This Thread is about the fact that women need to realize their lives are really in danger if the man they are with has 'problems.'
Quoting: 13th-Century Oh what so, "don't date psychos"?
No shit Sherlock, you really needed to make this massive thread for that?
But that's not actually what you are saying now is it.
Your thread's title and the content of your first post is at odds with that statement.
Men Have Become PsychoticMen today will not accept rejection. They cannot deal with it.
They will retaliate not only against a woman, but against the couple's children, even against an innocent pet.Your intentions are obvious, so there's no point in trying to dilute your message now, it's men, all men, everywhere.
But STATISTICALLY, more violent crime is man-against-girlfriend... violent crime that requires surgery, rehabilitation, or CREMATION.
Quoting: 13th-Century Is it?
You have data that refutes gender symmetry? Let's see it.
You have data that refutes the Straus & Gelles studies?
You have data the refutes the US Justice Dept findings?
Well instead of regaling us with horror stories like some sensationalist tabloid why don't you start posting some hard data?
So far all you have demonstrated is rampant confirmation bias.
Hard data, let's see the numbers.
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No, I am not backing down on this Thread, which seems to make men super-defensive, and verbally insulting, kicking the ball way out of bounds (ha), instead of examining, like I have, the dynamics of toxic relationships today, and precisely and honestly which
gender bears the responsibility for
killing people in these emotional situations.
Women tend to make 'excuses' for abusive men - it's his job pressures, money problems, he had one too many, whatever.
Everybody will have PROBLEMS, but men now are becoming psychotic - meaning, instead of dealing with their issues, they let inner rage grow inside of them and then act out with totally irrational and disproportionate violence.
Girls and women - beware - It is not safe to risk your life, and that of a child, or a child you might want to give birth to someday, because you want to keep dreaming about a white picket fence somewhere.
You need to do a thorough background check on every man before the first date. Ask him for family, friends, business, and medical references. Take a chaperone along for the first month.
Be sure to tell him that the people in your immediate circle would never tolerate anyone abusing you, and that they mean what they say.
If your would-be new friend backs off, good riddance! If he looks at you with respect and takes your requests seriously, you may have a winner.
STATISTICSThe problem with some statistics out there is that
they group together all instances of domestic violence. So "she slapped his face" gets the same incident frequency as "he tried to strangle her."
But I challenge anyone to face up to
these facts:
Articles I have referenced below include,
but are not limited to, the Wikipedia entry on "Domestic Violence in the United States" (Wikipedia [
link to en.wikipedia.org]
(1)
MURDER STATISTICSReferences"Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs, Home of the Duluth Model". Theduluthmodel.org. [
link to www.theduluthmodel.org] Retrieved 2010-04-26
"CDC - Injury - Intimate Partner Violence Consequences". Cdc.gov. 2009-12-14. [
link to www.cdc.gov] Retrieved 2010-04-26
Catalano, Shannan. 2007. Intimate Partner Violence in the United States. U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics. Available at [
link to www.ojp.usdoj.gov]
"Women are more likely than men to be murdered by an intimate partner.
Of those killed by an intimate partner, about three quarters are female and about a quarter are male. In 1999 in the United States, 1,218 women and 424 men were killed by an intimate partner, and 1,181 females and 329 males were killed by their intimate partners in 2005."
On average
more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States. In 2005, 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner.
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ReferenceA Sociologist’s Perspective on Domestic Violence, A Conversation with Michael Johnson, Ph.D. Theodora Ooms, interviewer. Center for Law and Social Policty (CLASP). Page 3. Retrieved November 20, 2011.
Family Violence Statistics: Including Statistics on Strangers and Acquaintances. 2005. U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics. Available at [
link to www.ojp.usdoj.gov]
"Women are as likely as men to be abusers, however,
women are more likely to be physically injured, require police intervention and become fearful of their mates."
"Women are 84 percent of spouse abuse victims and 86 percent of victims of abuse at the hands of a boyfriend or girlfriend and about
three-fourths of the persons who commit family violence are male."
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Reference [
link to www.ojp.usdoj.gov]
"The National Institute of Justice contends that national surveys supported by NIJ, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and the Bureau of Justice Statistics that
examine more serious assaults do not support the conclusion of similar rates of male and female spousal assaults. These surveys are conducted within a safety or crime context and
clearly find more partner abuse by men against women."
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ReferenceIn-depth study on all forms of violence against women. United Nations, General Assembly. 6 July 2006. Page 48. Retrieved 16 November 2011.
"The United States was one of the countries identified by a United Nations study with a high rate of
domestic violence resulting in death during pregnancy."
Hope this helps.
Looks like the men reading this need more help than the women.
Why am I surprised?
