I have slept with a number of men and it never fails to amaze me the ones who consider it not to be cheating if they don't get emotionally involved. "I'll do anything but kiss."

"Oh sure, my dick got sucked, and I might have sucked a dick, but it was only for politeness' sake."

These are your tragic closet cases, men who nowadays would probably come out as gay or bi at a young age, but instead they didn't have an outlet and got married and had a kid. It's like straight married men who go to see a whore, only cheaper.

See the gays (unless they're looking for a bit of a rough customer) will go to a bath house, a den of sodomite evil specifically designed for random encounters with another lecherous Larry. In a bath house you can at least shower, maybe soak in the hot tub, work out a bit, get a drink, fuck some strange, that sort of thing. I know one where at midnight they'll crackle "COCK MEAT SANDWICHES" over the PA at midnight - it's actually commercially prepared meatballs in marinara on a sub roll. I think they get them from CostCo.

There is a bath house in your community, unless you live in a tiny city.

The thing is, bath houses, while being place where men go to have random sex with each other, are well aware of the dangers of STIs and HIV - they provide condoms and lube and often even discrete HIV testing services through local public health units.

Now your adult video booths, you're really flying blind.