What's the deal with "crying" in Newtown?

I've been close to two tragic deaths and I actually ran out of tears, but it took about 2 weeks. BUT my eyes were so swollen and red, heck my entire face was swollen from crying so much.

It's called shock. They are under immense pain and still shocked. It's like a bad nightmare you can't wake up from.

Many people cannot cry at funerals when they lost loved ones.

It says nothing about their love for that person...

I noticed that too. Not one tear. Weird...

Yes, right . . . these people don't even LOOK like they've been crying at all. I can't believe that ANY mother of a small child could hold back outward emotion - even in a state of shock.

No, I know that . . . sometimes people hold all their emotions in . . . but mothers of little children? I think they'd be more outwardly emotional - or at least have an appearance that they've been crying.

Everything about the story is weird.

I lived in CT for many years, am married to someone whose family is from Newtown going back before the revolution

it's pretty different from NY or NJ

My inlaws, I have never seen them cry, not even when they lost their parents or when my dad died (who they said they adored) not when a grandchild died tragically

imho its the old wasp upbringing, where it is lower class to show emotion or react visibly

if you went to a NE school, dated a typical wasp, you remember "no visible display of affection"


In fact, when my dad died and I was devastated, it took two months for my father in law to send a card.

I still have it

It just said in all caps:

KEEP A STIFF UPPER LIP

hope this helps...

It takes a lot for people on this board to analyze and criticize how others grieve.

Shame

I can see that.

Wow. For those who have never lost a loved one in a sudden and violent way, please don't judge the perceived lack of emotion from those who are suffering. People grieve in their own private and personal way. It is not weird if you don't tears. Tears are being shed in time and with family and loved ones. Instead of judging, please pray for healing.

Wow. For those who have never lost a loved one in a sudden and violent way, please don't judge the perceived lack of emotion from those who are suffering. People grieve in their own private and personal way. It is not weird if you don't tears. Tears are being shed in time and with family and loved ones. Instead of judging, please pray for healing.

When my friend died from suicide, I didn't grieve or cry until I saw his young lifeless body in the casket.