Sandy Hook: Blood on Windows, Screams in School, Parents Screaming

This is real. I live in newtown. I went to the wake of the principal. It was open casket. A 6 year old girl in line in front of me told the police at the door that she saw her teacher dead. Also, sandy hook school did not resume on Tuesday. All other newtown schools did. Those kids are being moved to a new school in a nearby town, they have not gone back to school yet. Fucking idiot, pay some respect instead of wasting your time thinking about how the whole world is against you. Two mothers who lost children are clients of mine. That father on tv was that poor girls REAL father, dick. I have seen these children with their parents in the past long before they were televised. I feel sorry for you that you will never be part of a community like this, you will never know how important it is to be surrounded by love at a heavy time of grief such as this. Also, go fuck yourself.

Upper middle class white people are taught that grief - no matter how painful - is a private thing. You do not make a scene and if possible you refrain from crying or being seen crying in public. That's what heavy veils are for at funerals. Men have large sunglasses as their "prop" to hide their bloodshot eyes.

This town is upscale old money. Probably mostly Episcopalian or Lutheran and a smattering of Unitarians. There might be a few Catholic and/or Jewish families but they're all part of the same social circle and they wouldn't be caught dead dishonoring the memory of a loved one (especially a beloved child) by letting the public see them in private moments of grieving.

I remember when my Uncle Frank died. I loved him and was inconsolable. While in the Limo on the way to the funeral, my grandmother carefully coached me to be "strong" and to "not embarrass the family or Uncle Frank's memory" by crying or "carrying on" in public. "Our sort of family" doesn't act that way in public. Grief is a private matter."

When we got home after the funeral and the graveside service there were probably 200-300 friends and family waiting for the core family to return home. They were all eating, drinking, and discussing their memories of Uncle Frank and his life. I went up to my room and later on my grandmother brought be a tray and sat with me and we cried together. But only in private. Even the household help were not allowed to see the family grieving in such an obvious way.

Do not think they don't have feelings. They do. Very much so. But they wouldn't dare dishonor their family or their child by being public with their grief. That's not how "we" act. If you want to see the perfect example of this kind of upper class grieving in the 20th century - look at the tapes of Mrs Kennedy after her Husband was murdered in Dallas and she flew home on the plane with his body as Lyndon Johnson was sworn in as the new President of the US. Mrs. Kennedy went thru that entire state funeral and never let anyone see her break down or become hysterical in public. That's how the upper classes grieve. Don't expect these Sandy Hook families to be screaming and raging. They're ladies and gentlemen who were raised to act properly... even in this circumstance - heaven help them!

So, you have told us something. THIS SCHOOL didn't go back Tuesday. Do you know when they returned? I realize it is not the same building.

I am sorry for your loss.