How do you gain closure when someone you are in love with is engaged? I haven't been able to move on.

Please...anyone?

You've posted this before and if I remember right many people told you to talk to him.

And it's almost too late now to talk to him. I would talk to him soon just because of the slight chance he chose the other girl because you showed no interest.

In a perfect, fairy tale world he would tell you that it is you he wants and breaks his engagement.

But more than likely he just has a cheating heart and would only use you but still stay engaged.

You'll only know for sure by talking to him and telling him how you felt/feel. If after that he tells you he has "broken" it off with her get confirmation from other friends before acting on it. And, likewise, if he says he wants to be with the other girl then walk away totally. If still hard for you at work then maybe a new job or transfer? If you didn't have to see him at work you might have been well along on your healing/recovery from it. As it is you have co-workers stirring things up.

He has the answer and you'll only know the answer by talking to him & being honest. Just be careful you don't become a player in a "cheater's game". You wouldn't want it done to you so don't do it to someone else.

So it's most likely he's a player by his actions? I don't want to become a joke at work, too. I don't understand why he keeps looking at me. My one friend thinks he's just seeing if I'm interested in him for sex, that's it. Like, I am clueless in this. So a guy constantly looking is looking for just a side thing when he's engaged? He did keep ignoring me after I ignored him. I prayed to God for closure, then the guy started up again. So I don't know what to think.

she's controlling, but you are obsesive- there are 7 billion people on this planet, there just has to be someone else for you out there- go look.

OP: you really need to become comfortable with yourself. I know you're not because you're confused and "waiting for something to happen".

Never mind this bloke, get to know yourself and build your self confidence first. Once you've done that, you'll probably have more choices about who you date. Nobody is attracted to weakness and uncertainty.

Good luck and merry Christmas!

Sorry OP,sometimes there is never closure. I am still pinning for the woman who left me for someone else 23 years ago. You do the best you can.

my story too..it was just 21 years ago :(

You have to talk to him OP, I'm just like these two guys, mine was 7 years ago.

Have you guys tried to connect this person? So most people have this? Is it due to regret, or sometimes you can't get closure, even though you try?

I never really showed the guy I liked him. He showed me shy signs he was interested, but he had a girlfriend. After I found out he had a girlfriend, I cut him out. I stopped talking to him. , I quit looking at him. Then two months after that, he became engaged.

He has tried to talk to me again, but I can't seem to open up. I am clueless on how to react.

He was so kind to me, but I feel sick.

I feel like this guy in this video...like Enough already...I need to move on....but he laid out his cards at least. Will he gain closure from this?



Two co workers think he's unhappy, and always seemed happier when talking to me. He works with the fiancee. She seems controlling, they think. But of course, we don't know. But no one I know gets engaged to someone they don't love.

I can't seem to move on. I talk to other guys, but none of them I like.

Will talking to him help me move on? I just wanted to ask what his intentions were. Everyone could tell he liked me. Even a lady who barely knew English told me she could tell.

Most will say, well, he didn't dump the fiancee, so it's pretty clear who he loves. Is it that black and white? Yes? I have no idea.

How do I gain closure? I have pursued art, volunteered, helped friends out, but I always want to see him. I always wish I would run into him.



Never thought this scene would apply to me...but the ending where he sees the ring...and the whole world turns to sadness...I get it.

I never really showed the guy I liked him. He showed me shy signs he was interested, but he had a girlfriend. After I found out he had a girlfriend, I cut him out. I stopped talking to him. , I quit looking at him. Then two months after that, he became engaged.

He has tried to talk to me again, but I can't seem to open up. I am clueless on how to react.

He was so kind to me, but I feel sick.

I feel like this guy in this video...like Enough already...I need to move on....but he laid out his cards at least. Will he gain closure from this?

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Two co workers think he's unhappy, and always seemed happier when talking to me. He works with the fiancee. She seems controlling, they think. But of course, we don't know. But no one I know gets engaged to someone they don't love.

I can't seem to move on. I talk to other guys, but none of them I like.

Will talking to him help me move on? I just wanted to ask what his intentions were. Everyone could tell he liked me. Even a lady who barely knew English told me she could tell.

Most will say, well, he didn't dump the fiancee, so it's pretty clear who he loves. Is it that black and white? Yes? I have no idea.

How do I gain closure? I have pursued art, volunteered, helped friends out, but I always want to see him. I always wish I would run into him.

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Never thought this scene would apply to me...but the ending where he sees the ring...and the whole world turns to sadness...I get it.

This reads almost, if not exactly like a post from a few years ago.

5 stars for the pain

His behavior is a red flag. When you are engaged, you do not go around flirting and being interested with other people. No integrity, why would you even consider him? He is weak and doesn't know what he wants, a fine protector and father he would be - NOT!

The initial feelings of attraction are nature's little joke to get you hooked up with a member of the opposite sex so you will perpetuate the species, but God help you if you let yourself fall in love with a man of weak character...argghhh. Three months of kissing and thirty years of regret.

THINK!!! Marry a man of good character!! This guy is WEAK.