My Wife Is Going Through The Change. SHE IS ABSOLUTELY BATSHIT CRAZY!

My 52 year old wife is going through the change- she is nuts to live with! I've never seen her so batshit crazy. Any advice from the GLPers who've been through this?

if you are a women ask your grandmother and your mom how old they were when they went through the change mostly likely you will too

Same here...52...NO hot flashes...NO weight gain...NO mood swings...I think UNHEALTHY, overweight, Rx medicated women suffer ALOT more! Two years into it...I'M FINE!

I'm down with all the support/understanding. Really, I sympothize.

But what to do when she screams at me like a lunatic and tells me if I don't leave she'll call the cops? Then when I try to leave (only temporarily to let things calm down) I get screamed at for "walking away". I try to be supportive, tell her I love her and that all will be OK to no avail.

If something doesn't change, she may leave on her own or force me to, even though I've been understanding and supportive.

Nice . . .

I'm down with all the support/understanding. Really, I sympothize.

But what to do when she screams at me like a lunatic and tells me if I don't leave she'll call the cops? Then when I try to leave (only temporarily to let things calm down) I get screamed at for "walking away". I try to be supportive, tell her I love her and that all will be OK to no avail.

If something doesn't change, she may leave on her own or force me to, even though I've been understanding and supportive.

Nice . . .

Hot flashes feel like you just walked in to a sauna. It's part of growing old. But it's not making me go bat shit crazy.

Same here...52...NO hot flashes...NO weight gain...NO mood swings...I think UNHEALTHY, overweight, Rx medicated women suffer ALOT more! Two years into it...I'M FINE!

I want to offer the OP some hope. I am a married female, 48 years old. When it first began to happen to me, I'll never forget it as long as I live. We were in Texas at a wedding and I was 44 years old at the time.

I have always had a difficult time during that time of the month, but this particular month, I felt as though I was going crazy with anger and frustration. It felt like Dr. Jekyll-Mr. Hyde. Every month, it was as though another person jumped into my body.

I went to the GYN and he related stories to me how women would come to him and wonder if they were demon-possessed. He tried to give me an anti-depressant, which is what the entire medical community wants to do - DOPE them up and they'll SHUT UP. Well, I refused it - because I knew in the long run that a drug wouldn't solve the problem. My GYN was no help at all.

Next, he tried to tell me that I have fibromyalgia because, not only did I have mood swings, but for about 8 months when I got out of bed in the morning, my entire body hurt so bad that I almost couldn't walk. Finally, long story short.........after a lot of reading, research, trying different vitamins, etc. This is what worked for me:

1. The #1 thing that helped me is that I have a very loving and understanding husband. We talked about it - I told him how I felt - I bought books about it on Amazon. We openly communicated about it and helped each other through it. He has been through a heart attack as well, so we both must be patient with each other.

2. I found out that since I'm Caucasian, that I was very deficient in B-12. My family doctor told me that a large majority of Caucasians of European descent have a B-12 deficiency. We also found out that my husband was deficient in B-12. Now, he gives us both a B-12 shot every two weeks and we feel 100% better. It has helped my mood swings and my overall feeling of wellness. B-12 is very, very important.

3. I take a multi-vitamin every day, to include the Vitamin D3 supplement, which is highly recommended.

4. I do not drink alcohol, do not smoke, do not drink diet sodas, do not take anti-depressants and I drink a LOT of water. We stay away from most fried foods and try to eat a simple diet without a lot of preservatives.

5. Also, I learned to be very aware of my body. I learned to notice subtle changes. One website that has helped me tremendously is this:

[link to www.power-surge.com]

This has been a lifesaver and it allowed me to see that I was not going crazy. Women can have up to 34 symptoms, even during peri-menopause. I'm not through it yet, but the symptoms are so much better. The B-12 is a major factor. I can't stress this enough.

My doctor told me that if a woman is low on B-12 and if she has blood sugar problems (Type 2 Diabetes or Hypoglycemia), that it will "make her as mean as an alley cat". (a quote from my doctor) Why? Because your chemicals are basically screwed up, for lack of a better term. Your blood sugar is not level, and that really affects a lot of people. My mom is a Type 2 diabetic, and if her blood sugar gets too high, she could argue the horns off of a billy goat.

I highly recommend a lab test for your wife to test her B-12 and to check her blood sugars as well. There is help for this, but communication, reading, research and self-awareness are a HUGE part of it. Please tell her you love her - allow her to cry on your shoulder - she is not crazy - it's a miserable time - just be there for her.

One more thing: Find a hobby that you both enjoy together. For me and my husband, we LOVE nature photography. Now, we have our own photography website, and when I feel these hormone issues begin, I have something that really helps to distract me. I hope this helps.

Last GF went through it. Dry as a desert. Hated sex. Buh-bye. End of story.

52 in great shape, no RX crap, and batshit crazy too. I do not get it, I cry over beer commercials for no reason. I was always the strong stable one. Now I can not remember my phone # or how to spell my name half the time and had to change my glasses three times last year and still can not see my food.

To the judgmental bitchy snob who blamed it on being unhealty, fat and drugs, you sound more crazy than the ones you judged, you are just too crazy to see it. Menopause war LOL.

And for the sex cure / treatment, you would have to be brave, well armed and stupid to try it at this time. I told my old man to go find a younger model for the weekend. You just do not feel sexy after not sleeping for two weeks. The insomnia alone will drive you crazy.

My sympathy too all of us and our loved ones and the innocent bystanders in the crossfire LOL