Anyone that could help I'd forever appreciate

Reality is local it extends to the length of your arm.

OP - first, let me say that I hear you, man. Every word!

Second, please know that, as a child of the universe, you are an integral part of all goodness and love. Know this to be the ONLY truth, for each and every one of us, no matter who we are or what our lives have been.

I won't be giving you advise, but instead sharing with you the one experience that has made all the difference for me in my life.

Here goes:

A number of years ago, I had sought help to heal from a traumatic incident in my childhood and the couselor knew me to be a compassionate person who needed to learn how to use that compassion on myself. So she helped me create a rescuer me that came to the aid of my child self and stood up for and protected me.

I have used this over and over again through these past several decades to help me heal and keep me integrated. Any time I found myself in a hurtful situation or feeling small, vulnerable and lost, I would pull out my rescuer self and let her do the talking. She has defended me, comforted me, healed me.

She is the part of me that is the sane, just, adult part of my being that was kept down and hidden during all those years of abuse and pain.

And, over the years, she has emerged as the real me; a powerful, sane, strong, adult who not only knows how to care for, love and nuture myself, but can do so for my world and those in it as well.

You talk about your compassion being the one thing that keeps you feeling human. This has been my creators gift to me as well. I call on it daily and it has allowed me to build a life of love and giving and joy.

But I had to learn to use this gift to bring goodness to my world by learning to give it to myself first. The school I was given was me, the lessons, my life.

You have been given everything you need to live a life of love and peace. You are your own champion. So, within your mind, create a loving, protective entity. Imagine yourself as a small child. What would that entity do? Hold you, tell you that you are loved, keep you safe from harm? Of course, because as a compassionate person, this is what you already know how to do for others. It is the gift you bring to the world.

But the irony is that we can not bring to our world that which we cannot do for ourselves first. Only a cup that is truly full can overflow.

Now all that is left is for you to give that gift to yourself and learn to use to love and heal yourself. Then you can bring that gift to the rest of us as a whole and healthy person who overflows with that wonderful being that was given life to bring love to the world.

Blessings and Love - you are worthy of both and all in abundance.

I do not consider myself "religious" and frankly don't like the word. I have a relationship with God/Jesus/Holy Spirit. Considering, He created me.. it seems the most natural thing in the world.

Maybe we're not the freaks in this picture?

How do you know God doesn't answer prayer?

He is NOT a genie in a bottle or Santa Claus.. nor someone who jumps when you want something.

We all have a spiritual parent.. God or Satan.

Sadly it's easy to see who you take after.

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yes it's true god does not answer prayers.. it's wasn't programmed for that task. it's programmed to execute them!

so don;t pray in the name of god you will get a reduncy loop error.

OP - Let's pause and think for a minute:

Suppose you are in a new town and you are lost. You look around and you see a bunch of tourists taking photos, binoculars around neck. Would you go to them and ask for directions? Probably not. You would probably go to a store, or gas station, or a mail carrier doing rounds...someone who knows the town. Now you are lost. You are realizing that you need help. You don't know which way to turn to find your way back to sanity. So pause and think: Who do you know in your life, your world that seems like they are leading a good life? Successful, maybe not rich, but financially comfortable, no major issues, good family life, helpful to community, whatever strikes you as balanced, well-grounded, stable person. Could be a former or present teacher, a pastor, a school counselor, an old family friend, a former boss (maybe was hard on you, kicked your ass around because s(he) saw some potential in you? A neighbor? Call them and say, "I always respected you as a well grounded stable person, a good example to someone young like me. Would you be able to spend no more than an hour with me to help me chart my direction? I really meed good advice and I much rather turn to someone like you." Now be sure you mean it - that you respect this person and will take their advice seriously. Then ask them: Did they have difficulties? How did they overcome? What did they do to cope when things got really negative? If you can think of more than one person, then lucky for you! Approach all! They know the direction and can point the map. Try - it just maybe your lucky break.

So, your parents took out their stress of life on you. Well, now you can pacify yourself by learning meditation. It takes no money, and it is a form of self-hypnosis. Breathe in deeply, count to 10 or 4 or 5, and let out the breathe slowly. Breathe into your stomach, not your chest, by expanding your stomach. You think of no thoughts and you cancel negative thoughts by saying "cancel, cancel" whenever you have one come into mind. At first you will not catch it right away, but when you do just say "cancel, cancel" for in 30 days you will catch it right away when it happens. This does not mean to add anxiety or sadness or any other emotion, simply acknowledge emotions but do not "REACT" to any emotion.

Most of the world "reacts" or feels like they have to defend something, sometimes some people do not feel like they have to defend anything. What you have to defend is how you feel about it, and just acknowledge how you feel without over-reacting, or getting bent out about it.

You can only help those who help theirselves. You are not their keeper or caretaker. You are your own caretaker and keeper. Do that first and perhaps someday you can help others, but help yourself out first.

There are a bunch of people (whom will be called a-holes and some are) and these people all have their own problems also.
Do not shy away as if you do not belong (but afterall belonging to the human race may not be actually needed in a sense of well-being). Find out the resources available to you and if nothing else, turn off everything. Surround yourself with your own creative tree, while sitting underneath. The notes on the tree like the leaves may say nothing, but then you may come across one that has an creative idea on it.

Let yourself breath by giving yourself "space" and in the end avoid the "train-wreck" life that has been controlling you. Simply do not react in a negative way or react or feel guilty if you do not have to for others and their emotional, personal, and habitual problems. All people have habits, some people have more bad habits than good habits.

It is the journey of the life and not the life its self. Seek others not to help but help yourself out of your own "train-wreck" first, then you may have learned something that was there all the time, and perhaps about life in general.

Don't let your life be an end, but a journey that can change every day by looking at life in a different way.

Adjust to the moments of seeing something different or in a different way, and just acknowledge the emotions in the end.

Life will change, it always does, but what you do, is and will be up to you. Do not go off half-cocked, just cocked, a lot of other people do, but do acknowledge it, instead of
reacting" to it and say that is not a person's total life, just a small segment in a brief history of time. Do not be persuaded by others unless you have thought about it first, and decided that it was something you really need. Be not controlled, and do not control. Meditation, and quieting your mind for a period of time during the day, and doing the breathing exercises will help out.

In fact, it is a standard today for everyone to do:

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And it does not cost anything to do!

And do not say that you can not do it (that is negative) but say you can do "meditation". Anyone can forget the problems of the day for a brief history of time to do "meditation" for it is really nothing new, but practicing it does see you do it for your life, your health, for others in the end, and for the world.

And put religion where it belongs.

(even though I will be watching the Vatican tonight and Midnight Mass at the Vatican) and wondering why some people feel the need to make that place look like it does, and not help people more, but then - perhaps they really have not learned religion and have not intention of being real, but being how they are, bent on an attitude.

It does not affect me, for religion is not bad, and people may be good while seeming to be bad or the opposite, for it was just good and bad decisions out of people, and that was all.

You are writing your own fate.

"I can't..."

"There isn't..."

It sounds mega cheese but if you start believing you live a life of bounty, knowing that all your needs will be taken care of, suddenly it will come into focus that you already have everything you need. You're living a self-fulfilling prophesy of despair chasing your own tail. What you're missing is that the whole point of your job as a sentient being is to stay alive. Do it one minute at a time if you have to, each second you're still breathing is a success in the grand scheme of things.

Most of our lives have been shit, that's what life is. I come from a crazy mother and a deadbeat father. So?

Don't try to figure out how you will get to happiness, start to live as if you are already there and the path will become clear to you.

And please for the love of goddess stay away from the anti-depressants, they'll only twist your perception further.

God is the support helpdesk!

Pray = Deep breath, be totaly sincere and blow your problems to the wind.
Dont wait for a imediate answer, just start to walk.

And the short version of all of this - is - keep a level head!

Stop blaming everyone else for your problems.

Go spend some time in a hospice facility where people would give anything to be in your healthy body.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Go for walks. Talk to strangers in person.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

The pain you feel is the pain you've earned.

Forgive and forget.

Live and learn.

Don't put yourself in circumstances that you've learned from the past can hurt you.

Stop expecting other people to make you better. Only God can make you better, and only if you choose to forgive. "Forgive, and you shall be forgiven."

Stop thinking of yourself as 'innocent'. The pain you feel is the pain you've earned (karma is God's law is perfect).

Forgive everyone who has hurt you. Don't expect to feel forgiveness; choose to forgive. Make a conscious decision to forgive. Don't tell the people you've forgiven them; just make the decision to forgive them, and stick to that decision.

Thank God for the grace of time he's given you to get things right.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop and think for a second how many strangers here on GLP care enough about you to take the time to try to help you from the store of their wisdom and life experience. That is God's love working through strangers, just for you. Now go and do that for others.

Someone needs you. Help that person.

Be a blessing, and you will be blessed.

Amen.

WOW. Just Wow! Beautiful. :)

get the fuck out of the states simply really

go to europe or china.

Your family has and is abusing you and you probably have to leave them behind and let them sort out their own problems with God.

Stop trying to take God's place with all these vampiric energy life sucking people. They are God's creation, not yours and it's a kind of arrogance in you that makes you think you can step in and alter their course, the course God has set for them and that somehow if you only sacrifice enough, it will make a difference.

Well let's see, how far are you going to go to prove you know better than God? Death? He hasn't let you do that, but accidents do happen...

Stop interfering in God's plan for other people and become more skilled at listening to what His plan is for you, then follow it to the best of your abilities.

You were not put here to take care of other people. That's called meddling.

Mother Theresa when asked why she helped all those people and wasn't that hard on her, answered, "No. It makes me feel good. I wouldn't do it if it made me feel bad."

There you have it.

Hang in there. Your problems all stem back to having money and a lot of us are going through the same crap. Once you get a job that supports your living expenses a lot of your frustration will vanish. You got caught in a bad economy. Stay away from medical professionals... they can't help you and you don't want to be diagnosed with some shit that will keep you from going places in life because its on your medical record.

Your not being allowed to die as god has decided it's not your time. You are obviously needed by god in our world right now. Hang in thier my friend and happy Christmas to you. I hope things are better for you very soon. NEVER GIVE UP !

This is good advice...follow it.

Thank you

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Sometimes the truth hurts and sometime tough love is the only answer. Get off it and quit blaming everything and everyone including God for what your life situation is. I could have every reason to do the same considering what my life situation is, but the fact of the matter is, I am here. I won the great sperm race 48 years ago and that shows me that inside me I made the choice to win and I am here for a reason.

I have gone down the spiritual path and there is a lot of truth to one thing in particular that Jesus said and it is this:Jesus said, "Those who seek should not stop seeking until they find. When they find, they will be disturbed. When they are disturbed, they will marvel, and will rule over all."

This is in the gospel of Thomas which I feel was deliberately left out of the bible because it warns us of a bridge we have to cross on our path that isn't always easy for those that make the choice to advance. You are at the point of being disturbed and somehow whether you realize it or not you have made the choice and are still making the choice to experience all of the things that you are experiencing.

Sometimes hard lessons are thrown in the path of those that are destined to become leaders. It is up to you to make the choice to use these lessons constructively or give up. Just know that. When I was in your state of being disturbed, I can assure you that the thought of ending it all was almost pleasant, but I couldn't help myself figure out what else I learn from the extremely unpleasant circumstances in my life. It can get better.

I am not going to coddle you like some on here and give you mamby pamby bullshit. Life can be cruel and hard, but life can be exhilarating and satisfying. My suggestion would be to go down to a homeless shelter and volunteer a bit of your time and see that there are others in even dyer straits. It might even behoove you to live there for awhile and live off of the charity of other for awhile and understand that there are many out there that have unconditional love and care for their fellow man. I don't even know you and trust me, my heart goes out to you and I can say with the utmost sincerity, I hope you allow yourself to see what it is you are experiencing and know that the answers you seek are right in front of you and within you. No one on here can help other than to show you ways to help help yourself.

Hang in there brother or sister, you have many empathetic brethren in spirit.

Wow i forgot!

And dude this girl what you want so much, if you marry with she in a brief future she will turn in a pain in the ass . Belive me this is a regular human comedy, happens with everyone.
Aways have one second bitch !!!

Don't blame yourself and don't listen a douche's

you had me til 'day 4'

if you're in that much trouble there are places to go. Ever hear of intentional communities? how about Walden Two by B.F. Skinner? Skinner had an idea that humans could be perfected by behavioral training--this was basically thrown out-- but his core ideas of living in harmony with others and nature that are represented in his book still echo today in places like twin oaks community. look it up. you dont need any status to live there, you just need to be willing to work and be an effective member of the society.

Good luck brother, you're on all of our minds now so hopefully some loving warmth will come your way

God Bless

I mean this in all seriousness and am only offering this disclaimer for the reason that the solution is rather blunt... You have first world problems. It may sound like a joke but the first thing you need to do is acknowledge how silly some of what you're saying really is.

I'm guessing from everything you mentioned about the past (such as your childhood) that you find yourself constantly looking for reasons as to why you're unhappy. Instead of saying "I had a shitty childhood but I survived it", you prefer to see yourself as still a victim of circumstances over it. It gives you an excuse as to why you hate your life instead of reason to see yourself as deserving of more so you can go out and get it.

The hard truth is that life is simply hard but appreciation is only acquired through challenge.

Getting a little more technical about it, the brain has this process called neuroplasticity. In a nutshell, the way you think makes you continue to think that way. Everything from learning motor skills like controlling your fingers to developing addictions like smoking is the result of experience and repetition. Your brain makes you be you based on what you make yourself be.

What this all means is that a pessimistic person will continue being pessimistic until they choose to force a more optimistic outlook into their routine. Trying to avoid seeing yourself as the victim requires you to "rewire" your brain and is as difficult as changing a chemical addiction like nicotine.

A pessimistic person will see negative incidents as part of a sequence and when something good happens, it's treated as an isolated event and they're apprehensive about when the "bad luck" will come back because they've just been rewarded.

A better life is out there but only if you really want it. Having said all that, forget everything that happened in the past. It's behind you and what's done is done. Stop using it as justification for overreacting to trivial things.

Yes, losing a job sucks.
Yes, girls break hearts.
Yes, we are born into families and have no choice in the matter.
And yes, shit happens.

Again, being blunt here, so what? You may not want to hear it but the reality is that a better life is entirely optional... you have to honestly decide if you want a better life or if you'd rather complain about not having one because of things that happened in the past.