My soon to be ex-wife thinks I'm an asshole am I really?

She's right

Yes

Without way more context, it's hard to tell, but if you're leaving your wife of only two years for some old flame, I might have to say yes. That's a bit of a dick move. Why'd you marry her? You obviously don't love her.

WOW.....I can see her point of view. Why did you marry her if you where in love with someone else.

You're equating love with something new and exciting. All relationships start out that way and hopefully settle down into a deeper understanding of love.

Woman #2 will eventually become like this also.

No one can maintain that same level of excitment as they had in the beginning of a relationship.

If you have children with woman #1, then consider trying to work things out with her. Otherwise, life will become a series of relationships that end when the 'thrill' is gone.

You are a dick but you should leave her. It's not fair to her to be stuck married to an asshole that would rather be with someone else. You'll probably do the the same thing to the new girl in a few years. That's what inmature dicks do.

Yup... I'd say you're pretty much a p.o.s. putz.

End of story.

you're an asshole AND a pussy.


the good part is both can take a good fucking!!

go gay!!!

Yes, you sound like a selfish insecure jerk jumping from one relationship to the next when you get bored. You didn't think anything was wrong enough in the relationship to leave her before you thought you could get into someone elses drawers.

Go ahead. Your wife will recover quickly and be better off without you while your new love will likely leave you high and dry at some point after your divorce is finalized and she gets bored with you.

You cant force feelings so I wouldnt call you an asshole. That is, if you really dont love your wife and dont just want to cheat.

arsehole.

She wasted her precious time on scum

Maybe you shouldn't be married if you are chasing the romantic 'high'. Let your wife go to find a man who wants to settle down in life and go be a playboy. Warning though, after 40 you will start to seem creepy to the chicks.

just be honest with her (your wife) no your not an asshole. i imagine you had good intentions when you married her & if the love fades whats the point of continuing? you'll both just be unhappy. just dont be a dick about it!

good luck with your new relationship, & hopefully this one will work out better

if you have kids, well i think its better to end an unhappy marrade rather then model a loveless relationship to them.

i dont believe in the sanctimony of marriage anyway, just a piece of paper. till death do us part blah blah

man some people are so judgy on this forum.

Actually she should look at this as a good thing, you only ruined and wasted 5 years of her life, leave her and let her move on. you were wrong to fuck with her mind like that, not only does that make you an assshole it makes you cruel as well.

if you have Children with her, you need to devote 100 percent of your time to making sure they will be ok, when I say 100 percent you need to put them on top of your priorities or you will screw their little minds up. always put them first.



but the good thing is now she can move on and find someone worthy of her love and time.

Last Edited by M.A.G.E on 12/13/2012 03:33 PM

This can't be a real thread - has to be a troll. Please don't tell me somebody this immature and self-centered would actually get married!

OP, I feel sorry for you when you threw yourself to the GLP-piranhas, now they got you! lol

It's just a matter of time when you'll be leaving the new girlfriend for someone else.

You both deserve each other. You being an ass, and her being stupid



The ex-wife is getting the better deal - you out of her life!

Why did you marry your current wife if you were in love with someone else?

Her mother in law must be a nasty two faced narcisstic old crone

borderline personality disorder like mine...

This is something my husband would have done 10 years ago to me but

he grew up after he married a woman like his mother before me

my husband now respects me and loves me

good luck in your misery

Nah, but hopefully you'll be just as understanding when your 'old friend' tells you she wants to move on after she's bored with you. KARMA.

Nah, but hopefully you'll be just as understanding when your 'old friend' tells you she wants to move on after she's bored with you. KARMA.

Her mother in law must be a nasty two faced narcisstic self centered ; self righteous old crone

borderline personality disorder like mine...

This is something my husband would have done 10 years ago to me but

he grew up after he married a woman like his mother before me

my husband now respects me and loves me

good luck in your misery

its so fucking troll like there should be a bridge in this room somewhere!!!!

Stupid people get married all the time. And, unfortunately, reproduce.

You're not an a-hole, you just have bad luck when you express yourself :D

OP...

Leave your wife immediately. If you're not in love with her, then you're not in love with her, so be it.

Don't listen to what everyone else says. Life isn't perfect, people make mistakes. Big deal, get over it.

Don't pass up an opportunity for true love. If this other woman loves you and you love her, then go for it. If you don't, you'll regret it forever and ever.

Yea it sucks for your wife, but hey tough shit! If your wife met a better guy, she would probably leave you too, remember that.