Thinking about leaving my husband, but I'm so afraid of never finding live again...

well, I actually do all those things and some. And he's still not happy. I can't win for losing. I can't see myself doing this for another 30 years with me giving 80% and him 20%. It is depressing. And like the OP, I'm scared of the future too but I just want to be happy.

So have you actually expressed any of this to your husband? Have you stated to him clearly what you need? Have you probed him as to why he is withholding affection?

It's hard to say but I'mm not getting a feeling that a lot of real communication is going on. Are you afraid to get this direct? Does hubby have anger issues?

Fortunatly I do not need to find a wife. Psudo-wifes with attitudes like you express are typcialy on their 4th or 5th husband.

Your old fashioned thinking went out with MaryJuhana ciggaretts and square toed boots with little rings on the sides.

The girls of today (fortunatly) do not follow in your misguided antiquated garaunteed to fail ways (unless they live on the isle of Lesbos, or the San Francisco bay area).

and also, (most modern) people do not say "far out" anymore either.

:-)

Like I said, we have more in common than you think. Did you read that link. You should. There are others like you and me. It's ok.

Women are insane - this is their essential problem - the don't want to be loved - they NEED to be loved. Their whole worthless self esteem is based upon someone else telling them how wonderful they are. Your gender sucks lady - you're never happy because you're chasing an illusion. Go get a fucking hobby and stop crying about your need to feel worshiped.

good call.


some people really believe that stuff though, some of those ideas have persisted through the die-out of the last generation. they believe women are inferior, plain and simple.

You could get a divorce, go out and bang a bunch a guys and in about 5 years you will feel worse than you feel now.

OR

Stay in your marriage and tell your husband exactly how you feel and that you are contemplating divorce because of these feelings.

Most likely he feels the same way and you both will need to put an effort to change the situation.

Sounds to me like he's cheating on you but doesn't have the guts to leave. 90% of them cheat eventually, they do it during the day when supposedly working, given the opportunity. There are some exceptions but not many. Women out number men ten to one so these not so great men have women chasing them because women are so desperate to nest and be in a relationship. There is nothing more lonely than an empty marriage. So glad I don't have to look at the same old same old. Living alone is a wonderful freedom.

It's so odd. Because when a guy get on GLP talking about how he wants to leave his wife or is cheating on her, you get cheers and all kinds of things.

But when a woman is like fed up, you ream her so bad and tell her she's making a big mistake. Why?

Very hypocritical guys.

If she is unhappy and had done all she can, why should she stay??

I don't think humans cannot satisfy other humans desire for love.

When we stop looking for human love and start filling that desire with divine love, all our relationships get better.

user Hawgzilla, first page poster, just gave me negative karma with the wording " Women will never be equal to men, sorry you feminazi" in case anyone was curious

Its true so long as women live in their heads.

user Hawgzilla, first page poster, just gave me negative karma with the wording " Women will never be equal to men, sorry you feminazi" in case anyone was curious

Please those who believe all of us were created equally, let hawgzilla know it. defenders of justice assemble.

Some women think that the guy they married has to keep proving that he loves them and chasing after them like they did when single. For a guy, it's over. You're married and that's it. What is the point in chasing what you've already got? Can't you just accept the fact that you've decided to make a life together and just go with it? A guy shouldn't have to roll over and play fetch just to get some sex.

I know you shouldn't have to, but have you asked?

Many times we don't see what we have until we lose it or are about to lose it. We men are simple creatures and rely on feedback. We are bombarded with feedback from in our jobs when things are going off course. We need to know to be able to fix it.

We are good at subtle. One of the most terrifying questions to me is "do you notice anything new"? Just waterboard me instead.

Don't him minimize your feelings or the seriousness of the situation. Don't threaten to split unless you are ready to walk right then and there.

As important as love is, it gets pushed into the background of life. Keep it in the foreground.

It takes two to make things work but only one to destroy a marriage. But talk. You will never know for sure unless you talk.
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Get real lady, your nothing but a selfish bitch... here looking for some other selfish bitch, loser, divorcee, to help you justify leaving your marriage.

You either do what it takes to keep the marriage together, which means, being honest with your husband and telling him EXACTLY what the problems are AND make sure that you tell him its to the point of you contemplating divorce...

If you haven't told him you are contemplating divorce you haven't been completely honest with him....

Do you read bullshit romance novels all day. If so, your understanding of what love actually is has been terribly skewed.

Saying women have unreasonable expectations and drive men crazy with their unrealistic demands (does this women actually want to feel the same way she did 20 years ago or be treated like she was when they met?) is not the same as saying this bullshit you posted.

LOL, just another, selfish bitch, loser, divorcee.. trying to justify how she destroyed of her own home.

case in point

Have you told him all of this? No offense but you sound very pathetic and you are just havin a midlife crisis. You will never be happy if you divorce a man who never cheated on you, never beat you, doesn't get drunk all the time and works hard for a living. If anyone tells you that you are right to leave they are not your friend and are giving you terrible advice. You took an oath for better or for worse, how much is your word worth if you leave because you don't feel loved. You should ask your husband if HE feels loved and if not you guys need to rediscover each other. Take some time each day to write down questions to ask each other then go over them together with no distractions. You will never be happy if you divorce, and if you think you are sad now you have no idea what is in store for you. WORK
IT
OUT!