What to do when your BF says "go make me a sandwich" ? | |
| Dapurps hakuna matata User ID: 30803443 12/24/2012 07:25 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Concur, He is very self-absorbed and the relationship will only worsen. The object, the sandwich, is meaningless. The point was he dose not care what she thinks, feels, nor has to contribute. Very disrespectful and saddening. Why are humans so mean to each-other? Can we evolve as-opposed to devolve now? Cool story bud. You seem to know a lot about someone who simply said "go make a sandwich. Enjoy being forever alone. Last Edited by Dapurps on 12/24/2012 07:27 PM "What you perceive to be becomes your reality." ![]() dapurps |
| Se7en Divine Master of the Unknown User ID: 25703371 12/24/2012 07:26 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Instead of being all sneaky about it and trying to get advice from people on the internet, why don't you TALK to him? He can't read your mind, tell him how you feel, and make sure he's paying attention. We tend to drift away when we feel as if we're approached in a negative tone, at least I've caught myself doing the same thing. Just be straight with him. Damn. A machine shouldn't speak for man, so shut the fuck up you mindless drone. - Immortal Technique |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 27209272 12/24/2012 07:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Generally how it works around the country is... if he's rich, you go make him a sandwich cause all you care bout is how much money he's got anyway. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28017433 I'm not like that I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 27209272 12/24/2012 07:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He must be Puerto Rican to be such an asshole like that. Tell him to go back to his motherland in Mexico. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22996012 hahahahahaha that would be funny but he is not puerto rican I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
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| Manu-Koelbren User ID: 1312616 12/24/2012 07:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Your gates will be open continually; They will not be closed day or night, So that men may bring to you the wealth of the nations, With their kings led in procession. For the nation and the kingdom which will not serve you will perish, And the nations will be utterly ruined." |
| Mwalk Geosynchronous orbit User ID: 1067150 12/24/2012 07:31 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos There shouldn't be a next time, but you don't seem like the type to toss him out. So these types of control issues will only increase in frequency, he is in essence gaining control over you through small exchanges for dominance, like i said, there shouldn't be a next time. Eu não posso viver Eu não posso respirar, a menos que você faça isso comigo. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 30767776 12/24/2012 07:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Instead of being all sneaky about it and trying to get advice from people on the internet, why don't you TALK to him? He can't read your mind, tell him how you feel, and make sure he's paying attention. We tend to drift away when we feel as if we're approached in a negative tone, at least I've caught myself doing the same thing. Quoting: Se7en Just be straight with him. Damn. exactly women are sneaky dumb creatures, their only purpose is being fucked by men, nothing else |
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| SeoKungFu User ID: 1488460 12/24/2012 07:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos Ask about the preferred ingredients, whether to toast the bread or not, etc, and go make it. :: [link to ComeToPrague.com] :: |
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| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos Lots of funny replies, but seriously, I'd address the immediate issue which was the devaluing of what you were trying to say to him. Maybe reply with something like, "I thought what I was saying was important. It seems like you don't. That hurts me deeply." Then be silent and see what he says next. Yes, I think that would be a good idea.... i understand that he was probably bored/annoyed because I was talking about clothes and beauty products ... but he should have said that he was bored..... I will tell him that next time ! I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Was it a command? Or did he ask nicely? That would make all the difference in the world. Quoting: Hardamber 28251240 You can't let anyone walk all over you. Don't drop your standards for anyone. It was something in between... he was trolling me. I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
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| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why is this even a question? You go make him his sammich....and some pie while you're at it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30108220 I only do that when i feel like doing that. I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You say: I feel disrespected when you interrupt me, especially when I am sharing somerhing imortant to me. I feel doubly disrespected when you interrupt me by comnanding me to do somerhing. I am your partner not your servant. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30800063 yes! I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
| Life and Love Live life fully! User ID: 26735250 12/24/2012 07:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos Lots of funny replies, but seriously, I'd address the immediate issue which was the devaluing of what you were trying to say to him. Maybe reply with something like, "I thought what I was saying was important. It seems like you don't. That hurts me deeply." Then be silent and see what he says next. Yes, I think that would be a good idea.... i understand that he was probably bored/annoyed because I was talking about clothes and beauty products ... but he should have said that he was bored..... I will tell him that next time ! Guys can be clueless that they're even doing this, so be firm but be gentle at the same time. (I say this after nearly 40 years of happily married life.) The test of character is how you're willing to treat someone when you are absolutely certain that you are right. |
| Dapurps hakuna matata User ID: 30803443 12/24/2012 07:44 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why is this even a question? You go make him his sammich....and some pie while you're at it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30108220 I only do that when i feel like doing that. Doesn't sound like a good relationship. A healthy relationship requires sacrifices on both ends. "What you perceive to be becomes your reality." ![]() dapurps |
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| biscuits and gravy User ID: 1072087 12/24/2012 07:46 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos wash your hands and make the MAN HIS SANDWICH My Old Handles Member ID: 69905 Handle: ***DRAGOON*** & Member ID: 47743 Handle: El Samyaza (The Ban Hammer Strikes Hard...lol) |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos A really good guy NEEDS a woman for food, sex, and nurturing. Generally it's much better to do the feminine thing and provide food, sex, and cleanliness, while he works his ass off keeping you in house and home. This pattern works for a lifetime. The others don't. NEVER withhold sex over an argument, or it will get completely out of hand. I understand.... but we are not married and we do not live in the same house lol and if we get married I will have a job too .... I don't want to be a housewife ... at least not for now.... i want to be a scientist. I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
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| Life and Love Live life fully! User ID: 26735250 12/24/2012 07:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos A really good guy NEEDS a woman for food, sex, and nurturing. Generally it's much better to do the feminine thing and provide food, sex, and cleanliness, while he works his ass off keeping you in house and home. This pattern works for a lifetime. The others don't. NEVER withhold sex over an argument, or it will get completely out of hand. I understand.... but we are not married and we do not live in the same house lol and if we get married I will have a job too .... I don't want to be a housewife ... at least not for now.... i want to be a scientist. I wish you all the best with this dream! I have had a wonderful and satisfying career as engineer/scientist. Go for it!! The test of character is how you're willing to treat someone when you are absolutely certain that you are right. |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Instead of being all sneaky about it and trying to get advice from people on the internet, why don't you TALK to him? He can't read your mind, tell him how you feel, and make sure he's paying attention. We tend to drift away when we feel as if we're approached in a negative tone, at least I've caught myself doing the same thing. Quoting: Se7en Just be straight with him. Damn. He knows ... but i'm sure that he was just trying to annoy me. I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
| samanthasunflower User ID: 29507233 12/24/2012 07:50 PM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sounds like you need to put your foot down now. You are are supposed to be his girlfriend, not his slave. If you allow him to boss you around now, then there is no hope for you too in the future. Unless of course you like being treated like a slave. In that case, you lose the right to ever complain about it. If you weren't busy and he asked nicely, then go ahead and make the sandwich. He of course should be changing the oil in your car and doing other manly things to hold up his end of the bargain. Either he respects you or he doesn't. Sounds like he doesn't. |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I didn't make a sandwich .... but I would have made a simple one... ham and cheese ... without butter... water.... and maybe some baked french fries.... I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |
| Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 13212703 12/24/2012 07:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was talking to my boyfriend about something very important and all of a sudden he interrupted me and said "go make me a sandwich" ... I was so annoyed by that! I tried to keep a serious face but like I said before I cannot keep a straight face.... umm ... so I just ignored him for the rest of the day and he had to sleep alone. ... umm what should I do the next time? Quoting: Barbie Chaos There shouldn't be a next time, but you don't seem like the type to toss him out. So these types of control issues will only increase in frequency, he is in essence gaining control over you through small exchanges for dominance, like i said, there shouldn't be a next time. I'm sure there will not be a next time ...at least not a real one ... i bet he will do it just to annoy me .... but i won't get annoy because I am the best "annoyer". I am just a lost misunderstood person... [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] |