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Young men giving up on marriage: ‘Women aren’t women anymore’
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No, he is not there because he would rather run the streets and be on drugs than be a father to them.
Even if I hadn't left him, he wouldn't be there for them.
So there is no point to him.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7408542 Well, I have no basis to challenge your description of him as worthless. But you DID make two babies with him so how oould you not have known about him ... Just curious, did you grow up in a two-parent home? Were they both your biological parents? I knew him all of five and had been dating him for three months when our birth control failed. Once I had one child, I wanted another because I don't believe in having one child. Sometimes the only people who can understand what you are going through are your siblings. I gave him way too many chances before I finally gave up. My mom left my Dad when I was 8 yrs old. I was raised by a step father. "A step father". You are not very close to him, he was like a worker at your house. Yes indeed, as a man I would never step into that role. Thankless all around. So your dad was gone, you meet a guy, and as typically happens, a woman who missed her dad (you) wound up with the wrong sort of guy. I am sorry to say it but I see this cycle repeating. No advice here, only that I wish there were some way your kids' dad could become acceptable enough to bring him back. I am lucky because I was raised in an intact family. I am not looking down on you, I am just luckier. Step father is a thankless role while the kids are young. We all love and appreciate him now. He was a very hard worker, still is, in fact. I wish he would grow up, but he is over 40 now and is still doing the same crap he did when he was 20. I can only provide them structure and a good life, they are both over achievers. My oldest is twelve and is in all the advanced AP classes. The youngest is 8 and is in Gifted and Talented classes. I come home to them every night, they have stability. I can't be a father to them though.
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