We don't do Christmas Eve dinner.

We also don't put up with assholes because it's the polite/right thing to do.

If we don't like a motherfucker..family or not, they're not coming in the house and we're not going to feed them or eat with them. We certainly wouldn't go to their home. :)

I don't get why people put up with the same crap year after year.

Good on you for bailing. To hell with making yourself miserable.