Skipping out on Christmas Eve dinner w/family

No, our family will all be together. Best thing about the holidays is enjoying it with family.

Been there. Just say you have the flu or something if they question you.

Or just tell them to fuck off.

not me like getting together with jucied up family members.after everyone has the spirit wind em up,and sit back and watch.

We don't do Christmas Eve dinner.

We also don't put up with assholes because it's the polite/right thing to do.

If we don't like a motherfucker..family or not, they're not coming in the house and we're not going to feed them or eat with them. We certainly wouldn't go to their home. :)

I don't get why people put up with the same crap year after year.

Good on you for bailing. To hell with making yourself miserable.

this

Ask a girl out.

Tis the season ;)

No - don't feel bad. and you should remind your grandma that you and family come first, not some rude, mean drunkards who disrespect her family in her home

Go to the dinner and you be the one who is judgmental!
Make fun of aunt Harriet,s mustache or cousin Elmers Tourrettes. That guarantees that next year you won't be missed !

Just avoid shit people. I don't speak to the majority of my extended family, never happier. Tradition is for weak minded cunts.

If you are lucky enough to have a nice family, with people that have good hearts, enjoy your holiday with them.

Happy Holidays

Good, we are sick of you being a whiney bitch boy anyway.

just dont go.
you dont need an excuse to tell people.
say No.

I dont do xmas..some of my family do , but most of us are just over it.
Im staying put ...I will have a vegemite sammich for lunch....yummy

You sound extremely miserable. I hope your heart softens soon. Merry Christmas

i dont either.the rest of my family does.
last 4 weeks ive avoided phonecalls trying to get me to do 'something christmassy', when i say no to one thing they suggest something else.
i dont get along with them, every other time i see them its tense or argumentative or worse, i dont see what the fuss is about fake niceties at christmas time just because everyones programmed thats what they 'should 'be doing at christmas, when i dont hear from them for the rest of the year.

fucking do gooders in this thread forget families can be fucked up and its not smart to put yourself in toxic environments at anytime.

Be gracious. No need to be mean spirited.
Tell them you don't feel up to it.
That is the truth isn't it?

depends on the type of family you have. sometimes it is best to go see friends or be alone than with toxic people who are in large amounts at a gathering. a movie is a good alternative.

Getting together with my family and friends is actually the only part of Christmas I actually like.

My family is very dysfunctional and some members can't stand some of the others but what the heck? There are petty little disputes that longer and gossip tossed around. Actually my family is probably pretty normal and I will probably even miss some of the assholes once they're gone. It's only one night a year.....

Nice.
Merry Christmas to You.

I'm avoiding all of my extended family again this year. The only person I'll be spending any time with is my Dad and his wife, I'll go see them on xmas morning. And it's not that the rest of my family are assholes or lowlifes, it's just that I'm not comfortable in social situations, even around decent people like my extended family.

This started several years ago when I was unemployed and was anxious that 50 people would end up asking me where I work, and I'd have to revisit the pain of losing a job and explaining it to everyone. Then the next year, when I did have a job, I was working 3rd shift, and used the excuse that I had to keep my same sleep schedule and was going to need to sleep instead of attending the gatherings.

Then, after a few years of my dad giving me guilt trips and saying how everyone had been asking about me and why I didn't go, my anxiety grew about if I ever did start going again, I'd spend all night making up excuses to everyone bugging me about why they haven't seen me in so long. I still work 3rd shift now, but I have a better job and a lot of vacation, including a few days around xmas this year. So I just told my dad I was going out of town to travel this year, and that I wouldn't be home for xmas.

I'm planning on surprising him xmas morning with a visit, but I'll have avoided all the other family get-togethers, and will have enjoyed a stress-free vacation and holiday.

I just hate fake, contrived, bullshit, petty conversations about all the pop culture shit that everyone talks about. I'm lucky enough to work independently on 3rd shift at work, and pretty much avoid 99% of the typical chit-chat water cooler talk that the rest of americans thrive on. I just can't stand devoting any energy at all to speaking about trivial things. And I get the feeling that a lot of the people who perpetuate these lame traditions feel the same way, but they do it just to be social. But I'm no longer a social animal. I'm now an island, and I don't need attention or self-assurance that so many people derive from having these petty conversations.

This year will be the last year I make excuses though. Next year, I'll simply tell my Dad that I'll spend time with him, but I'd rather not see anyone else on the holidays. And if he doesn't like it, or wants to give me a guilt trip, I'll tell him that that's just how I am, it's a way that I can minimize my stress, and if he doesn't like it, he's just going to have to deal with it.

Ya me too, but I am a grandma. No need to be around hypocrits for holiday. Too bad stuck babysetting grandkids or I would get together with a boy friend and get waisted in a hot bubble tub, blast some tunes and do some dirty dancing. LOL and thats the truth plllbbb

I'm miserable because I won't put up with hateful people on the holidays? Wrong. I'm not a doormat for relatives I haven't seen all year, or friends of family that decide to take out their stress or hate on me. I spend my time with people that matter, my two children, my 3 nieces and nephew, my mother and father, brother and sister. We don't fight, we don't taunt each other. There is no conflict or stress.

You don't know anything about me. Lecturing me about my heart based on a post is ridiculous.

Yeah. I've had it with family bullshit. If they want to be cool, that's cool. But nor more kissing Aunt Sue's ass and ignoring Uncle Asshole. Fuck 'em.

every family is different
if your parents don't care then I'd say go ahead and go to the movies instead

Yeah. At some point you have to step in and draw the line. Fuck 'em. Sounds like you need a break.

And I forgot to mention another big reason why I no longer care much for my extended family. For 2-3 years I was going through some really rough times. And the only person who ever offered any help, or even gave me the time of day, was my Dad. For several years, not one person, not even my Dad even asked me how I was doing. I'm sure my Dad ran his mouth and told everybody about the shit I was going through, and that would have made it even more akward if I were to start going to holiday functions again, because there's 80 people who knew about all the shit I went through, and not once did any of them even pick up the phone and call me. I'm sure they spent a fair deal of time discussing my situation in my absence, but they couldn't bother to call me or send me an email asking me how I was doing?

So if I did start going to family functions, and all of a sudden that we're forced to be face to face, they'll want to toss small talk back and forth with me? Fuck that, and fuck them. I hate fake ass people, which equates to 95% of the population, and the only halfway real person in my family is my Dad. I still have a lot of work to do if we're ever really going to connect and talk about anything of substance, but there's a foundation there at least.

And the sad part is, my Dad, the one person I care about in this world, I can't even completely trust at this point. A while back he turned me in as a person that should be watched, so I've been under surveillance for years because of him. But other than my cat, he's all I've got. If he ever proves to be completely untrustworthy though, I'll leave him, and this godforsaken state and I'll never come back, never call, never give another flying fuck about anyone that was in my life. I'll start over somewhere else, and give humanity one more chance.

/rant