting women it could effect men too!

Did you mean Dec 21st? If not, what's special about 12-12-2012 besides lots of 2s?

really, because my standards for a man include no mindless video games? if you are 15 and need entertainment a video game is acceptable.... over 40 and you have issues, it means you clearly do not have a challenging enough job or other more important things to focus on. Real men are not playing video games, they are off solving the world's problems and taking their wives out to dinner.

btw, i hate cats. i don't understand people that keep those.

Hah, I certainly don't *feel* young!

I think there's a lot of interesting comments in this thread. As much as I've read about high divorce rates, and the general decline of our society in general, personally, I've seen a pretty big shift to more conservative, traditional families.

Of course, it could be a case of 'like begets like'. We are a very traditional conservative family, so it makes sense that our particular social circle is the same. All of our parties and get togethers are as couples or with the kids. A few times a year the girls will go get pedicures, or the guys go to a sporting event.

Maybe a lack of bad influences? I once heard a radio DJ say 'if your wife's best friend gets a divorce, you might as well draw up your own divorce papers, because girls need to slut it up in packs'. At the time I thought it was stupid, but seems like there's something to that!

My friend's wife turned frigid after the birth of the children.

My first wife died young......perfect marriage.


Second marriage......she also frigid after having children. Very challenging marriage......her emotions vary by the hour.


Whatever.


My friend and I both refuse to leave our wives. It is very damaging to the children.

I for one think its more important now than ever to truly uphold the vows and promises we all made when we got married. My marriage has been my biggest success in life. I give it all I have - and I believe in it. For the most part I have had a wonderful marriage but have had to deal with the ups and downs and occasional fuck ups, but that is because we are only human, we mess up sometimes. If you find someone you love, treat them right and never go to bed mad.

You and the guy you're arguing with are both as sexist as each other, maybe you should both get married?

I see a nice married future for you together as sexist assholes. Congrats !

I think there is. I think it's true for men too, I guess I don't want to say that only women behave that way. I personally was left from one long term relationship when my partner's friends were single and wanted to be going out in the trio they had in their 20's to pick up guys and "have fun". They ended up winning in the end by using manipulation and eventually facilitating betrayal. I saw what was happening and I said at the time those friends of yours are trying to break us up and then I was accused of not wanting them to have "fun". After the first betrayal I lost my trust but continued on because of commitment but then I was more scared as the going out continued, for which I was seen even more as insecure and a party pooper. Eventually they never came home.

sorry, already happily married

ever notice a lot of 'happily married' couples don't really have a lot of respective single friends?

My husband always worries when I spend too much time with my single gf's, lol.