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Got sick, quitting smoking, losing job and my fiance just broke up with me | |
| Why User ID: 29700844  United States12/13/2012 04:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29253904  Canada12/13/2012 04:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | shut up get over the bitch and move on with your life you sound like a weak knee'd pussy who can't handle living without someone else in your life take the winter off work and go snowboarding or surfing in mexico, join a MMA gym and train 6 hours a day, or bike from nyc to cali and raise money for cancer |
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| Anonymous Coward 12/13/2012 04:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Shew, OP... Damn that's some tough shit. Listen this is happening to you because you are cleaning the negative out of your life... For example, you managed to quit smoking, even under the guise of illness, it's still a blessing. And as far as your significant other, well... Best to find out now than later that she isn't in it for the tough stuff! Everything will be alright OP, I promise you I believe this 1000% in your case, and I genuinely believe this whole debacle will turn out to be a GOOD thing for you. Stay strong, stay smoke free... don't deviate off the path you're on right now, it sounds like things are going just the way they should. You will be able to look back on this however long from now, and understand how it was good for you. |
| GooliaJulia User ID: 12655659 United States12/13/2012 04:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I want a smoke soooooooooooooo bad and i'm trying so hard not to... My heart is broken so bad... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29700844 WWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY wow, everything will work itself out stay strong I know its unbearable now but you can do it. as for smoking, DO NOT GIVE IN!!, try cold turkey its the best way BUT if it becomes so bad that you can't do it go buy the lozenges, 4mg or 2mg, they are 10 bucks at walmart for 24, nicorette brand cost a little more but they both do the same thing, trust me they work!. Last Edited by Hapablab on 12/13/2012 04:38 PM Sheep the moon |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 29700844 United States12/13/2012 04:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | shut up get over the bitch and move on with your life Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29253904 you sound like a weak knee'd pussy who can't handle living without someone else in your life take the winter off work and go snowboarding or surfing in mexico, join a MMA gym and train 6 hours a day, or bike from nyc to cali and raise money for cancer I don't 'need' someone in my life... This just happened about an hour ago. And it's not just her, it's everything. Of course my relationship with her was the most important. I'll get over her, and her me. It just really sucks when you love someone so much, and to hear them tell you you're a POS in very descriptive ways. To tell me I used her that I never loved her that I ruined her life. I can only think she's wanted this for awhile, maybe I just gave her to ease to go ahead with it. And I'm not a pussy by any means. Love hurts worse than any wound. |
| GooliaJulia User ID: 12655659 United States12/13/2012 04:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | shut up get over the bitch and move on with your life Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29253904 you sound like a weak knee'd pussy who can't handle living without someone else in your life take the winter off work and go snowboarding or surfing in mexico, join a MMA gym and train 6 hours a day, or bike from nyc to cali and raise money for cancer I don't 'need' someone in my life... This just happened about an hour ago. And it's not just her, it's everything. Of course my relationship with her was the most important. I'll get over her, and her me. It just really sucks when you love someone so much, and to hear them tell you you're a POS in very descriptive ways. To tell me I used her that I never loved her that I ruined her life. I can only think she's wanted this for awhile, maybe I just gave her to ease to go ahead with it. And I'm not a pussy by any means. Love hurts worse than any wound. also give it time, she may have had just a moment of rage that the stuff she said was truly to hurt but not true. its only been an hour, give it time. Sheep the moon |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29704407 United States12/13/2012 04:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Question for the OP. I highlighted my question from your post. I know this isn't the best place to put this, but... Quoting: Why 29700844 I got sick a little over a week ago with some upper resp infection. I couldn't breathe so I threw down my smokes and that was it, I was quitting smoking cigs... Then my Dr prescribed me prednisone cuz I was having a hard time breathing, and that along with nicotine withdrawls has turned me into a complete asshole... Then my partner loses a really big account at work, so I decide to give my job up... I can't have him working against me all the time, losing accounts and money.... Then to top all this off, my fiance just BLOWS the fuck up on me saying some of the most hurtful and hateful things I've ever heard from anyone... She says i've been an ass for two days, so its ok for her to blow up like this... So she then leaves me... I thought she was my soulmate, I really really love her and will miss her so much! I can't even type this without crying, life sucks so bad. I really hope the world ends on December 21st so this pain will go away. Not sure why I am posting this, I guess just to get it out. I just can't believe the hateful things she said, making me out to be the devil... I even treated her pretty good during this rage fit from the prednisone and nicotine withdrawls... I might have been a little btit of an ass here and there, but nothing how she just treated me. She really stuck the knife in and turned it. I'm sure the trolls will enter, guys if you like kicking someone when theyre down, go ahead i guess. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1182962  United Kingdom12/13/2012 04:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First things first - That useless waste of space, you can do without her, good riddance. Cigarettes - now is your opportunity, grasp it and do not look back, in 5 months time you will not believe the difference, you will feel like a super hero. I am free from smokes 5 months now. Job - I got sacked last week, had a mini breakdown, and now I feel I will never work for a "boss" again, they are manipulative fuckers and people need to wise up to their using controlling ways, from the moment I went to being sacked, I went to being self employed. Good luck! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States12/13/2012 04:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | shut up get over the bitch and move on with your life Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29253904 you sound like a weak knee'd pussy who can't handle living without someone else in your life take the winter off work and go snowboarding or surfing in mexico, join a MMA gym and train 6 hours a day, or bike from nyc to cali and raise money for cancer I don't 'need' someone in my life... This just happened about an hour ago. And it's not just her, it's everything. Of course my relationship with her was the most important. I'll get over her, and her me. It just really sucks when you love someone so much, and to hear them tell you you're a POS in very descriptive ways. To tell me I used her that I never loved her that I ruined her life. I can only think she's wanted this for awhile, maybe I just gave her to ease to go ahead with it. And I'm not a pussy by any means. Love hurts worse than any wound. Maybe she is having a tough time and will cool off and come back. People have blow ups all the time and still remain together. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 29700844 United States12/13/2012 04:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Shew, OP... Quoting: Mister Obvious Damn that's some tough shit. Listen this is happening to you because you are cleaning the negative out of your life... For example, you managed to quit smoking, even under the guise of illness, it's still a blessing. And as far as your significant other, well... Best to find out now than later that she isn't in it for the tough stuff! Everything will be alright OP, I promise you I believe this 1000% in your case, and I genuinely believe this whole debacle will turn out to be a GOOD thing for you. Stay strong, stay smoke free... don't deviate off the path you're on right now, it sounds like things are going just the way they should. You will be able to look back on this however long from now, and understand how it was good for you. I can't tell you how much sense this made and how it makes me feel better to read it! THANK YOU! Thanks to all the others that have given me encouragement too, it really means the world to me. I was an asshole, but a bad attitude asshole not a hateful word asshole. I never said anything hateful to her the way she did to me. She really made me out to be the worst person in the world. And i'm not, and I love her so much so to hear her say those things about me cuts to the core. I went thru a divorce 5 years ago from my ex wife who I was with for 15 years that cheated on me... I thought that was going to be the toughest thing in my life. I was wrong :( ... I love this girl so much more than I ever did my wife. Then to add work, illness and this DAMN SMOKING ADDICTION TO IT... OMG... This sucks so bad. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17552394 United States12/13/2012 04:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14392840 United States12/13/2012 04:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you were a cowboy your truck, would have broken down too and your dog ran away... But seriously, hope it gets better, been there, done that, Life sucks sometimes... Just when you think it couldnt get any worse, bad days pile up like were in hell. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 29700844 United States12/13/2012 04:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | shut up get over the bitch and move on with your life Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29253904 you sound like a weak knee'd pussy who can't handle living without someone else in your life take the winter off work and go snowboarding or surfing in mexico, join a MMA gym and train 6 hours a day, or bike from nyc to cali and raise money for cancer I don't 'need' someone in my life... This just happened about an hour ago. And it's not just her, it's everything. Of course my relationship with her was the most important. I'll get over her, and her me. It just really sucks when you love someone so much, and to hear them tell you you're a POS in very descriptive ways. To tell me I used her that I never loved her that I ruined her life. I can only think she's wanted this for awhile, maybe I just gave her to ease to go ahead with it. And I'm not a pussy by any means. Love hurts worse than any wound. also give it time, she may have had just a moment of rage that the stuff she said was truly to hurt but not true. its only been an hour, give it time. I tried to give her that chance, I told her and I quote "You need to suhtup if you want any chance of ever working this out" ... I told her this early on, I then gave her another chance to stop... You're right, she might have just blown up.. But the bad thing is, i'm not sure I can forgive her. The things she said was so bad. So bad. That is why I'm upset, not that she broke up with me, but that I've closed the door im afraid. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 9788321 United States12/13/2012 04:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Life isn't about your physical health, your job, your fiancée, or your society-driven identity. Life is about experiencing NOW without any thoughts or preconceived notions about past or future. Please silence your mind and go somewhere you absolutely loved as a child. Forget you are an adult for a few moments and enjoy the sights, sounds, smells and tastes of real life. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27719164 United States12/13/2012 04:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sounds like a similar thing i went through 8 years ago.. Got sick.. lost my job..and my fiance of four years left me all in a 2 week time period. OP.. it was the worst time of my life.. I wanted to die.. But looking back on it.. She was no good for me.. and the job wasnt either.. In fact.. they both tanked. The company went under a couple years later.. And she became a tired old nothing.. with 3 kids without a daddy. Life has its reasons for working out the way it does.. you just don't always see it at the time. Trust me.. it will get better. |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 29700844 United States12/13/2012 04:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My head is fucking killing me... I don't want to feel sorry for myself I just can't help it... I just keep thinking of te things i'll miss about her. I know I sound like a pussy, I know she ripped my heart out with the things she said and I should be mad. I just can't be. WTF is wrong with me. |
Dr. Acula Senior Forum Moderator User ID: 80172 United States12/13/2012 04:58 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Shew, OP... Quoting: Mister Obvious Damn that's some tough shit. Listen this is happening to you because you are cleaning the negative out of your life... For example, you managed to quit smoking, even under the guise of illness, it's still a blessing. And as far as your significant other, well... Best to find out now than later that she isn't in it for the tough stuff! Everything will be alright OP, I promise you I believe this 1000% in your case, and I genuinely believe this whole debacle will turn out to be a GOOD thing for you. Stay strong, stay smoke free... don't deviate off the path you're on right now, it sounds like things are going just the way they should. You will be able to look back on this however long from now, and understand how it was good for you. I agree with the above 100%  It may suck now OP  It WILL get better I been on several sucky points in life but it gets better in time Last Edited by Dr. Acula on 12/13/2012 05:03 PM _______________________  |
| Dr. Acula Senior Forum Moderator User ID: 80172 United States12/13/2012 05:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My head is fucking killing me... I don't want to feel sorry for myself I just can't help it... I just keep thinking of te things i'll miss about her. I know I sound like a pussy, I know she ripped my heart out with the things she said and I should be mad. I just can't be. WTF is wrong with me. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29700844 nothing is wrong with you! its normal to feel this way you gotta get your mind off things! do something fun, watch stupid youtube videos, check out some DIY projects you can work on. Keep your mind busy, so you dont fall into depression. and I want you to read the OP of this thread Thread: For Those Having a Hard Time Listen To Me I was having a hard hard hard time when I wrote that Its one thing to hear advice/positive things from a happy person... but hearing it from someone who is sad/going through some shit... might have more merit? _______________________ |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29652787 Canada12/13/2012 05:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First of all cigarettes are for weak losers. So don't go back. Second, obviously she wasn't your soul mate because if she were she would have understood what you were going through at that time and not said those hurtful things. Here's what's going to happen. Sounds like you had a decent job...you'll find another. Sounds like you had a decent fiancee up until that day...guess what, the next girlfriend you have will be better than her. Just get through this period and start a new beginning. Much like we all will be doing in 8 days! LoL! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States12/13/2012 05:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My head is fucking killing me... I don't want to feel sorry for myself I just can't help it... I just keep thinking of te things i'll miss about her. I know I sound like a pussy, I know she ripped my heart out with the things she said and I should be mad. I just can't be. WTF is wrong with me. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29700844 People say crap to others they care about sometimes. And then later they cool down and apologize. To make a relationship work there has to be lots of forgiveness. Ask people who have been married for zillions of years. They will say the key to staying together is not holding grudges and forgiving each other and themselves over and over again. If she is sorry then give her a hug and move on with each other. |
