CTChick, was Scarlett ever married to Neil?
How come her son has HER maiden name as a surname?

How did such a well-to-do person end up with what appears to be a ne'er-do-well?

Why does the OP have the impression she didn't have money?

She has a 900 acre farm in very expensive per acreage area.
She has had at least two well paying jobs and wrote a hoaky
book trying to capitalize on 9/11.