OP, Quoting: Stand!
I can forgive alright but I can never trust again.
Does he demand that you keep hanging around with
the very people who put you at risk time and time
again? I assure you, there are people who will
never do anything but be hurtful and I don't look
forward to spending the rest of my life kicking
myself because I forgave and gave them another
chance to only do worse to me.
Can you forgive but still keep a safe distance?
Jesus did say.."Be as gentle as a dove..but wise as a serpent"
In other words...forgive them...but use wisdom as well.
Is it wise to keep going back to the same attacks and pain over and over KNOWING it will result in the same thing over and over?
I recently had to make this very decision myself.
There are times in life you must walk away..trusting that in closing one door..a new one will open.
Its all a part of dying to self..it kills you to walk away..I know..it hurts like Hell...but new beginnings can only take place after old endings are finally completed.
I was warned by a very wise man ten years ago to stay out of my ex wifes life for a while..to give her time to think things over..but I did not listen..I thought by being nice to her and forgiving her and just being there would change her.
It didnt..she just resented it..and now its really and truly over.
I finally had to swallow the lump..accept what had hapenned..and walk away.