So, my question to the OP is, do I have to put myself in harms way to be forgiving when no good can ever come of it? Quoting: Stand!
Thats where wisdom comes in.
Do you walk into a yard with a vicious dog and keep getting bitten no matter how many times you forgive it for biting you?
You can forgive..and the best way to turn things around is just pray for that person..and when they do hurt you..just let it slide..let it sail on past you.
But do not keep repeating the same behaviour that allowes them to hurt you.
Be strong and take a stance..by NOT always letting yourself be led into that situation. I know this from hard experience.
Its possible to forgive...and its also possible to not allow the situation to re occur as well.
Right now I am estranged from my brother. I know I need to reconcile with him but every text or apology I send him gets greeted with expletives and curses..HE is going through a tough time himself and just lashing out in anger and pain.
So I walked away..and just pray for him. Its all I can do.
But for me to keep bothering him..only makes it worse..for him..and for me.
If you pray for your tormentor..then GOD can change their heart.
He can change any heart..he changed mine.
A few months ago I was a cursing swearing hate filled angry wreck...but someone out there was praying for me.
Go and do likewise.