I have been married for 10 years and I have been faithful to my wife. I love her and she is my best friend which is why I didn't cheat. The problem is that we have such mismatched sexual needs. Before marriage my wife used to perform oral on me quite a bit and we had a good sex life. After marriage within the first year there was a huge change. It seems to me that she did what she needed to do to keep me interested enough to get me to marry her. We have sex only when she is in the mood which is about twice a month. When I try initiating anything she comes up with excuses or complains about it. She recognizes that she has a low libidio and has said that she wishes that mine matched hers. I feel myself drifting and moving more and more away from her and I am not in love with her anymore. She still feels like a best friend, but I find myself frustrated and I am starting to resent her as a wife. What is running through my mind is that I am thinking if leaving her as the temptation to cheat is just becoming so strong. So if you want to keep your man interested in you and your marriage then feed he needs. It is very simple as men express and feel love for their partners through sex. It is what bonds us to you and what makes us move mountains for you. We are simple creatures that way. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28249357
When she is a mess,
tell her she is beautiful.
Play with her hair.
Run the tip of your tongue between her fingers.
If you are reading porn, get rid of it
and tell her it's boring you, because you have her,
and real is the best fantasy.
Buy her little gifts for no reason.
Gaze at her with lust when she's in the shower.
Do a little dance move when you think she's stealing
a glance at you. Like waggle your ass a little.
Remember this. All woman have all the same holes,
headaches, excuses, etc. Why did you want to take hers on
to begin with.
It's not rocket science.