What to do when your BF says "go make me a sandwich" ? | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 6476436 United States 12/24/2012 11:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Good, let us know how it goes! Oh, and because this is a test, feel free to be just as rude to him as he was to you! Remember though, this is an opportunity for a discussion regarding your relationship and NOT tit for tat action! I think you'll be able to gauge where the relationship is headed after that. What if he makes the sammich? This sammich test has been done by myself, and the misses, on more than one occasion. We both passed, because basically it amounts to a reality check, to remember it isn't all about her, or me. You answered your own question and as you would appreciate, this is actually a mature way of dealing with the issue as it sets the stage for dialogue. Ugh. More talking. Meanwhile no one has a sammich. Thank Christ the wife and I don't work this way. |
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Brian Moser User ID: 27317240 United States 12/24/2012 11:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | See, men and women think differently (no shit, right?). For example, when you're really emotional about something, we know we can't make jokes about how (more often than not) you're simply overreacting. So, if a guy asks you for a sandwich, it means "I don't ask much... just make me a damn sammich and get naked". You can ignore him but if you really want to pick a fight with a guy over that, while it may seem trivial, it will start some shit. You may have to just accept that you saying "no" to the sandwich would be like us saying "no" to you wanting an hour (or more...) to get ready when we go out. |
Dapurps User ID: 30803443 Canada 12/24/2012 11:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Unless you look like this you better fix him one bourbon one scotch and one beer! :christmaspresent: Last Edited by Dapurps on 12/25/2012 12:03 AM "What you perceive to be becomes your reality." :ftwpanda: dapurps |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 30785928 United States 12/25/2012 02:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If I had to sit through your stupid ass boring shopping beauty product ramble...I would have jumped up and said ... Hey lets go make a sammich...whereas you probably would have said Ok... And then I would have said, you get started and I will find something nice on the TV...Oh and extra mustard and tomato... Again you probably would have said...Ok So I would have run into the living room and put on the game... Life "is" good... |
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Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 6402340 Puerto Rico 12/25/2012 09:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If girlfriends\wives knew how much we don't say, they would realize the proverbial sandwich request is, at most, just mild amusement. We know it annoys you just enough but we don't want to actually make you mad. That's a dangerous situation that usually results in the coldest of shoulders and rarely ends with makeup\angry sex. Quoting: Brian Moser See, men and women think differently (no shit, right?). For example, when you're really emotional about something, we know we can't make jokes about how (more often than not) you're simply overreacting. So, if a guy asks you for a sandwich, it means "I don't ask much... just make me a damn sammich and get naked". You can ignore him but if you really want to pick a fight with a guy over that, while it may seem trivial, it will start some shit. You may have to just accept that you saying "no" to the sandwich would be like us saying "no" to you wanting an hour (or more...) to get ready when we go out. It's not the same ... guys can make sandwiches themselves .... they don't need a girl to do it. ... However you cannot and must not rush a girl when she is getting ready... some of the things we do need to be done slowly and carefully. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 20566260 United States 12/25/2012 10:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Did it bother you he didnt ask, or did it bother you to do something for him, or did it bother you he wasnt listening to you? I would have made it, then kissed him on the forehead, and said, next time, to insure there is one, just say please first. |
Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 6402340 Puerto Rico 12/25/2012 10:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If I had to sit through your stupid ass boring shopping beauty product ramble...I would have jumped up and said ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30785928 Hey lets go make a sammich...whereas you probably would have said Ok... And then I would have said, you get started and I will find something nice on the TV...Oh and extra mustard and tomato... Again you probably would have said...Ok So I would have run into the living room and put on the game... Life "is" good... Yes I would have done it... but if I found him in the living room watching a game when he said that he was going to find SOMETHING NICE I would get very annoyed... so i would demand him to change the channel. |
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Barbie Chaos (OP) User ID: 6402340 Puerto Rico 12/25/2012 10:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Did it bother you he didnt ask, or did it bother you to do something for him, or did it bother you he wasnt listening to you? Quoting: Jervis and V-Honey I would have made it, then kissed him on the forehead, and said, next time, to insure there is one, just say please first. Well, it bothered me because he wasn't listening and he interrupted me in a rude way. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 20566260 United States 12/25/2012 10:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Did it bother you he didnt ask, or did it bother you to do something for him, or did it bother you he wasnt listening to you? Quoting: Jervis and V-Honey I would have made it, then kissed him on the forehead, and said, next time, to insure there is one, just say please first. Well, it bothered me because he wasn't listening and he interrupted me in a rude way. He probably didnt even realize he did it at the time. I would have just gotten it, then later when you had his attention bring it up in a light way...he would have probably apologized. |
Brian Moser User ID: 27317240 United States 12/26/2012 04:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If girlfriends\wives knew how much we don't say, they would realize the proverbial sandwich request is, at most, just mild amusement. We know it annoys you just enough but we don't want to actually make you mad. That's a dangerous situation that usually results in the coldest of shoulders and rarely ends with makeup\angry sex. Quoting: Brian Moser See, men and women think differently (no shit, right?). For example, when you're really emotional about something, we know we can't make jokes about how (more often than not) you're simply overreacting. So, if a guy asks you for a sandwich, it means "I don't ask much... just make me a damn sammich and get naked". You can ignore him but if you really want to pick a fight with a guy over that, while it may seem trivial, it will start some shit. You may have to just accept that you saying "no" to the sandwich would be like us saying "no" to you wanting an hour (or more...) to get ready when we go out. It's not the same ... guys can make sandwiches themselves .... they don't need a girl to do it. ... However you cannot and must not rush a girl when she is getting ready... some of the things we do need to be done slowly and carefully. lol... but that's my entire point. We know we can't reject you over certain things like taking forever to get ready so we just deal with them quietly to ourselves. At most, we might tease you about it but we still bite our tongues about what we're really thinking. The reciprocal of that is expecting you to make a sandwich without any hassle. It's not about the sandwich. If we're actually hungry, we'll go make our own damn sandwich. All I'm saying is that to us, something like the amount of time it takes to get ready is entirely optional. No matter how you explain it, we're going to think "Gee, can't she just throw on some makeup and find something to wear in 20 minutes? Wait, why does her mouth need to be open like that just to put on eyeliner? Oh, great. Now she can't decide on an outfit. Yes, you look amazing in that... let's go. Why is she changing again???" Just as making a sandwich seems to be entirely optional to you, certain things you Y-chromosome-deficient beings do seem entirely optional to us but we just accept it. Can't you just humor us the way we humor you? |
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