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amywood71605

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I work 3rd shift. This past Tuesday I missed work due to WAY too many things going wrong. First, my car broke down. My husband had it pulled/towed to his brothers house around 3pm so he could try and fix it (brother has a garage). While he was gone my 1 year old got very, very sick - so bad that the on call doctor asked me to bring him to the after hours/emergency clinic. While I was gone I began calling co-workers to see if someone could cover my shift. My boss has this big thing about "you have to try and find your own coverage before you call me." Then, while I was trying - my cell ran out of minutes....FML!! I did not have any cash on me - just barely enough change to make one call on a pay phone, so I called the person who does the schedules (boss also gets those messages) - no answer, so I left a message. That night a girl from 2nd shift stopped by - I told her waht happened, she could clearly see my car was shit and not running. She told me "I'll let them know what happened". I also emailed my boss twice that night, and the next morning a few times too.

I get Wed. and Thurs. nights off, due back tonight, and my boss calls me. I expected a lecture - after all, not his fault if I dont have a phone right? But it was way worse - he informed me that he is mailing me a "job abandonment" letter - basically said I didn't try to contact him at all. That's bull! I have the emails - the call logs showing who I tried to call to cover me that night, etc. He told me I should have gone and found a phone, I should have tried harder - found a ride, whatever. I started to get mad and said, "So, you wanted me to leave my sick baby, and my older two boys, home alone (hubby was still gone - he didn't get home until much later - midnight or so), and go WALKING around in the dark looking for a phone?" He didn't really answer me, but that's more or less what was implied. He also said, "_____ who stopped by would have given you a ride in I'm sure." I replied, "Yes I"m sure she would have, she's very nice, but what would I have done with my children?"....... I understand its not his fault I had that much go wrong in one day - but so say I "abandoned" my job just plain hurts to be honest. I've worked there, 3rd shift, for awhile now. Hate 3rd, but stuck with it because I cared about my job - and about the people I cared for in the job. Before this I had NEVER missed a day of work - no warnings, no other issues, nada. My previous performance reviews got high marks. How can it go from that, to this in one incident? I guess I'm just shocked - upset, idk. Fire me, fine, if that's what you really want, but him saying I didn't try when I did is pissing me off.

I know there's probably nothing I can do huh? I just dont like how that is going to make me look. I know it's bad I couldn't make it in that night, but it wasn't like I planned it or did it on purpose. I printed the emails I sent him and the phone logs too.

Ironically, yesterday I got a phone call from a company I've been trying to get into for over a year now - they did a phone interview with me and I have a regular/in person interview Tuesday. I'm just really pissed and upset right now.

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God closes a door before he opens a new one.
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If you live in an AT WILL employment state, which most are today...

The employer can do anything they want...


>except on a basis of some kind of race or sex discrimination but it is your burden to prove it.

And then, most employers end up getting away with a discrimination case because they have the lawyers who know all the loopholes in the laws...

most don't have the $$$$$ to keep fighting a case...


In short, and employer can do anything they want.
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What he is 'doing' to you maybe someone is doing to him because the position remained unfilled. Backlash that he is experiencing from higher up the ladder???

Unfortunate but dwell on the prospects of something better, one door closing another opening.

Learn this, life isx not promised to be fair, things happen and justice is not served. eal with it or it will eat you alive.

For every wrong thing that has been done to most of us we forget the unmerited blessings that accrue to us and give little thought.

Just say thanks to the new opportunity and do not corrupt it with that which you cannot control

Get over it.
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If you have documentation, no worries. Contest it!!
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With the unemployment rate was high, those of you who have jobs, especially shift jobs opposed to manager or desk jobs, have to pretty much kiss the bosses ass these days.
You need him (job) much more than he needs you.

I don't know the particulars about your situation other than what you wrote, but if you relied on someone else to relay a message to management then, I'd be pissed too if I were your superior.

I understand you had a series of bad luck events happen all at once but, tough shit! That's your problem (I'm just playing 'mean boss'. this is not necessarily my stance)

One is bad enough but when you have car issues, a sick child and no phone....it sounds like someone I wouldn't want working for me either. Too much drama.

Again, I am playing devils' advocate and putting on my "boss is a prick" hat.
Convince me why I should give you another chance?
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I agree with Kirk. That door closed for a reason and another one rang right at your fingertips. Let the anger go-meditate-punch a pillow-scream into a pillow-whatever you do just get rid of it. Heck find something with the company logo on it and throw things at it til you feel better. This way you won't drag any bad vibes into the scheduled interview. Good luck to you! hf
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all i see in your post is excues after excuse after excuse.

YOU are what is wrong with America.
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Do you live in a right to work state?
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9teen Lose the anger over the weekend. And no need to mention last weeks misunderstanding, you ain't been officially canned until you get something in the mail.
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With the unemployment rate was high, those of you who have jobs, especially shift jobs opposed to manager or desk jobs, have to pretty much kiss the bosses ass these days.
You need him (job) much more than he needs you.

I don't know the particulars about your situation other than what you wrote, but if you relied on someone else to relay a message to management then, I'd be pissed too if I were your superior.

I understand you had a series of bad luck events happen all at once but, tough shit! That's your problem (I'm just playing 'mean boss'. this is not necessarily my stance)

One is bad enough but when you have car issues, a sick child and no phone....it sounds like someone I wouldn't want working for me either. Too much drama.

Again, I am playing devils' advocate and putting on my "boss is a prick" hat.
Convince me why I should give you another chance?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29150242


I DO understand the boss' point - I really do, and if I had consistently been late to or missed work due to: kids, car, etc......ok, but this was a fluke thing - seriously. When I said i've never missed a day otherwise, I wasn't kidding.

Thing is - I'm not so much upset over not having a job (I'll look for something else) - but I am just really angry/hurt at pretty much having it look like I didn't care, because that is very far from the truth. I hated 3rd shift, but I cared about the ppl I took care of so much, that I stayed with it because it was either stay on 3rd, or don't do it at all.

I know my personal problems are no one's issue but mine, and mine alone. If I'd been in trouble before - I'd understand it more, but to not only fire me but make me out to be someone who just doesn't care, didn't try, etc....that is what is bugging me.
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9teen Lose the anger over the weekend. And no need to mention last weeks misunderstanding, you ain't been officially canned until you get something in the mail.
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Oh he informed me its in the mail as of yesterday. But thanks! hf I just feel blindsided, really badly.
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I agree with Kirk. That door closed for a reason and another one rang right at your fingertips. Let the anger go-meditate-punch a pillow-scream into a pillow-whatever you do just get rid of it. Heck find something with the company logo on it and throw things at it til you feel better. This way you won't drag any bad vibes into the scheduled interview. Good luck to you! hf
 Quoting: Kissplash


Thank you (and Kirk!)

I've always believed in the saying "Everything happens for a reason" - honest. But....sometimes it's just damn hard to understand any of it. My interview is Tuesday, so yes, I have a few days to work through this, thankfully hf
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God closes a door before he opens a new one.
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no.
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Do you live in a right to work state?
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I dont know? VT

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all i see in your post is excues after excuse after excuse.

YOU are what is wrong with America.
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yeah, silly me for thinking my boss would be a little understanding in an extreme situation, never mind that I've never missed a day, never been late....

Hell - maybe I'll just say "screw it" and put myself, hubby and 3 kids on welfare - be easier right?

Yeah...no thanks! I d rather earn what I have
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I work 3rd shift. This past Tuesday I missed work due to WAY too many things going wrong. First, my car broke down. My husband had it pulled/towed to his brothers house around 3pm so he could try and fix it (brother has a garage). While he was gone my 1 year old got very, very sick - so bad that the on call doctor asked me to bring him to the after hours/emergency clinic. While I was gone I began calling co-workers to see if someone could cover my shift. My boss has this big thing about "you have to try and find your own coverage before you call me." Then, while I was trying - my cell ran out of minutes....FML!! I did not have any cash on me - just barely enough change to make one call on a pay phone, so I called the person who does the schedules (boss also gets those messages) - no answer, so I left a message. That night a girl from 2nd shift stopped by - I told her waht happened, she could clearly see my car was shit and not running. She told me "I'll let them know what happened". I also emailed my boss twice that night, and the next morning a few times too.

I get Wed. and Thurs. nights off, due back tonight, and my boss calls me. I expected a lecture - after all, not his fault if I dont have a phone right? But it was way worse - he informed me that he is mailing me a "job abandonment" letter - basically said I didn't try to contact him at all. That's bull! I have the emails - the call logs showing who I tried to call to cover me that night, etc. He told me I should have gone and found a phone, I should have tried harder - found a ride, whatever. I started to get mad and said, "So, you wanted me to leave my sick baby, and my older two boys, home alone (hubby was still gone - he didn't get home until much later - midnight or so), and go WALKING around in the dark looking for a phone?" He didn't really answer me, but that's more or less what was implied. He also said, "_____ who stopped by would have given you a ride in I'm sure." I replied, "Yes I"m sure she would have, she's very nice, but what would I have done with my children?"....... I understand its not his fault I had that much go wrong in one day - but so say I "abandoned" my job just plain hurts to be honest. I've worked there, 3rd shift, for awhile now. Hate 3rd, but stuck with it because I cared about my job - and about the people I cared for in the job. Before this I had NEVER missed a day of work - no warnings, no other issues, nada. My previous performance reviews got high marks. How can it go from that, to this in one incident? I guess I'm just shocked - upset, idk. Fire me, fine, if that's what you really want, but him saying I didn't try when I did is pissing me off.

I know there's probably nothing I can do huh? I just dont like how that is going to make me look. I know it's bad I couldn't make it in that night, but it wasn't like I planned it or did it on purpose. I printed the emails I sent him and the phone logs too.

Ironically, yesterday I got a phone call from a company I've been trying to get into for over a year now - they did a phone interview with me and I have a regular/in person interview Tuesday. I'm just really pissed and upset right now.
 Quoting: amywood71605

Are you in the medical field? I would call an employment lawyer as they cannot discharge over a medical emergency in your immediate family, especially for the medical emergency of your own child. Corporations will do whatever they can get away with and without a person fighting back, they get way with lots of illegal acts. It is lie when you go to a business establishment and a sign says " we are not responsible for lost, stolen, etc.....) Well guess what? They are usually! call around your area for employment lawyers and DO NOT SIGN THAT DOCUMENT HE IS SENDING YOU! Tell them you will have your attorney review it and act in accordance to your legal counsel's advice. Employment lawyers work on a contingency basis normally so that means you pay no up front monies. Also, I do believe you should definitely go for the other likely, better job, as the other poster said.. God Opens The New Door..... Your boss is a serious scrooge to do this around the holidays too... Definitely sue....
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sounds like you have too much goin on in your life. maybe its for the best you get fired so you can take care of the baby like a real mother.
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Cabelas has a wide selection of machetes.....
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Depends on what state you're in OP.

But you did try and contact everyone so you didn't abandon your job. And if you have phone records of it simply take him to court. You will likely win.
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I work 3rd shift. This past Tuesday I missed work due to WAY too many things going wrong. First, my car broke down. My husband had it pulled/towed to his brothers house around 3pm so he could try and fix it (brother has a garage). While he was gone my 1 year old got very, very sick - so bad that the on call doctor asked me to bring him to the after hours/emergency clinic. While I was gone I began calling co-workers to see if someone could cover my shift. My boss has this big thing about "you have to try and find your own coverage before you call me." Then, while I was trying - my cell ran out of minutes....FML!! I did not have any cash on me - just barely enough change to make one call on a pay phone, so I called the person who does the schedules (boss also gets those messages) - no answer, so I left a message. That night a girl from 2nd shift stopped by - I told her waht happened, she could clearly see my car was shit and not running. She told me "I'll let them know what happened". I also emailed my boss twice that night, and the next morning a few times too.

I get Wed. and Thurs. nights off, due back tonight, and my boss calls me. I expected a lecture - after all, not his fault if I dont have a phone right? But it was way worse - he informed me that he is mailing me a "job abandonment" letter - basically said I didn't try to contact him at all. That's bull! I have the emails - the call logs showing who I tried to call to cover me that night, etc. He told me I should have gone and found a phone, I should have tried harder - found a ride, whatever. I started to get mad and said, "So, you wanted me to leave my sick baby, and my older two boys, home alone (hubby was still gone - he didn't get home until much later - midnight or so), and go WALKING around in the dark looking for a phone?" He didn't really answer me, but that's more or less what was implied. He also said, "_____ who stopped by would have given you a ride in I'm sure." I replied, "Yes I"m sure she would have, she's very nice, but what would I have done with my children?"....... I understand its not his fault I had that much go wrong in one day - but so say I "abandoned" my job just plain hurts to be honest. I've worked there, 3rd shift, for awhile now. Hate 3rd, but stuck with it because I cared about my job - and about the people I cared for in the job. Before this I had NEVER missed a day of work - no warnings, no other issues, nada. My previous performance reviews got high marks. How can it go from that, to this in one incident? I guess I'm just shocked - upset, idk. Fire me, fine, if that's what you really want, but him saying I didn't try when I did is pissing me off.

I know there's probably nothing I can do huh? I just dont like how that is going to make me look. I know it's bad I couldn't make it in that night, but it wasn't like I planned it or did it on purpose. I printed the emails I sent him and the phone logs too.

Ironically, yesterday I got a phone call from a company I've been trying to get into for over a year now - they did a phone interview with me and I have a regular/in person interview Tuesday. I'm just really pissed and upset right now.
 Quoting: amywood71605

Are you in the medical field? I would call an employment lawyer as they cannot discharge over a medical emergency in your immediate family, especially for the medical emergency of your own child. Corporations will do whatever they can get away with and without a person fighting back, they get way with lots of illegal acts. It is lie when you go to a business establishment and a sign says " we are not responsible for lost, stolen, etc.....) Well guess what? They are usually! call around your area for employment lawyers and DO NOT SIGN THAT DOCUMENT HE IS SENDING YOU! Tell them you will have your attorney review it and act in accordance to your legal counsel's advice. Employment lawyers work on a contingency basis normally so that means you pay no up front monies. Also, I do believe you should definitely go for the other likely, better job, as the other poster said.. God Opens The New Door..... Your boss is a serious scrooge to do this around the holidays too... Definitely sue....
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My 1 year old got sick, fast. His fever went up to 103.2 - I called the on-call pediatrician, and she instructed me to bring him in to the after hours/emergency clinic.
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sounds like you have too much goin on in your life. maybe its for the best you get fired so you can take care of the baby like a real mother.
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Go to hell a**hole!

WHy did I take 3rd shift to begin with? Hmmmm....maybe it was so I'd always be here when my kids are awake. Can you read??? I've never missed ANY time before this. But when my son is that sick that he needs attention asap, yes that is where my focus will be. Unlike so many bums today, I WANT to work to support my family (my husband works full time as well). I don't want to be on welfare, or anything like that. So, thanks but I DO take care of my kids, BY MYSELF.
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I work 3rd shift. This past Tuesday I missed work due to WAY too many things going wrong. First, my car broke down. My husband had it pulled/towed to his brothers house around 3pm so he could try and fix it (brother has a garage). While he was gone my 1 year old got very, very sick - so bad that the on call doctor asked me to bring him to the after hours/emergency clinic. While I was gone I began calling co-workers to see if someone could cover my shift. My boss has this big thing about "you have to try and find your own coverage before you call me." Then, while I was trying - my cell ran out of minutes....FML!! I did not have any cash on me - just barely enough change to make one call on a pay phone, so I called the person who does the schedules (boss also gets those messages) - no answer, so I left a message. That night a girl from 2nd shift stopped by - I told her waht happened, she could clearly see my car was shit and not running. She told me "I'll let them know what happened". I also emailed my boss twice that night, and the next morning a few times too.

I get Wed. and Thurs. nights off, due back tonight, and my boss calls me. I expected a lecture - after all, not his fault if I dont have a phone right? But it was way worse - he informed me that he is mailing me a "job abandonment" letter - basically said I didn't try to contact him at all. That's bull! I have the emails - the call logs showing who I tried to call to cover me that night, etc. He told me I should have gone and found a phone, I should have tried harder - found a ride, whatever. I started to get mad and said, "So, you wanted me to leave my sick baby, and my older two boys, home alone (hubby was still gone - he didn't get home until much later - midnight or so), and go WALKING around in the dark looking for a phone?" He didn't really answer me, but that's more or less what was implied. He also said, "_____ who stopped by would have given you a ride in I'm sure." I replied, "Yes I"m sure she would have, she's very nice, but what would I have done with my children?"....... I understand its not his fault I had that much go wrong in one day - but so say I "abandoned" my job just plain hurts to be honest. I've worked there, 3rd shift, for awhile now. Hate 3rd, but stuck with it because I cared about my job - and about the people I cared for in the job. Before this I had NEVER missed a day of work - no warnings, no other issues, nada. My previous performance reviews got high marks. How can it go from that, to this in one incident? I guess I'm just shocked - upset, idk. Fire me, fine, if that's what you really want, but him saying I didn't try when I did is pissing me off.

I know there's probably nothing I can do huh? I just dont like how that is going to make me look. I know it's bad I couldn't make it in that night, but it wasn't like I planned it or did it on purpose. I printed the emails I sent him and the phone logs too.

Ironically, yesterday I got a phone call from a company I've been trying to get into for over a year now - they did a phone interview with me and I have a regular/in person interview Tuesday. I'm just really pissed and upset right now.
 Quoting: amywood71605




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Please calm down...do not mention all of this to your new possible job interviewer. It will make you look like someone with too much baggage. Be positive and happy and do not criticize your old job! Good luck!
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Depends on what state you're in OP.

But you did try and contact everyone so you didn't abandon your job. And if you have phone records of it simply take him to court. You will likely win.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 3987337


yeah, I've had several ppl say that to me today. Not sure I want it to go that far though.....
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I agree with Kirk. That door closed for a reason and another one rang right at your fingertips. Let the anger go-meditate-punch a pillow-scream into a pillow-whatever you do just get rid of it. Heck find something with the company logo on it and throw things at it til you feel better. This way you won't drag any bad vibes into the scheduled interview. Good luck to you! hf
 Quoting: Kissplash


Thank you (and Kirk!)

I've always believed in the saying "Everything happens for a reason" - honest. But....sometimes it's just damn hard to understand any of it. My interview is Tuesday, so yes, I have a few days to work through this, thankfully hf
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Lordy Lady...did you give your current boss's name as a reference for the new job? If so, you might want to figure out a new, better story than you gave us.
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You've got a nice, young face.
Get a cute haircut and make a fresh start.
Go forward.

Just let this go and forgetaboutit.
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You've got a nice, young face.
Get a cute haircut and make a fresh start.
Go forward.

Just let this go and forgetaboutit.
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aww, thank you =)

I actually have gotten a hair cut since this pic - quite a bit too =)
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I work 3rd shift. This past Tuesday I missed work due to WAY too many things going wrong. First, my car broke down. My husband had it pulled/towed to his brothers house around 3pm so he could try and fix it (brother has a garage). While he was gone my 1 year old got very, very sick - so bad that the on call doctor asked me to bring him to the after hours/emergency clinic. While I was gone I began calling co-workers to see if someone could cover my shift. My boss has this big thing about "you have to try and find your own coverage before you call me." Then, while I was trying - my cell ran out of minutes....FML!! I did not have any cash on me - just barely enough change to make one call on a pay phone, so I called the person who does the schedules (boss also gets those messages) - no answer, so I left a message. That night a girl from 2nd shift stopped by - I told her waht happened, she could clearly see my car was shit and not running. She told me "I'll let them know what happened". I also emailed my boss twice that night, and the next morning a few times too.

I get Wed. and Thurs. nights off, due back tonight, and my boss calls me. I expected a lecture - after all, not his fault if I dont have a phone right? But it was way worse - he informed me that he is mailing me a "job abandonment" letter - basically said I didn't try to contact him at all. That's bull! I have the emails - the call logs showing who I tried to call to cover me that night, etc. He told me I should have gone and found a phone, I should have tried harder - found a ride, whatever. I started to get mad and said, "So, you wanted me to leave my sick baby, and my older two boys, home alone (hubby was still gone - he didn't get home until much later - midnight or so), and go WALKING around in the dark looking for a phone?" He didn't really answer me, but that's more or less what was implied. He also said, "_____ who stopped by would have given you a ride in I'm sure." I replied, "Yes I"m sure she would have, she's very nice, but what would I have done with my children?"....... I understand its not his fault I had that much go wrong in one day - but so say I "abandoned" my job just plain hurts to be honest. I've worked there, 3rd shift, for awhile now. Hate 3rd, but stuck with it because I cared about my job - and about the people I cared for in the job. Before this I had NEVER missed a day of work - no warnings, no other issues, nada. My previous performance reviews got high marks. How can it go from that, to this in one incident? I guess I'm just shocked - upset, idk. Fire me, fine, if that's what you really want, but him saying I didn't try when I did is pissing me off.

I know there's probably nothing I can do huh? I just dont like how that is going to make me look. I know it's bad I couldn't make it in that night, but it wasn't like I planned it or did it on purpose. I printed the emails I sent him and the phone logs too.

Ironically, yesterday I got a phone call from a company I've been trying to get into for over a year now - they did a phone interview with me and I have a regular/in person interview Tuesday. I'm just really pissed and upset right now.
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he's picking on you because you give a shit about your job and knows you will take whatever he says on board (even if wrong)

if on the other hand you didn't give a shit about your job then he wouldn't have called you up.

he just likes watching people squirm, squirm for him and the next time he asks a favour i.e. stay late or do an extra shift turn him down politely. he'll get the message.

my boss is exactly the same, only picks on the ones that try and that are bothered about their jobs.
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Re: Can my employer do this?!?!
You didn't give enough info to get a legitimate response.

How big is the employer? Is it a family owned business or do they have a full time HR department? Devil is in the details…


Maybe God knew you never would have left that crapy old job on your own, so he pushed you out. It was the only way he could get you into your new better job.

Look on the bright side of life…

Good luck to you.
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I work 3rd shift. This past Tuesday I missed work due to WAY too many things going wrong. First, my car broke down. My husband had it pulled/towed to his brothers house around 3pm so he could try and fix it (brother has a garage). While he was gone my 1 year old got very, very sick - so bad that the on call doctor asked me to bring him to the after hours/emergency clinic. While I was gone I began calling co-workers to see if someone could cover my shift. My boss has this big thing about "you have to try and find your own coverage before you call me." Then, while I was trying - my cell ran out of minutes....FML!! I did not have any cash on me - just barely enough change to make one call on a pay phone, so I called the person who does the schedules (boss also gets those messages) - no answer, so I left a message. That night a girl from 2nd shift stopped by - I told her waht happened, she could clearly see my car was shit and not running. She told me "I'll let them know what happened". I also emailed my boss twice that night, and the next morning a few times too.

I get Wed. and Thurs. nights off, due back tonight, and my boss calls me. I expected a lecture - after all, not his fault if I dont have a phone right? But it was way worse - he informed me that he is mailing me a "job abandonment" letter - basically said I didn't try to contact him at all. That's bull! I have the emails - the call logs showing who I tried to call to cover me that night, etc. He told me I should have gone and found a phone, I should have tried harder - found a ride, whatever. I started to get mad and said, "So, you wanted me to leave my sick baby, and my older two boys, home alone (hubby was still gone - he didn't get home until much later - midnight or so), and go WALKING around in the dark looking for a phone?" He didn't really answer me, but that's more or less what was implied. He also said, "_____ who stopped by would have given you a ride in I'm sure." I replied, "Yes I"m sure she would have, she's very nice, but what would I have done with my children?"....... I understand its not his fault I had that much go wrong in one day - but so say I "abandoned" my job just plain hurts to be honest. I've worked there, 3rd shift, for awhile now. Hate 3rd, but stuck with it because I cared about my job - and about the people I cared for in the job. Before this I had NEVER missed a day of work - no warnings, no other issues, nada. My previous performance reviews got high marks. How can it go from that, to this in one incident? I guess I'm just shocked - upset, idk. Fire me, fine, if that's what you really want, but him saying I didn't try when I did is pissing me off.

I know there's probably nothing I can do huh? I just dont like how that is going to make me look. I know it's bad I couldn't make it in that night, but it wasn't like I planned it or did it on purpose. I printed the emails I sent him and the phone logs too.

Ironically, yesterday I got a phone call from a company I've been trying to get into for over a year now - they did a phone interview with me and I have a regular/in person interview Tuesday. I'm just really pissed and upset right now.
 Quoting: amywood71605


Be thankful the Devine is showing you a way to a better job. Perhaps starting you own I home daycare making twice what you did, allowing you to spend time with your child as well. Make your own way do not depend o. Others for a job.

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