Great question. I am married to a man that was abandoned by his moher and has a hard connecting with females that truly care for him. He tends to "admire" women that abuse men and use them.

We have had marriage issues over the years and his therapists thinks he has a commitment phobia because of his mom.

You need to separate you relationship with yourself and mother when it comes to finding a mate.

Any help or questions please ask. I understand your situation and will do the best to help you.