Just discovered my 15 is gay?!

The biggest form of flattery is not believing me, so thanks.

It was raunchy including props, multiple partners and other things. I have finally calmed down I am familiar with many things this was new. I grew up in the 90's and we were experimental but weren't grotesque there was still some chivalry and respect. Is this how kids behave these days?

It's how disgusting animals behave, not someone who wants success and not drugs and minimum wage jobs.

I'm gay & I can tell you it wasn't a choice.
Your son will find his way. Love him for who he is.
The park sex needs to be addressed. It's a dangerous place out there. Make sure he's armed with all the facts. Feel free to contact me through email if you have GAY questions.

He must be confused.

Don't yell at your son or kick him to the curb. Just try talking with him.

Hopefully he will come back on the right path.

If he's sneaking out to a park to get fucked in the ass by a drug dealer he's not confused, he's gay.

Op the disrespecting of others and himself is a big deal if you had discovered that he was having a healthy relationship with another boy that was supportive and caring I think you wouldn't have made this post. I think you need to take away his facebook, and iphone and start communicating about proper behaviour in relationships. Its clear he is a social retard that is being sucked in by bad people.

BS thread

Just another example of who cares, and why bring your problems here. life is hard enough and you being the loser that you are post this shit about your dumb ass kid.

Way to go parent. no wonder the kid is gay, look at what his parents are doing...

There is nothing you can do but teach him respect for his body,use protection and love him.I am not into the whole pro gay thing but i dont think there is much for you to do.We are all individuals.

Get off the boat

What boat?

boat band wagon, you choose

Did not know i was on any bandwagon.My advice is simple,i am not pro gay but its you son so love him and teach him to respect himself.

Its clear the parent has issues, posting here about other things and looking for answers is 1 thing but posting here and telling us how screwed up they are because their kid does what ever he wants and they dont know what to do is another..if you wernt ready to be a perant then dont tell us...
let alone tell us what the kid does.

I will admit this is not the best "advice" forum i have also asked for opinions here a few years back about my son and his extreme drug use.Its really not that big of a deal,now lets get back to some good doom.Oh i forgot the GLP effect,there will be no doom :-(

TALK TO HIM....all the time.

You seriously have a problem! A parent is supposed to love their child unconditionally. The problem in this world is not someone gay...the problem is people who think like you.

Kick him im the ass and tell him to get a real job,,

Talk to him, thats what caused all his problems..

Slap the bitch...

LOL

If he is meeting up with a kid (young man his own age) then most likely they feel that the park is the best place to meet.

And don't think they are having sex, they most likely are not having sex, just kissing, holding hands and other 'minor' signs of affection.

Gay youth (teens/20's) of this century are not having sex until about the age of 20, unlike straight kids which are dappling at age 16. The main reason is the fear of AIDS/HIV. The second thing is fear of being caught. After all there is still a lot of anti-gay rhetoric.

I would strongly suggest you become a member of Pflag: [link to community.pflag.org] Find a group of parents who are or have been in your situation and learn from their experiences.

As a few have wisely mentioned, do not confront your kid about their sexuality directly. It is a hot topic button, ironically even when the parents are openly accepting it can back-fire and become a bone of contention. I forget the name for the psychology behind it.

Pflag members will most likely tell you to take round about methods of affirming your love for your child regardless of their sexual orientation while at the same time reminding your kid that you would prefer for him to be a bit older before having his first sexual encounters 'saving' it for someone he really cares for.

Kids have sexually graphic conversations, especially boys. Before the internet we had the school locker room where guys would tally off their imaginary conquests and build self-esteem by having everyone imagine that they were a sex god. The truth back then (and still today) is that most kids actually do refrain from acting on those impulses.

Sadly, in today's world pornographic materials are readily had via many outlets on the net. This means that they get a slightly skewed sense of what sex is all about not fully understanding that pornography is staged and is tailored to meet the needs of a broader audience.

Thus the kids have far much more knowledge of what is possible than what actually happens between two loving individuals.

I assume you had 'The Talk'. and have told him about the many risks that any sex comes with, STD's, and in the case of straight sex, pregnancy.

You might want to remind him that condoms are a good idea and let him know that you would prefer he gets tested and won't quiz him about the tests.

Most cities/towns have public health departments. They test for the whole array of STD's. You might want to get the address and phone number and present him with that. They will usually test underage kids without parents consent since getting an early diagnosis if the bad thing happens is very important for the physical well being.

And you may want to remind him that bad people use the internet to do things to kids.

So he should proceed with caution.

Since this is a local boy, he most likely is sincere in his perceptions of affection/love he has with this guy.

Love doesn't mean he has to have sex, but you may want to seriously consider having a safe place for them to hang out together - an open, tolerant environment where simple touching (hugs, cuddling, no dry humping or sex) is allowed.

And if you are open enough to accept another boy who is gay into your life, I would strongly advise not approaching his parents with the 'I think your son is gay.' line. That can blow up on YOU personally.

VERY BAD AND CONVOLUTED ADVICE!!!!!!!!

buy him lots of condoms

Last Edited by SpiderJones on 12/26/2012 11:22 PM

K if he's 15 I take it you are late 30's to mid 40's. So wtf are you coming on GLP for advice? He's gay there's nothing you can do about it now so embrace it and get ready for the NFL playoffs.

It is how YOUR KID is behaving


but I predict that you are gonna loose him
not be responsible for him

there is a difference

educate yourself and not with some religious propaganda. realize he is who he is and you need to support and encourage his natural growth. do not judge it is the worst thing you can do. condemnation is about you and your needs and has nothing to do with him and his. all you will do is fuck him up and make him resent you. I dont care how much people scream and carry on in disgust , being gay is NOT learned it is something we are born with.

Talk to him about safe sex, sex in general. Let him know that it's something he should hold in high regard and not give out to everyone who wants it. Growing up gay is not easy, support him as you would any child, let him know you love him no matter what, but don't be too obvious about it. lol But most importantly, start doing a lot of safe sex preaching and talking about the importance of forming a relationship before having sex...etc.

the smartest person on this thread

Smell his fingers!