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Thank you. This is what I needed to hear. My GS and I have a very special relationship. I could leave for just 10 minutes and when he sees me he gets all excited and says "where you been all my life grandma?". He is the light for me in this very dark world. I would do anything for him. We have spent alot of time together since he was born.
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You are welcome. The hardest thing is staying calm. We want to lash out when attacked. Don't risk it. Striking her, restraining her, even if she breaks property put you in a very bad situation with the law. Call them instead as it happens. Keep a cell phone handy. Take pictures or video as it happens. I bet she stops.

Every call will be documented. Believe me, a judge will see that you showed restraint, while she acted crazy. Officer testimony will be very valuable.

Help your son stay calm too. The natural response is aggression and this would seriously harm any chance of him spending time with his son.

The goal is quality time with the boy, right? The goal is not to jump in and fight his mom.

Do some deep introspection and see if there's a reason that she's being violent. Do you hate her? Do you wish that the relationship could be healed? I bet that you want the latter. Believe me a boy needs his mom, no matter how bad a mom.
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No I don't hate her. She needs help for her anger outbursts. She has told someone she thought she was bi-polar. I let her move in with me with the GS a few months ago to help her get on her feet. She goes to college full time and works. There is something wrong with her yet she can be extremely smart in academics.
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She sounds like she is either a heavy drug user or a time bomb waiting to go off.

You should most definitely follow through with the police. Get a paper trail. For your own sanity, and your GS's mental health, call the cops the minute she starts. Don't let it escalate to the point where you fear for your own health. They should have been called before she had the chance to break the tv.

If you don't get this documented, with the cops, she can say anything she wants, if she ever decides to go after full custody, or she decides to pick up and leave with the child. You want it on record that she is the problem and not you and your family. If she continues, to the point where it is unbearable for your GS, your son might go for full custody and you want enough against her to show that she is unstable at best.

Plus, your son needs to stop arguing with her. That little boy was hiding because of both of them, not just her. Two to tango.

If she starts again, he shouldn't argue but instead call the police and tell them he fears for his life. Tell them she is unstable and violent and you can't handle her anymore.

And haul her ass into small claims court to pay for your jeep. If you feel guilty about taking that money away from your grandson then just take it and buy him something he needs.

You are allowing her to do this by putting up with it. When she realizes your through taking her crap, she'll stop.

Also remember, grandparents rights aren't absolute. You don't want her cutting you off from seeing him, by making you the bad guy.

If she continues to do this when your grandson is being picked up, call the cops and ask them to have a patrolman meet you there when she is handing him off. Tell them she gets violent.

This is not fair to your GS and if she won't stop it then you will have to.

Good luck.
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Does this fucking look by like Dear Abby to you?
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Hey asshole! Some people have no one else to talk to when they are upset and GLP is a good place to get a bit of support or advice. Part of what makes it such a fine site.
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No I don't hate her. She needs help for her anger outbursts. She has told someone she thought she was bi-polar. I let her move in with me with the GS a few months ago to help her get on her feet. She goes to college full time and works. There is something wrong with her yet she can be extremely smart in academics.
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Then she needs to get evaluated to see if indeed that's the issue. Being bipolar is going to be a perpetual issue.

A bipolar person will take great risks because they get high off of the rush, and then they get super depressed as they cycle to the opposite end. Then they're put on medication and it smooths things out, but they don't get the "high" so compliance with meds is very problematic.

Whew, hope she's not bipolar. I bet it's just anger management issues and maturity.

I hope then that the two of you can learn to do some things together, because basically she is your family since always there.

It's admirable that you're willing for her to stay, and highly unusual.
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No I don't hate her. She needs help for her anger outbursts. She has told someone she thought she was bi-polar. I let her move in with me with the GS a few months ago to help her get on her feet. She goes to college full time and works. There is something wrong with her yet she can be extremely smart in academics.
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Then she needs to get evaluated to see if indeed that's the issue. Being bipolar is going to be a perpetual issue.

A bipolar person will take great risks because they get high off of the rush, and then they get super depressed as they cycle to the opposite end. Then they're put on medication and it smooths things out, but they don't get the "high" so compliance with meds is very problematic.

Whew, hope she's not bipolar. I bet it's just anger management issues and maturity.

I hope then that the two of you can learn to do some things together, because basically she is your family since always there.

It's admirable that you're willing for her to stay, and highly unusual.
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Thank you but after this she has to leave. She has totally crossed all boundaries tonight. Sad thing though is kicking her out is kicking by GS out too. I want her to get help so my GS can grow up with a better mom. I think the only way she will get help though is if there are some consequences. What those are I don't know yet and why I was asking for advice. Thanks. I know she is on probation so if she gets in trouble for this she may go to jail and maybe thats what she needs to wake her up that she can't go around getting mad and doing things like this.
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Call the cops ya dumb bitch don't let that little whore run over your fucking family. Tell them what she did and show them your house and she will lose custody and have a restraining order put on her stupid ass.

Sorry about the dumb bitch deal I figured you need a swift kick in the taint on this one.
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tell them she has an anger issue and your afraid she will hurt your grandchild or your son, sounds like shes on drugs
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Call the cops ya dumb bitch don't let that little whore run over your fucking family. Tell them what she did and show them your house and she will lose custody and have a restraining order put on her stupid ass.

Sorry about the dumb bitch deal I figured you need a swift kick in the taint on this one.
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tell them she has an anger issue and your afraid she will hurt your grandchild or your son, sounds like shes on drugs
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Someone close to all of us think she might be doing Coke.
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Thank you. This is what I needed to hear. My GS and I have a very special relationship. I could leave for just 10 minutes and when he sees me he gets all excited and says "where you been all my life grandma?". He is the light for me in this very dark world. I would do anything for him. We have spent alot of time together since he was born.
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You are welcome. The hardest thing is staying calm. We want to lash out when attacked. Don't risk it. Striking her, restraining her, even if she breaks property put you in a very bad situation with the law. Call them instead as it happens. Keep a cell phone handy. Take pictures or video as it happens. I bet she stops.

Every call will be documented. Believe me, a judge will see that you showed restraint, while she acted crazy. Officer testimony will be very valuable.

Help your son stay calm too. The natural response is aggression and this would seriously harm any chance of him spending time with his son.

The goal is quality time with the boy, right? The goal is not to jump in and fight his mom.

Do some deep introspection and see if there's a reason that she's being violent. Do you hate her? Do you wish that the relationship could be healed? I bet that you want the latter. Believe me a boy needs his mom, no matter how bad a mom.
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No I don't hate her. She needs help for her anger outbursts. She has told someone she thought she was bi-polar. I let her move in with me with the GS a few months ago to help her get on her feet. She goes to college full time and works. There is something wrong with her yet she can be extremely smart in academics.
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So she is living in your home?

You need to retain an attorney -- in your state who is licensed to practice in your county -- who can best advise you on getting a VPO (victim protection order) and getting her evicted out of your home immediately.

This is nothing to undertake half-heartedly, or with any goal other than securing your physical safety and the safety of your grandson first and foremost.

Set aside any sense of compassion your may have for this sick and dangerous person. She needs help that you are not qualified to provide.

You can google 'family law attorney xxx county xxx state' to find one a lawyer to help you and/or call a local women's shelter first thing in the morning to start getting the advice you need.

Swift and relentless legal action to get her physically removed from your premises is absolutely and immediately necessary for you, your son, and grandson.

You may inquire with your attorney about securing legal custody of your grandson -- that looks like a reasonable option.
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Bumping this thread in hopes that the OP will update us.
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Bumping this thread in hopes that the OP will update us.
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Thank you for checking in and caring about me. So I called a close friend at church and slso talked to my son and husband. What I have decided to do it file an eviction notice and restraining order and in the order ask for her to get anger management classes. I called the police dept and they said no charges were filed and an incident report is on record. My husband thinks I should press charges but I am reluctant to do that because my main goal is not for her to go to jail but to get help. I am torn on the pressing charges thing. So I have to go back at 1 to have the self help law group help me file. They close right as I got there for lunch today.
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smack that hoe aint nutting like a bit of ghetto law
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He's been with her for more than a few years now. Something tells me this isn't just one persons fault. For her to be able to get away with behaving that way for this long tells me it's a violent relationship that takes at least 2 people. Either her and your son or her and you or all 3 of you.

Good luck. I hope the children get out of there but I'm thinking there's much more to this story than "she is violent".
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Call the cops ya dumb bitch don't let that little whore run over your fucking family. Tell them what she did and show them your house and she will lose custody and have a restraining order put on her stupid ass.

Sorry about the dumb bitch deal I figured you need a swift kick in the taint on this one.
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tell them she has an anger issue and your afraid she will hurt your grandchild or your son, sounds like shes on drugs
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Someone close to all of us think she might be doing Coke.
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If she's doing drugs you must confront her and let her know it's affecting her personality and will eventually lead to her children being taken away and to stop while she still can. Find new friends or a hobby. Hopefully, she can quit and isn't an addict yet.
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I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.

What to do? What to do?
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He's been with her for more than a few years now. Something tells me this isn't just one persons fault. For her to be able to get away with behaving that way for this long tells me it's a violent relationship that takes at least 2 people. Either her and your son or her and you or all 3 of you.

Good luck. I hope the children get out of there but I'm thinking there's much more to this story than "she is violent".
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There is more to it. This type of thing has happened before. Her and my son have had an on/off relationship for many years. He is no angel either - they both have issues between themselves. Very unhealthy relationship. I have never hit them or been violent - that is not me. It would have been years ago but not now. I have done what I have done to try and keep my GS safe but apparently he is not safe here either. No this is not the first time.
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He's been with her for more than a few years now. Something tells me this isn't just one persons fault. For her to be able to get away with behaving that way for this long tells me it's a violent relationship that takes at least 2 people. Either her and your son or her and you or all 3 of you.

Good luck. I hope the children get out of there but I'm thinking there's much more to this story than "she is violent".
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There is more to it. This type of thing has happened before. Her and my son have had an on/off relationship for many years. He is no angel either - they both have issues between themselves. Very unhealthy relationship. I have never hit them or been violent - that is not me. It would have been years ago but not now. I have done what I have done to try and keep my GS safe but apparently he is not safe here either. No this is not the first time.
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Throw any drugs out. Make them both go to some kind of drug meetings or AA if one of them is hitting the bottle too much. It's all fun and games until someone gets hurt, they have children they need to stop, make them understand this. Most of the time I hear of violence it IS drug related, sometimes not but I bet that's what's going on unless there is some kind of stupid dance, then they need to find and purposely practice an alternate behavior for when they are upset, it will eventually become habit but first they must know they have to do something different in the heat of the moment that is not violent.
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I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.

What to do? What to do?
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Why should YOU have to "Anything".

He's a man, isn't he.

Why does he not defend your honour? (like a man)

An old Jew once told me about his wife "If it's time to raise your voice--it's time to raise your hand" Every once in a while she would show up with a black eye that even makeup wouldn't hide.

Now that was a while back, before the NWO decided to get involved in everyones family life.

But you know what....she always seemed real chipper to me.
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DAMN!:gingerkid:
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arrrrrgh!

wtf is THAT?

ahhh
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Bumping this thread in hopes that the OP will update us.
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Thank you for checking in and caring about me. So I called a close friend at church and slso talked to my son and husband. What I have decided to do it file an eviction notice and restraining order and in the order ask for her to get anger management classes. I called the police dept and they said no charges were filed and an incident report is on record. My husband thinks I should press charges but I am reluctant to do that because my main goal is not for her to go to jail but to get help. I am torn on the pressing charges thing. So I have to go back at 1 to have the self help law group help me file. They close right as I got there for lunch today.
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The eviction notice and restraining order are definitely steps in the right direction.

Only you can decide whether it is longterm wise and prudent for you to decline to press charges.

I tend to think that she will percieve it as weakness on your part, and continue to abuse those around her.

An attorney could better advise you on how various courses of action would play out.

The matter of serving the eviction notice and VPO may be a dangerous time for you, and you would be wise to hire an armed off duty law enforcement officer or professional process server to accomplish it.

Again, a local attorney could better advise you.

The thing with "free" legal help is that while some resources may be wonderful and competent, there is a great likelihood that you may get exactly what you pay for.

Your future safety -- in peril of an unstable and violent woman -- is not something to undertake some bargain basement way.

Please talk with your husband about getting professional legal advice, dealing firmly and definitely with this situation, and retaining the services that you need to get this firmly concluded.
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I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.

What to do? What to do?
 Quoting: Upset Grandma 844118

First, you need to take care of your health, please. Getting all riled up and having a heart issue is not going to help your grandson.

Visitations at your grandson's home are fraught with problems. Why do it? Take him somewhere. If it's volatile, then again, it makes no sense, and probably he'll remember all of you arguing and that's awful to do in front of a child.

The child comes first, not your feelings, your son's, or the mom's.

I know it's difficult. I've been in some very hostile situations before. Stay calm. This is easier when creating a loving environment during the visitation.

Custody battles are very rough. It's a lot of finger pointing. I won't begin to give you advice. It didn't happen overnight. There must be terrible history.

Document everything. It's an ugly fact of any domestic situation, and unfortunantly getting the police involved is part of that process as well as child services.

What does your pastor and husband say? Remember, this is your son's issue, not yours. Imagine you are the mom and your mother-in-law was in the middle. It would be awful, right?

Not judging. I hope you work things out, get to see your grandson, and take care of your health. Sounds like he needs his grandma, yes?

Saying prayers for you for discernment.

If you can get court-ordered visitation for YOU and your grandson seperately, then you can have quality time alone, just you and him in peace.


Don't make snap decisions. Be the better person.
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Best advice ^


Sorry this happened to u.
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Thank you for checking in and caring about me. So I called a close friend at church and slso talked to my son and husband. What I have decided to do it file an eviction notice and restraining order and in the order ask for her to get anger management classes. I called the police dept and they said no charges were filed and an incident report is on record. My husband thinks I should press charges but I am reluctant to do that because my main goal is not for her to go to jail but to get help. I am torn on the pressing charges thing. So I have to go back at 1 to have the self help law group help me file. They close right as I got there for lunch today.
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The eviction notice and restraining order are definitely steps in the right direction.

Only you can decide whether it is longterm wise and prudent for you to decline to press charges.

I tend to think that she will percieve it as weakness on your part, and continue to abuse those around her.

An attorney could better advise you on how various courses of action would play out.

The matter of serving the eviction notice and VPO may be a dangerous time for you, and you would be wise to hire an armed off duty law enforcement officer or professional process server to accomplish it.

Again, a local attorney could better advise you.

The thing with "free" legal help is that while some resources may be wonderful and competent, there is a great likelihood that you may get exactly what you pay for.

Your future safety -- in peril of an unstable and violent woman -- is not something to undertake some bargain basement way.

Please talk with your husband about getting professional legal advice, dealing firmly and definitely with this situation, and retaining the services that you need to get this firmly concluded.
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I don't have money to hire and attorney. I am only working part-time and my husband got laid off a few months ago.
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I don't have money to hire and attorney. I am only working part-time and my husband got laid off a few months ago.
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Okay, then use the free legal group you are accessing now.

The local Bar Association might be able to direct you to anyone who might advise you pro bono('for the good' , meaning free legal consel)

Or a local women's shelter might refer you to other resources.

Please make sure that when you get the eviction and restraining papers in order and served to her that you keep plenty of copies of them in several places so that both you and your husband have ready access to them at all times. Such as if she assaults you somewhere other than home, and you call the police --you've got the documents right there -- in your car, and in your purse, and in your pocket!!! -- so it's not a 'she said/ she said' thing.

Also please take time to double check that all of your homeowners and automobile insurance is paid up and in good order.

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Here's a couple more thoughts:

If there are illegal drugs in your home, you are primarily responsible since it is your dwelling. This is child endangerment.

Proceed carefully as it could backfire upon you. You don't want the state taking the child. That helps no one including your grandson.

Do you feel abused? Only you can decide that. Once you play that card, a whole string of events out of your control happen as the police get involved, child services gets involved, a judge. It's a mess.

Be safe. Make sure the situation is as safe as you can make it for yourself and your grandson. The state is a blunt instrument that is like using a sledge hammer to put a needle in some cloth. It ruins the fabric. Go slow.

You are not powerless. You are the one with the home. Don't be a doormat.

Don't be held hostage by the love you hold over your grandson either. Do what is best for him.
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Your son needs to teach her how to swallow, a girlfriend that spits is not worth having...
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Dust your hands. Forget it all. Not worth it. Maybe sooner or later you will recieve the grandson. Dust your hands sir. Not worth the pain. Good comes to those who wait. Fighting these kind of battles no ones wins. The Grandson is strong in youth. He will be fine. Stay out of it. Just my 2 cents.

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Re: My sons girlfriend spit in my face tonight
umm I didnt really read these very deeply but the key is, call the ciops, spiting on someone is an assult. If she does it again, call the cops again. thats it. btw what mobile park do you live in lol just kidding
I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.

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Re: My sons girlfriend spit in my face tonight
or you could get on Jerry Springer and try to get it worked out that way ;)
umm I didnt really read these very deeply but the key is, call the ciops, spiting on someone is an assult. If she does it again, call the cops again. thats it. btw what mobile park do you live in lol just kidding
I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.

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I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.

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Restraining order and report her to DHS.
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Yep...restraining order, easily done at your local police department.

We had to take one out on my oldest sister after she dog-cursed out our 82 year old stroke victim (can't speak well)widowed Dad.

I am my dad's caregiver and we haven't seen or spoken to her since 2009. Life is sooo peaceful now!

If you somehow loose the ability to visit your gs, get over it and go apply to foster in young kids that need shelter. You can pretty much pick the age group.
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The mother sure sounds like a borderliner to me.. good luck with that!
R.I.P. for the real Wubbo Ockels. He was a true icon of my country, and a great front-fighter for sustainable energie/technology and humanism.

"Yes, we have hurdles, we have distractions, we have disasters, personally and world-wide, and we do have to work it all out ourselves. BUT, there is a most amazing experience awaiting us on the other end of the finish-line.
The idea being, once we can handle it all down here, then we can live and explore eternally, responsibly, because we know what not to do, and not be resentful about being responsible, so we don't start a polarity domino effect in the other realms of existence."

"The Fraction" of Life can be increased in value not so much by increasing your Numerator as by lessening your Denominator. Nay, unless my Algebra deceive me, Unity itself divided by Zero will give Infinity."

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